Women often say you should court them like a perfect gentleman. That's "the way things are supposed to be done."

I think that this is a screening method. Guys who actually "follow the way things are supposed to be done" have shown themselves to have a low value mindset. They care about rules, they don't think outside the box. Not exciting.

Exciting guys ignore social conventions and use what works for them. That's what makes them exciting. They pass the screening by not following the rules laid out in the screening.

I think that all the recent fishing threads are swirling around this basic idea.