When it comes to asking out girls in your church, fellowship, or Christian circle, I've heard this:
"Ask out too many girls and you will be seen as desperate and they will talk about you as desperate."
Is this really true if you are attractive though? Yes, I know the girls will talk to each other and they will know who you've asked out. But if you are a catch and know that you are a catch, does it really matter? How are you defining "too many girls"? Should it matter how long between asking out different people? If they are mature enough, they would realize that a first date doesn't mean much; it is getting to know the person better.
Also, it would seem hypocritical that they would label you as desperate, yet complain that Christian guys aren't stepping up or asking them out.
Want to hear your thoughts about this.
Edit: I have asked out 3 different girls in one of my Christian circles over the course of 2 years. I was never been initially rejected by them, but never got to a coffee date with them. I know that for two of them, it was because another guy was talking to them beforehand, and they didnt want to be talking to multiple people. Doesnt phase me though. I know who I am.
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