My husband just started a very stressful new jump in his career as a professor and I'm a stay at home mother to our one year old child. I'm very much struggling to not be the stereotypical "exhausted mom that just complains when her husband gets home". I can tell it's wearing on him and his self esteem - he said last night that he can't imagine having more kids because he can't do much more to help me and it seems like I need more of his help. Looking after a baby is exhausting, but I feel like I'm failing as a wife to provide a sanctuary for my husband. I know that step one is I need to stop complaining to him throughout the day and immediately when he gets home and maybe save it for if he asks, but aside from that, can anyone offer any advice? Thanks!