Could use a little reinforcement here. Broke up with an LTR two weeks ago. Whatever no big deal. Reasons for breakup / background info aren’t really relevant to this post.

I’m better off without her and didn’t even necessarily even want to be in the relationship in the first place. Was more of a test drive to practice LTR frame / game during covid.

Been seeing one new girl and in the process of spinning up new plates. I’ve gone no contact with ex-LTR and feeling good about my abundance; however, there’s one specific exception.

I spent months prepping and training my ex-LTR for anal. By the end, she loved it and it was a nice little spice of variety in my sex life.

The issue is I’m experiencing a bit of scarcity mentality when it comes to anal. It’s not like I don’t think I’ll ever be able to find someone who’s down for it again.

That said, I know it will probably take months to go through that prepping and training process with someone who’s never done it before, and typically the type of girls I see haven’t.

How should I think about this? How should I fight off scarcity mentality on this specific issue? Like I don’t want to get back together with my ex, but I do want to rail out her ass again lol.

Except I feel weak and beta for even having those thoughts. And it’s exasperated by the fact I know I probably could get her to smash again without commitment by making the first move, but I don’t want to do that for obvious reasons.

Any tips, advice or pointers to address my scarcity mentality on this issue? Thanks lads.