Stoicism. In English seems to be synonymous to 'not showing emotions'. But it is not exactly correct. its real meaning, as said in the philosophy in ancient Greece, can be summarized in:

to control 'destructive/counterproductive emotions', have a rational/clear mind to understand the world as it really is and to determine your own path.

My point is that many groups (which I will not name) demonize stoicism in men and culture, imagining that the world would be better if men and people in general abandoned it. more precisely they say people should:

  • show their emotions more,
  • take emotion into consideration when analyzing the world,
  • let themselves go from the 'will to control' (including here DETERMINATION *undertale pun* nyehehe).

Yet I find that this idea clashes with some aspects of the male biology, which makes those men incredibly dangerous to them and others, namely they are:

  • Men usually have a one-track mind,
  • Men usually have higher quantities of the feelings of sex drive and anger when felt.

You see, to think and to feel are 2 different things. To think and reject counterproductive/destructive feelings at the same time is not easy to men and can lead to errors, biases, falacies and counterproductive thoughts, men have a one-track mind, you can not exactly avoids these errors if you don't clear your mind of feelings which clutter the correct thought process. unlike the interconnected female brain, a man's brain is like a single railroad, potent and strong, but if things such as feelings clutter the rails, it can lead to the 'derailment' of the 'train of thought' which can conduct to disaster (pun very much intended).

Also, men have increased testosterone, the sexual/violence drive hormone in mammals (more precisely the hormones of these aspects are derived from it). If a man is not wary of their own emotions they can easily be overwhelmed by them and act against their and society's best interest, for example, sex is such strong desire to men that it comes right after survival for most. Using emotion to your day to day can be a danger to these men or those around him if he doesn't only have difficulty avoiding derailment by his emotions, but he also have way more feelings to deal with.

Finally, those men cannot get a correct path to life as feelings are in the way not only in the planing to self determination but also in its methodology, being a rock in the shoes of men to achieve what they intend.

TL,DR:

Stoicism for men has a reason to be in the sexual market place. But it also has a reason to be in all aspects of men lives. Feelings are not only a bother to men. They are a danger to themselves, their resources and others because of their innate biology. To reject the useless ones is to help them in society and in life as a whole.

What do you guys think?

EDIT: I am talking about the philosophy of stoicism, not the English dictionary definition. Which is wrong.

EDIT²: being more explicit. More puns.