I dated a girl for approximately 6-7 months. Red flags but she was my first love so ignored every single one of them she was also above average looking and crazy in bed (probably a red flag in itself lol).. she was also a good gf to me (up until the very end);
This is how the break up occurred:
- Girl decides to break up with me
- I get upset about it but go no contact
- She gets angry and wants me to keep talking to her, i crave in.. she wants us to go back to "dating"
- At the time i didn't really understand what she meant
- We keep hanging out and having sex and even see a move together (as if we were together)... she keeps telling me how she wants to see me next month and do X AND Y.
- Then i see she posted a story at someones house and i get suspicious. I do some digging and link the house to a guy who liked her picture on instagram. I message the guy and he said he invited her over for sex a few times.
- I'm fucking devastated, here i am messaging her each day asking how her day was like a boyfriend whilst some random just asks her to come over and fucks him... WTF!!
- I call her out on this...
- She tells me she is actually dating someone else (not the guy she slept with) but someone else... a different guy! She doesn't apologies or anything just says to me "well now you know"
- i lose my shit.. not gonna lie. i wish i had the strength/balls to just delete/block but i reacted badly.
Okay so in hindsight we had broken up at the time... so maybe i overreacted but i loved the girl and she completely lead me on and kept me around whilst she slept with randoms and then monkey branched to another guy (all in the space of a month after breaking up).
But i was absolutely traumatized for such a long time. How she completely discarded me like i was nothing.. like the time we spent together (i understand it wasn't long) meant nothing?. I mean I cared for the girl i am a Human being, when i asked her how her day was i genuinely meant it?
I'm not going to lie this destroyed me mentally for a very very long time. It pretty much took me 15-16 months to kinda get over it... i guess to reach the point i don't feel so angry or furious about it.
You know what rustles me a bit... the fact that for the first time in a long time i checked her social media and she seems happy living her life not a care in the world , dating men and sleeping around and here i was for 16 months crying, grieving, getting angry, feeling broken.
I'm really scared to ever have a relationship again tbh or even get close to a girl again (serious).
I feel like the pain is gone now and the memories are gone but it still kinda hurts and makes me never want to go through that again .
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