Criticizing women will always give you more backlash, there is a protectiveness our society has of women. By default they are assumed to be in the right, more innocent, given the benefit of the doubt, and aren't viewed with the critical cynicism the average man is. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction, this means men get the opposite of all the effects I listed earlier to an unfair level.

Part 1: Protective of women's feelings

I browse /r/askmen and /r/askwomen regularly. I was looking through a thread once on the latter asking "how often do you get asked out?" and most answers said only a few times a year. I was thinking about making a comment, in jest, that maybe its because the women here are ugly or otherwise unappealing (I was going to word it in a more comedic way but whatever).

I didn't, but then it got me thinking. It seems like a total douchey thing to say right? What an asshole. Then it hit me. I could totally make a comment like that about the guys in /r/askmen. I could be 10x more mean about it too and get away with it, people would laugh and/or sorrowfully recognize the truth of it.

I remember reading a thread on /r/askwomen where a guy was asking how to overcome his social anxiety. A couple girls approached him to ask him to prom (lucky fuck) and he just kinda ignored them and walked away out of nervousness. The girls in the comment section were like stern no nonsense dads. I sensed not even a hint of pity in it, they told him he was rude and his anxiety didn't excuse it. I can't help but think that the OP would've been met with more sympathy if the genders were reversed. I mean, a bunch of guys getting the cold shoulder when they ask someone out? (Joker voice) its all part of the plan. She would've had to ignored the guys, keyed their car, driven to their houses, and beaten their terminal ill fathers to death with his own oxygen tank, to get that stern of treatment.

Calling a women fat will be declared, officially, a crime against humanity by the United Nations at this rate. Hell, even saying you won't date a girl because of weight is looked at with a certain disgust. Women can totally say they don't want to date a short guy though, they can spit on short guys all they want. I can't comment "this comment section is starting to smell like cats and purple hair dye" even if its getting way too SJW-ey. I can comment "this section is starting to smell like axe and desperation" even if the comment section is just harmlessly discussing warhammer 40k. I can just continue to name countless examples like this

-A man saying a woman should shave her legs is the mark of a douchecanoe on the internet. All those "look at this piece of work" photoshops showing how much of a loser a guy on OKcupid is will show that he agrees with that statement. How dare he? Do you think anyone would care if a woman would flat out demand that men shave their neck/nose/ear hair?

-the "doghouse" exists at all. Its so mind boggling to me how controlling women can be of their men without anyone caring. Its common for men to hide so many things from their girlfriends. The only thing I've ever seen a woman feeling the need to hide from her SO is her cheating on him. How often I've seen relationships where women seem to have them on leashes and no one cares, "demanding" things of them (actually using the word demand and command). Looking back I know everyone would've freaked out like "holy shit dude what year is it? cool it" if the genders were reversed. My uncle had a girlfriend that would stomp on his toes with her high heels under the table when she wanted him to shut up. She clawed his back up majorly several times, once it looked like a racoon got at him. If the genders were reversed he wouldn't have gotten away with a shove or slight slap. How can people be so insistent that the traditional idea of patriarchy is what we have? How many men in Saudi Arabia are worried about the doghouse or what their wife forbids them to do? Women get the doghouse in those countires, and its not sleeping downstairs on the couch, its probably an actual small shed in the backyard with a leesh and a foodbowl with their name on it.

-I constantly hear rants from women that men these days are immature boys, shadows of what they should be (not complaining I agree with this sentiment, not saying I'm better, father said I was a waste of skin and I can't help but agree). I often talk about a behavior I notice in men that annoys me; how possessive they are. Even if the guy dumps her, he'll just hate a guy that dares flirts with her afterwards. You see, I can make a comment like that about guys. I have some sentiments like that towards women, and I couldn't even get past "I hate it when women-" before me getting bombarded. And funny enough, I have less opinions like that against women and they're generally less critical.

-In a few "confession" type threads on /r/askwomen there are several women that admit they find it unbecoming of men to be emotional or weak willed or meek. I couldn't ever get away with saying I find it unbecoming for a woman to be in charge, having a leading position, and they'd eat my spleen if I said I don't like women being promiscuous. I don't have those sentiments, but it bothers me that there is the slant here. I could maybe make those confessions on 4chan or some parts of reddit, but in a lot of the internet AND IRL I'd get torn apart.

