I believe RPWives are entirely mistaken about the value of a man who would willingly marry. Unless he is marrying into money (a rich woman or her family name), there is obviously no real benefit to marriage for men.

Some common pro-marriage tropes that are false:

  • Marriage is important if you want custody of your kids. - Having children, your parental rights are identical as the rights you would have as a legal guardian (in the USA), unless you lose your guardianship - which can happen in divorce, so marriage is not a protection against losing your kids.

  • Marriage is important if you want the kids to share your last name. - This is false. If a woman agrees to naming the kids with your last name, you may do that. If she doesn't agree, you have a bad woman on your hands, and marriage wouldn't fix that.

  • Marriage is required for high-class society. Many in high class positions are either unmarried or divorced. Marriage is neither sufficient to create a higher-class, nor required to become higher-class.

  • Marriage is safer for STDs. Anybody can cheat at any time, marriage, LTR, or otherwise.

The Truth about marriage:

  • A man who is high value is not only attracive, but undoubtedly astute, intelligent and has either the potential for earning money, or has already gotten a sum of money. A man who is high value and therefore astute must intrinsically understand the nature of what is and is not in his best interest. If he cannot determine what is in his best interest, he cannot be astute, and therefore is not a high-value man.

  • A man who is attractive but does not have these other qualities must be less optimal and therefore cannot be as high of value as the man who has these qualities, as the comparison of the two will clearly show one has a distinct advantage over the other in access to provisions as well as genes to pass on to children.

  • A man who understands what is in his best interest would not sign a business partner agreement that required responsibility from only one of the two members, while awarding the secondary partner sums of money if he walked away from his obligations.

  • Likewise, a man who understands what is in his best interest would not be willing to sign unconscionable contracts that can be unilaterally disposed of by either of the two other parties (wife or state), especially in the case that this contract promises cash prizes for the other party if the unilateral decision is made.

  • A woman does not respect a man over which she has power. If she has ultimate power over a man, he cannot be considered alpha, as he is subservient to her.

  • A marriage puts a women in a position of power over her husband by giving her unilateral control over ending the marriage with great financial risk and consequence to the husband. A marriage requires a man to continue providing for a woman, while simultaneously putting zero responsibility (providing sex) on the woman.

  • Because a marriage puts a woman in a position of power over her husband, she cannot respect that man, or, if she does have respect, it must be known that the level of respect for a man that she hold power over must be less so to a man that she holds no power over.

  • Because of these truths, it must then be surmised that a man who would agree to a marriage must not be one who is considered high value (astute, intelligent and money), nor one who understands what is in his best interest. Therefore, a man who would agree to marriage must be sub-optimal when compared to a man who is high value, attractive, and understands what is in his best interest.

  • Therefore, marriage is not an optimal strategy to find a high-value man.

Change my view.