I grew up as a young african american women. I had a dad and mom who were both heavily involved in my life. My mom made sure I only went to private school and my dad made sure I could cook and clean. However, my parents did not have a good marriage. Like most black women, my mom was taught to disrespectful towards men. They were taught that men were useless and dumb. My mom would yell, beat, and put my dad down at any opportunity that she had. My Dad side of the family wasn't better, he was raised in a women dominated family. The women brought home most of the money and put down the men constantly. The only thing men are good for is reproduction was my grandmother favorite thing to say. That was how I saw marriage, but even when I was young I thought this isn't right. I saw how sad my mom made my dad. By the time I got into middle school my mom started to change she started encourage my dad and as a result he slowly went from being a beta to being more alpha. However, she was never able to let go of the idea that is instilled in so many women of the black community. At that time, I decided that I would not treat the men in my family like the women did.
Then I came across an article Five reason to not date a black girl. As I read through this list I was not offending at all because this wasn't me. I was never loud, or rude, or a man hater, and I was definitely not sleeping around. For once in my life the traits I held so deeply ingrained in myself was actually praised. In high school, everyone made fun of me for having a soft disposition. I never tried to be one of the guys I could sew, cook, and dress myself up. though I was never the super girly type I valued my feminine traits. Something that is really frowned upon in the black community. My own father told me he hated how submissive I was to my boyfriend.
I just wanted to share this because, I have grown so much since discovering Redpill in high school. I am in a committed relationship and wouldn't have been if I had held on to the ideas of my community. In addition if it wasn't for Redpill reaffirming my thoughts I might have become just another stereotype.
tldr: Thank you! For reaffirming my ideas about male and female dynamics. Especially since I was raised in a community that look down on women who are submissive.
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