My examples are out there, I know it seems that way. I could name tons of more IRL examples. But there is a reason why I'm using online examples like this that will become a factor in part 3.

Part 2: Equal and opposite reaction against men

I feel like this naturally comes with a more critical look at men that I feel is unfair.

Even in the most progressive "sex positive" parts of the internet I catch whiffs of anti straight male sentiment, even if subtle.

I remember being at a school dance years ago and a group of girls were just outside the school and one of them was shaking excitedly saying "BOYSSSS". I just laughed it off. Now its got me thinking. I can't help but feel that a group of guys saying "Lot of hot chicks here" wouldn't be met with a groan at best.

I remember looking at a thread on /r/askwomen where a girl was asking how to deal with a certain situations. In English class the teacher was going over romeo and juliet or some shit and asked the class what your ideal mate would be like. The boys were talking about hour glass figure, great body, stuff like that. She said it made her feel so uncomfortable. And all the girls in the comment section put on that stern tone I mentioned earlier. The teacher needed to whip em into shape and keep them on task, its sooooooo inappropriate. I remember in literature class junior or senior year we were reading streetcar named desire. My teacher talked about seeing the play and saying the guy walking around playing Stanley on shirt was "nice eyecandy" and commented on how hot marlon brando's 6 pack looked on the cover of our books. Everyone laughed, I didn't mind it. Do you think /r/askwomen would put up a fuss about this? Do you think the teacher could get away with this if the genders were reversed? I doubt it. SOMEONE would complain and then the guy would have his genitals fed to him, "PERVERT" would be carved onto his infant son's chest before hes flung by a catapult into a brick wall in retribution, then he'd get fired.

-Saying "cunt" cant turn the room against you like you're shouting "HEIL FUCKING HITLER" in a jewish nursing home. I understand that white people often make ignorant comments like "they can say cracker but I cant say nigger wtf". But cunt is just a generic epithet for a woman, no generations of pain there, yet cunt has a huge weight to it. Dick is the equivalent for a man and it carries no weight at all. This speaks volumes

-Remember that huge incident about that guy asking out some famous feminist in an elevator? Do you think anyone would've given a fuck if it was a girl asking out another girl? I doubt they'd care if it was the scariest, most physically imposing bear asking out the softest 100lb twink.

I don't think a lot of people will disagree with me that girls feelings are far more protected and people are more critical of men. I suspect the most disagreement will come into part 3

Part 3: Patriarchy isn't all to blame, feminism isn't the answer

This is where I explain why I used so many internet examples. You see /r/askwomen is more gender equality conscious and tumblr-ey than mainstream society, more than most women. If they feel this way, its enough to show that it isn't just "patriarchy". You cant just shift the blame on men even when you benefit this time (talk about having your cake and eating it too). They're leading the charge and taking advantage of this advantage. Women having a mass protest against beauty standards by destroying scales is praised by mainstream society, only mocked on image boards full of neckbeards. Imagine a bunch of men getting together to burn rulers? Would be laughed out of town.

"Sexist" went from thinking women inferior to men, thinking they NEED to fulfill certain roles, to any opinion relating to gender at all that a lot of girls don't like for whatever reason. The very existence of subs like /r/gonewild and /r/gentlemenboners are commonly referred to as examples of reddit's anti women-ness. Do you see how little a man can do without being guilty of something? How much would a woman have to do to be considered by everyone to be anti man? This somewhat resembles the unfair suspicion blacks get from law enforcement.

I always get into arguments like this and people always point out how some things are unfair against women. I understand that those exist and they are problems. The difference is people give a shit about inequalities to girl's detriment, and a lot of them are to a point where people hesitate to say them out loud, whos going to flat out say women shouldn't be in charge? Not fucking many. A woman saying shes scared to go out at night because men, perfectly fine (replace women with white people and men with black people in that sentence and see how fucked up it sounds). I see things getting better for women in the future, because people give a fuck about their hurt feelings. Bill Maher put into words what I've felt is true my whole life, our culture is about "making women nod" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lCOUG3a-Grs I see people only becoming more critical of men in the future, newton's third law

P.S: This is indeed a repost, I'm bringing it to a more appropriate sub