There's a thread over in /r/relationships in which a woman says that she did the following:

  • went on a first date with a guy she met online

  • learns he's a convicted murderer

  • takes him back to her house for sex

  • has unprotected sex with him

Then after all of that, she regrets it. She makes multiple excuses for her behavior, but even she admits that this was stupid. You can imagine what the TRP interpretation of this is: that some part of her wanted risky sex with a dangerous man. I'm not here to ask your opinion on the TRP interpretation.

My question for the forum is, why are blue-pillers so quick to absolve her of any responsibility? Here's the thread in /r/thebluepill. They say that she was "violated" and that he's a "creepy manipulative ex-convict" - except that at no time did he lie to her or threaten her or misrepresent himself in any way. After they had sex, he becomes "clingy" (his crime is texting her, "hey gorgeous") and only then when she's no longer attracted to him, does she have second thoughts.

She was on board for everything up to and including sex, in spite of her excuses. So why can't blue pillers allow themselves to criticize her??