Okay so this is not by Barney Stinson, but it is inspired by him. I am currently watching How I Met Your Mother and think its really interesting for someone familiar with TRP.
I noticed that he'll walk up to an attractive woman and once she tells him she's 30 or older, he literally turns on his heel and leaves, without saying a single word. 😅
I think this is super interesting. I imagine the reason for this is that she's already hit the wall in his head. But the thing is, he already found her attractive. So it's not necessarily a physical wall they've hit. So why does he not want to sleep with them (because lets face it, that's all he wanted?) despite the fact that he's clearly attracted to her?
Disclaimer: Now, I am not denying that The Wall is 99% physical. I get that and I can see it in the mirror as I wave goodbye to my 20s. However, I do think there are other tell tale signs that you've hit The Wall, that are not related to your physical appearance. This may have been covered extensively elsewhere on this sub, so please do let me know - my intention is not to reinvent the wheel here.
I think the following can indicate you've hit The Wall psychologically:
- Jaded: Do you automatically assume the worst of everyone? If you get approached by the likes of Barney, is your immediate reaction a horrible scowl and some angry words? I am not advocating for being a plate, but can you at least respond with warmth and a sense of humour? Or is your response automatically "ew, get away."?
- Prude: Are you so concerned about being a lady in the streets that your aura/vibe and general demeanour is that of a stern librarian rather than a fun - loving Goddess of Fun day in and day out? Were you "freakier" in the bedroom when you were younger!?
- The Plan / Time line? Are you so fixated on your Timeline and Perfect Plan for your life, that you forget to stop and smell the roses and live your life?
- Responsibilities: Are you so engrossed by Getting Shit Done that you forget to just chill every now and then and pamper yourself? When was the last time you took a full DAY to pamper yourself? Once a month I declare a Pamper Saturday and get my hair cut & dyed, do my nails/toes, do my brows, face mask, and will spend the whole day with a thick layer of whatever moisturiser I am using. I work out on this day. I might bake brownies on this day. I wear lingerie and have sex on this day. Obviously I do these things throughout the month as well but setting aside a selfish 'me' day once a month means that once a month I fully recharge my feminine energy and enjoy a full day of doing fun feminine things.
I think it is largely to do with your mentality as well, not just your appearance. I also think a woman hits the wall when she no longer has that trusting naivety that comes with being inexperienced with dating.
What do you think? Is The Wall purely physical? What other non-physical characteristics indicate someone has hit The Wall?
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