Whats up kings.

I might as well tell the entire story, because I find it funny and sad. So there is this dude I became friends with freshman year of college, he is a intelligent guy, bisexual and a bit socially inept since he is born with a hearing disorder and that harmed his social development as a child. Over the years I invited him to parties, hung out at school and showed him how to stand up for himself. He is a nice guy, a thinker, but not much of a "man", to put it like that. He always gets these Nietzsche-like ONEITIS'es where he never makes a move, but prefers to wallow in his own misery of unrequited love. Some of them have actually been interested in him, but since he does not make a move, it falls through unless SHE makes a move, which happened once with his ONEITIS.

Over the years I have felt some sort of resentment towards me from this dude. I treat him with respect, and I enjoy his intellectual capacity, we have good conversations. But he has some sort of barrier towards me. If I give him advice at something i'm very good at that he is a novice at, he won't listen at all, but rather do the opposite. But if one of our other friends tell him the exact same thing, he will listen. This is regarding everything. From women, finance, school, lifting and gaming. When there is something he is knowledgeable about, I atleast consider it.

So, to get to the point. A few years back he was working in a kindergarden. He is at the time, 26 and starts telling me he is having a flirt with the leader of the kindergarden. She is a married women of 35 with 3 children and a betabux lawyer-husband. It seems innocent and I doubt he has the balls to do anything, but I tell him to be careful, cause it could ruin his employment.

He says she is quitting after the summer, and so is he. This romance carries on for 4 months, no touching, no kissing, no fucking. Only a tense adventure. At the end of the kindergarden-year and start of the summer- vacation, she arranges a summer-party/going away party. Of course to finally fuck my friend, the Disney-levels are in overdrive. What happens, happens and I tell him good for him that you are both quitting cause everyone has noticed.

3 months passes, he stops bringing her up, so I ask "Whats up?".

She has divorced her betabux-provider, is now in a relationship with my friend and claims "He makes her feel like ME again". Oh holy mother of god.

That is 3 years ago, and they are still together, and she wants a baby with him. For her age, she is a 5/10. I dropped some Redpill-stuff on him a while ago, saying that you are in your prime, why spend it with a 36 year old mombie with 3 kids. He agrees with everything, fast forward 2 weeks and he gives me the cold shoulder.

Then it all comes for a day, he is not sure he wants to be my friend anymore, and of course says that he told her everything I told him. I call him a gigantic pussy for not standing up for himself when we had this conversation, instead of defending him women, he agreed to everything. And now it suddenly has changed?

We put it behind us, but I honestly don't know why the fuck I bothered. Should I even give a fuck about this dude?

He seems resentful, fake and not worthy of a normal male friendship. Honestly, he acts a bit like a chick. But it is a friendship that has been going for almost 10 years.

The other dude: This dude is a great dude, I view him as a brother, he is there for me whenever shit goes down and I for him. His problem though, is that his mother was abusive to him and his siblings. His older brother is the kind of dude to not pick up the phone when buddies call, but when a chick he was friends with 10 years ago call to ask him to help with moving furniture, he is out of the door faster than you can say "cucked". I often joke that he would be the biggest player and the best bro you can have, if he treated his friends like he treats chicks, and treats chicks like he treats his friends.

So, my homie isn't that bad. He is always there when you need him, his issue is that whenever he gets in a relationship, he is gone. He will never initiate a hang-out, he will never contact you, he will never do shit. Unless you initiate. He is always down to play video-games, but I quit that shit and weed ages ago. (He is a regular stoner with his GF). If I try to get him to join a activity, he will always say that sounds great, gets hyped, but never follow through. The conversation are mostly the same, I have to lead them, tell stories, history, facts and steer the topics. A couple of times I have just shut up, to see what happens when he has to lead, but he never breaks the silence or goes to his one conversational topic "Tesla".

His first girlfriend was a abusive mess, cheated on him regularly, she went out with her whore friends, while he sat at home like a nice boy, while she got sloppy drunk at the clubs. A couple of times I met her out on town, she was always comatose, so I call him up and tell him whats going on, but they didn't break up, even though she overdosed on pills probably 10 times as a scream for attention. MESSED up. Finally, they break up, and I try to redpill him while I can, he starts dating a cool chick and it seems quite normal. Then he tells me one day, he has been fucking his ex on the down low. He bought some regret-pills (idk what its called) and gives it to her the day after. She puts it under her tongue, and WOOPS, she is pregnant. He offers her 10,000 dollars, but she declines and keeps the child. He is now fucked.

I think, finally, the lesson he needs. Nop. A few years later he starts dating a club-sloot many of my friends has fucked. One time, she fucked one dude, took a cab to another friend of mine and fucked him as well. He didn't care. This chick is fucked in a different manner. She has tested positive for "Borrelia", which basically means she can claim any illness at any time, and it can't be refuted. After 3 weeks of dating, she moves in with him. I tell him to slow down, enjoy her company but be careful "Even your half brother has fuked her", she is a leech. He almost ends our friendship on the spot, claiming they have something special and that I should go fuck myself. I say okey, I won't mention it again. We end up working together for a while, and when we are away on business, he gets daily phone calls from her, yelling at him, claiming he is cheating, so on and so forth. Did I forget to mention she ONLY has male friends? And she invited them over to "her" place to hangout, both with him there and not? Its crazy. They have been together for 3 years, and this chick of course hates me, since she knows I know, and he has told her what I told him.

Both of these guys, I considered very good friends in the past, but as the times passes, I honestly don't know why I bother. 10 years of friendship is a lot to give up, even though things are different. All my hobbies and interests are different from theirs now. I've been lifting for 5 years, I read a lot, always have, and enjoy my hobbies. I dont drink or smoke anymore. Only psyhedelics once a year for mental health, while they seem to just be comfortable with these wrecks of girlfriends. I want my friends to live life to the fullest, but it seems that I care more for their success in life than they do.

Over the years, I have gotten other friends, I have bros for the gym, I have bros for mountain-climbing, I have my sales-dudes, I have my finance-guys, but these two were always just there for "life" you know. But lately, I don't respect them, I don't find them interesting and I feel sorry for them, for being content with the current situations. I feel like a dick, for considering to just say "fk em". Because I envisioned us all to "make it". Whats good being rich and successful if you got no one to lift up?

TLDR: Should I still give a fuck about my chumpy friends, do the 10 years matter? Because I honestly can't see them changing, listening or trying.