I believe wife is attracted to another man in our group.

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September 30, 2019

My wife and I went to a wedding over the weekend. I am at work right now and don't have someone to discuss this with and really need to get some advice on it. Basically my wife and I went to a wedding, everything was great as I held frame up until the end of the evening. I am not sure exactly where it went wrong or how. Either my wife had a little too much to drink and was just extra flirty, or she was sexually charged and very feminine. Going over it in my head makes me sick so I'm going with the more realistic answer that she was turned on by his presence. There was direct flirting, proximity. She leaned over to a seat across the aisle on the bus back and immediately this other guy, who does happen to be the AMOG, told her to sit down. How fast she sat her ass on the seat was astounding. In the moment I was embarrassed, but at the time I thought I may have been the only one to notice the signs. Not so much right now as I write it out. I feel like I fucked up allowing it to get that far, as in I should have been telling her to sit down. I was leaving my frame in those moments and now because I was obsessing over what was happening instead of focusing on correcting her behavior.

When we got back to the hotel, she was not following me. She was astutely aware of his presence and positioning herself in his proximity under the guise of doing something else. She wanted to go to the afterparty once we got to the room. We didn't go, the only way I knew how to get over it in that moment was to fuck my wife as hard as I could. It was pathetic. After I got off we were beginning to fall asleep, until she started sucking my dick again. We fucked again until she came then passed out. I've noticed in the past she is usually in a more aroused state after parties/events where this guy is there. It's worth noting I knew this guys wife before he did, so I cant ignore the possibility of a long term vendetta or equalling of the playing field type of behavior. It's subtle and it is fucking with me if that's the case. Having said that, I cant help but believe, that under similar circumstances where I and his wife were not around and the situation went a certain way, he would make a move, be able to handle her rebuttals to cheating, and she would want it anyway, then fuck him. She'd feel terrible after, but I'm not sure if shed ever tell me or if she's capable of hiding it. My wife has never given me reason to think this, except in these instances.

I tried to conceal my concern over this in case I was not seeing it correctly. On the bus i was mostly silent. It was all I could do to not mate guard. I cant see this clearly as it's a complicated social situation and I'm too invested. Am I overreacting, is this a bigger issue, am I missing a bigger picture?

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Title I believe wife is attracted to another man in our group.
Author 2ndamog
Upvotes 14
Comments 52
Date 30 September 2019 11:11 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/287093
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/db9ysa/i_believe_wife_is_attracted_to_another_man_in_our/
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[–]Iammrp229 points30 points  (3 children) | Copy

You've learned your wife is sexually attracted to men. Now you know what you must become.

Seriously though, why are you surprised? Are you not attracted to other women? If she's heterosexual she's going to be attracted to attractive men. So become attractive.

[–]tspitsatgp12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

Let the person who has not fantasised about fucking someone else while fucking their spouse cast the first stone.

[–]hack3geRed Beret14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

I fantasize about my wife when I fuck my plates

[–]tspitsatgp2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol, she really did a number on you didn’t she. You’ve reached beast mode going by your recent comments. Helluva job.

[–]coinbaserep15 points16 points  (7 children) | Copy

Your acting like an insecure little bitch.

Your Over reacting and mate guarding as you said

You need to stop gaf, if your wife was going to cheat she would have already done it or maybe she already has.

She was out enjoying herself. Was she turned on by him ? Maybe. Was she fucking you while thinking of him ? So what? Did she fuck your brains out good 2 times that night ?

Are you the prize ? Doesn’t sound like it

When my wife gets jealous of other women or tries to make me jealous. Like one night I stayed out late and then the next night I put the moves on her and said I wanted her. She replied. You missed your chance and my boyfriend took care of it last Night.

My replie “I hope he fucked you as well as I do , tell him I said hi?”

Her reply “meh he was alright”

Then she said. “I can’t make you jealous can I ?”

Your acting like your Afraid of losing her. When it should be the other way around

What does she have to lose in her life that would be worth taking his cock ?

Get to work on you and forget about his guy

Obligatory: sidebar and lift

Edit: years ago before we were married we were drunk in the club and a guy was hardcore hitting on her ready to fuck her on the dancefloor I watched her behavior and when I finally had enough

I walked right up to her and said “if you plan on having a boyfriend in the morning your leaving right now. Because my girlfriend doesn’t act like you are right now!!” She looked at me and said let’s go home, her little boy toy tried grabbing her arm to pull her away from me and I grabbed him by the shirt pulled him into my chest real close and said “I’m leaving with my girl are we going to have a problem?”

His reply “hey man where were you all night we were looking for you “ lmao

Only time I ever had to step in and correct bad behavior And this was 13 years ago when she was still a party girl.

She knows how my wife is suppose to act

But this isn’t really about your wife. It’s about you a becoming the prize amog

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red6 points7 points  (6 children) | Copy

You missed your chance and my boyfriend took care of it last Night.

"Yeah, to bad for me you came back" would have been my response.

But I am also an asshole.

I also would not say things like "my other girlfriend" and would not tolerate a woman telling me "her other man"

You can tease about it all you want. Its your choice.

Those are ghosting words to me.

[–]coinbaserep13 points14 points  (5 children) | Copy

We have a playful relationship.

I was thinking of ghosting my wife of 18 years but it’s a little more complicated than that seeing as how we just bought furniture together so things are getting pretty serious

[–]Balls_Wellington_6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's one thing to abandon your kids and relationships but no one wants to end up with half of a sectional

[–]hack3geRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Please tell me you didn’t get the Chaise...

