What you gift a woman today becomes an expectation tomorrow, and an entitlement thereafter.

Inspired by the recent relationshits thread about making your woman fall in love with you again. The top (entirely predictable) response was by doing all the chores, telling her you love her, then give her a back and foot rub while cuddling in a candle-lit room.

I can imagine such effort working. Once.

But the next day, when you're looking forward to some more sex, but haven't done the dishes...

Such efforts are a waste, because if you're not giving her 'gina tingles, you're not fixing the underlying problem.

Advice like "Surprise her with something romantic and unexpected to show how much you care", is counter productive. Because if you stop doing it, she's not going to think "I still love him because of all the things he used to do for me", she'll think "why isn't he still doing those things for me?"

What you gift a woman today becomes an expectation tomorrow, and an entitlement thereafter.

Women want to have sex with people they're attracted to. If you've got a deadbedroom, accept that it's your fault. Then work on yourself to fix it. Stop having the carbonara and start having the lean steak and vegies. Stop watching the box and start lifting heavy shit over and over. And over again. Keep doing that. It's hard, but it works.