Hello everyone,

Just briefly, I have always been interested in self-improvement and dating. Note that I'm not originally American but I moved here when I was in my late teens. I've been doing cold approach pick up and social circle game for many years(6+) and starting to see it seriously paid off only now, having success in this area of my life.

As I'm becoming successful my perception of the world is starting to change. I'm having less belief in a lot of theories and ideas MGTOW, Redpill, Expats forums of sex travelers(like Roosh V), pro-men conspiracy blogs, pick up digital products, even pick up instructors themselves...etc. Mainly because I'm comparing my real-life experiences to what is written and can see multiple things which I disagree with and I genuinely believe are lies, distortions, exaggerations or fatalistic rants. I've lost faith in Roosh, he's a businessman pandering to his audience, Rollo who sells his theories as if they are infallible when he's a sophist and lot of his advice is plain wrong(For instance, all his theories about the matriarchy attracting immigrants are completely off base) and many other figures who I see as internet marketers(RSD) and have ZERO interest in helping men.

A few years back I saw many of these guys including Roosh, G Manifesto, International Playboy, Tuthmosis as the underdog as a "persecuted" group who had to stand up for their beliefs. However, now that I'm integrating more into American culture and society. I'm starting to have a different reading of them.

My "awakening" came when I met a bunch of these guys(who follow many of these groups and are in multiple PUA groups as well) in real life. Not only were they bad at the game. But they were poor and weird. They were living in Brooklyn with many roommates and have a shitty job. Well, no wonder they are so angry at life. With one of them, it was a constant whining and complaining. When I offered solutions to them and multiple other guys like them in future meet ups(including Roosh himself) they shoot it down and said, "That wouldn't work for me." For instance, becoming a Club Promoter would make their life much easier, but no. There was a constant need for victimization and fatalism.

That's when it clicked with me, what if there was an elephant in a room all along? Instead, of there being a conspiracy against men,

What if these guys are just losers?

I know I sound like a dick here. But you need to realize that a lot of this guys have gone of hateful rants on women, on American society on the state of the world assuming the world owed them something. When in reality it was they who needed to change. There was always a reason to be unhappy, to be pessimistic to portray the world as a horrible place. However, each time I brought up solutions to the table, "Well if you want to get laid so much then hire a hooker", "Well that won't work because I need validation sex," "Ok." "Well if you want to get laid then why don't you become a club promoter it seems like the easiest route?" "No, that won't work for me since I don't like that job." "Ok." "Well if you don't want to be broke all the time then why don't you stop traveling and settle in one place." "Well, that won't work for me since I want to collect flags." "Ok. and so on.

The other day I came back to the market after buying my daily bread and sardines. I was feeling grateful for having food to eat, a hat that protects me from the sun and two arms to a carry my bags-everyday is a gift. That's when I spotted a guy who looked exactly like Roosh, I knew he was coming to my city this month. He had the same beard, the same black baseball cap and even the same hunched back. I thought, 'Fuck it, I'll thank him for some of the advice he gave men." I approached Roosh and told him, "Hey is that you Roosh?" "Roosh?" All the sudden, I realized it was a homeless man.

If anyone wants to exchange ideas feel free to pm me