Please, I am here to discuss and hear from all sides. Keep things civil, do not insult me or make ridiculous accusations at me like calling me a rapist or anything.

Preface

I recently made this post on askwomen, a very open-minded and tolerant sub of which I'm sure we are all very familiar with. Its not necessary to read it, but do so if you wish. I asked about what character judgements they'd make of a man who pays a prostitute for sex in a legal, safe, and regulated brothel. It goes about as well as you'd expect.

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In short: if you pay for sex, even in the safest, most regulated circumstances where the woman is working willingly, you're still literally a rapist. I don't know what goes through their heads, but I'll let them dwell in their hivemind.

Now

Preamble

We all know various sorts of men pay for sex. Often times, these are men who simply cannot get sex. Either they are too ugly, too socially awkward, don't have time, for whatever reason. For many people, the alternative is a lifetime of virginity, so they have sex the only way they can, by paying.

Now, how is this different from picking up a woman at a bar? I believe personally, its not really that much different to a one night stand.

In a one night stand, you sleep with a woman you barely know because she likes your face, she likes your body, she likes your personality or whatever.

In a brothel, you sleep with a woman because she likes your wallet.

Is there much of a difference? I don't think so. We all go by our lives in many different ways, using a mixture of our personality, looks, and finances. Those who lack in one department sometimes make up for it in the other.

After all, is paying directly for sex really that different from buying jewellery for a woman to get her to blow you, or paying for an expensive dinner and her fucking you afterwards as a "thankyou"? Its merely an exchange on which you both agree on.

Women having casual sex

Now, with women, we know prostitution options for women aren't as available as they are for men. However, women can still easily get sex. For a woman at a bar or night club, she doesn't have to try hard to get a night of meaningless sex with just about any horny guy there.

This is the female's option to pursue casual carefree sex.

For men, its much harder. For more good looking men, sure, they can go to bars and pick up women. For uglier men however, this isn't an option.

So what do men do when they lack in the physical department? They compensate with their wallets.

Prostitutes are basically the ugly man's means of having casual carefree sex and one night stands. He compensates for his lack of good looks with his wallet. In the end, its the same effect, either the woman is casually fucking you cause she likes your face, or she's casually fucking you cause she likes your wallet.

The hypocrisy

Why are casual sex and going to see a prostitute seen as so vastly different things? Especially when it comes to how much we're allowed to judge each.

When a man who wants casual free sex pays for it, he's disgusting, he's dirty, he's a misogynist, according to askwomen he's also a rapist. They say he is worse than scum.

This is all discounting the given fact that most women would automatically rule out being in a relationship with such a guy.

Now women who do the women's version of "seeing a prostitute" i.e. having casual sex but paying with their tits rather than with their wallets, are basically the same as Johns. They enjoy casual meaningless carefree sex without strings, and they pay for it using the easiest means available to them. For men, its with their wallet. For women, its with their tits or whatever, giving sex in return.

Now when a woman goes about having loads of casual free sex using the easiest method available to her, we're not allowed to judge her. We're not allowed to say she's a bad person, we're not allowed to say she's disgusting, we're not allowed to say she's filthy or whatever.

We have to respect her decisions, she's strong, she's liberated, whatever.

When a man has casual free sex the easiest way available to him, through his wallet, its okay to make all these character judgements about him, that he's disgusting, filthy, etc.

So why the hypocrisy?

Why is it okay to make character judgements in one scenario but not the other?

Please discuss.