What I mean is, to give your partner a good experience, it’s much harder for men than for women. For men, we’re expected to be skilled. We should know how to use our mouth and hands, we should know how use angles, we should know errogenous zones to stimulate her body, we should know how to be dominant, we should be very good at nonverbal communication, we should know not to cum too soon because we want to take care of hers, the list goes on.

On top of that, there’s a lot of variance between women. Every man can orgasm if you tug on him enough. But one I slept with loved clitoral orgasm and couldn’t cum any other way, then another didn’t care for clitoral stuff and preferred PIV, then another wanted her hips kissed while she was fingered to cum. That last one was way out there but it illustrates the point that you’re not likely to find a man who can’t orgasm from a tug, but there’s no guarantee that things that have been good before, will be enjoyed by this woman.

By in large, though, men generally will be thrilled with a woman so long as she is enthusiastic. Everything else is icing on the cake.

It’s my belief that sex is more of a challenge to men and more of an experience to women. Men are challenged to give the woman a good experience. And this makes sense because, as is often said, sperm is cheap and the female orgasm isn’t necessary for reproduction.

This extends further back to when a man wants to get a woman’s attention in the first place. He has to be physically attractive to her, as well as demonstrating to her he’s interesting beyond the looks. Women, on the other hand, most often just need to pass the low bar for looks.

If a woman doesn’t orgasm during sex, it’s assumed that it’s the man’s fault or deficiency was the cause.

There’s also the test of whether you measure up or not. Most men will for most women, but I still think it’s worth mentioning that generally speaking there’s no reveal of a naked part of the body that can cause as much anxiety as penis size. You can be too big or too small for her.

So the man has to initiate contact, a man has to charm/convince/seduce (whatever word you wanna use. He has to make her want to have sex with him) her, then he has to have the technical skills to satisfy her.

These would be forgivable for women, but it’s shameful for men.

I’m open to having my view changed, but this is what I think based on personal and anecdotal observations.