I don't get it. Everyone says "well you don't want to make her too insecure" or "I don't want a girlfriend who is insecure."

But in reality, isn't that the best relationship dynamic? As long as she's hot and not some chubby lardass 4/10, if the girl is insecure and clingy, by default you have a ton of power over her. She won't get on your ass about certain things nor annoy you because she views herself as way beneath you.

Like of course you don't become some sadistic fuck and beat her into total insecurity, but I don't understand why guys want to avoid insecure clingy girls. An attentive, insecure, eager to please, clingy hot girl seems like the ideal fuckbuddy/girlfriend.