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Very nice. +1

[–]tom-anonymous0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Nothing worse than making monthly payments for a couch your ex-wife is using for tinder dates.

[–]coinbaserep2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I want her to be comfortable and the leather makes clean up a breeze.

[–]primordialawe12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can kill yourself playing the ‘if’ game. She came home with you. She fucked you. She blew you. You did not take an L anywhere except in your own head.

Be more fun when you go out and this will become a non-issue.

[–]jakethesnake50007 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Those weights in the gym don’t lift themselves...

[–]SoloQueueXL9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ya bitch just flirts with everyone. Only made it more obvious when she’s had a few drinks

[–]simbarlionRed Beret10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

I read this whole thing before I realised 'our group' (in title) was not referring to 'this group' (mrp).

Henceforth disappointed I am.

Sidebar, and then sidebar once again. Rinse, start over till cleansed.

[–]SuperCrazy070 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

LOL, me too. I opened it wondering which one of you it was.

[–]part_wolf2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I cant see this clearly as it's a complicated social situation and I'm too invested. Am I missing a bigger picture?

No. It sounds like you're not missing the bigger picture. Also, it's not that complicated. It sounds like you read the situation correctly, but why are you struggling so much with this? Why?

I was like you. I turned into a beta pussy for a few years after I got married. My wife made more money, was more physically fit, and had a much higher emotional intelligence than I. I was truly and deeply fearful that my wife would leave me when she learned who I really was. She nearly did. After our daughter was born, I spent two years of working on myself and a year of implementing MRP. That insecurity is now gone. Gone.

My wife is a high quality woman, and that's valuable to me. I know deep down in my fucking core that there's no man on this earth that's going to tolerate my wife's ups and downs and care for her better than I do. I now make a lot more money than her. I've got much bigger arms than I ever have. I'm an incredibly good father to our daughter. I have a great sense of humor and an affable demeanor. I could probably fuck most of the women in our social group if I chose to pursue them. For now, my wife isn't ready to lose out on all of that. For now.

There's always a bigger fish. There's always a guy that's more powerful than you, stronger than you, and better looking than you who dresses better, earns more money, and has a bigger cock than you. Sometimes it's all of the above. There's always a bigger fish. Always.

Hypergamy is fucking ruthless, and if your wife truly believes that she's out of your league and wants to fuck that guy then it basically comes down to risk versus reward calculation of what your wife stands to lose if she does. So what does your wife risk by cheating? Financial support? Her self respect? Her reputation? If you chose wisely, your wife is well aware of what she's losing out on. If.

You don't have any kids, and she makes more money than you. If she's truly out of your league, then you know the answer. Lift, STFU, sidebar, and OYS. Remember why this woman fucking married you.

[–]Redpillbrigade171 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

See my reply (the second, longer one further down page) three days ago to a similar post by u/RJP4420

[–]tom-anonymous1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is an unfortunate situation but the only thing you can do is use that insecurity feeling that's driving your gut. Use it to drive your lifts instead. Take every little bit of anger, hurt and rage you got from the situation and use it as fuel.

Yes you shouldn't be feeling this right now if you were a better man. However that doesn't happen overnight. So in the meantime you might as well take advantage of these feelings and use them to help you progress.

[–]helaughsinhidden1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy


[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red3 points4 points  (15 children) | Copy

Fitchick and I went to a concert this weekend.

After the concert we went to the night club in the casino. I was in a suit, and she was in an awesome dress.

Total power couple.

On our way to the bathroom another female started eye fucking me on the way. In direct eyesight of us as we walked to the bathroom. As we got closer the other chick started smiling bigger, tossed her hair to the side and pretty much stopped just shy of a full on wave.

As we passed, fitchick without missing a beat says to me:

"Guess I am not the only one who wants to fuck you" with a happy evil grin.

I responded with a coy little smile and an ass slap as she walked into the ladies room.

[–]yes_kid7 points8 points  (14 children) | Copy

How does this little fantasy help anyone...

[–]coinbaserep11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Give him a break he had to tell somebody

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (12 children) | Copy

Fantasy to you, reality to me.

I am not special and there is no fucking spoon.

[–]yes_kid-2 points-1 points  (11 children) | Copy

Lol "reality"

[–]PillUpAss5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

It’s Monday so I’ll help you out: Be the guy someone else’s wife wants to fuck.

[–]yes_kid-3 points-2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Theres nothing in this bs comment to demonstrate that point... these POS posters are why TRP sucks now

[–]RP_PO5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude says shit like that because he’s well known around these parts, and people know his backstory. He’s an asshole with a big fluffy heart whether he admits it or not who is trying to show other dudes what is possible if you change your mindset. But all that is lost on you because....well.....you’re a pussy bitch.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Here's an alternative narrative for you: people needing to be spoon fed every detail is why TRP sucks now.

[–]itiswr1ttenRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

"TRP sucks now" - person who has never ever contributed, every single time

[–]PillUpAss1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Some are out there. But look at red’s post history and tell me that.

[–]Popeman791 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

It doesn't sound like fantasy at all to me. This is not normal behaviour at all for a girl who is with a beta, but with an alpha they change their ways completely. If you're the alpha, and although you're with a girl, other girls will openly flirt with you in front of your girl, and your girl will openly acknowledge it.

This NEVER happens when you're not a Chad, hence why it's hard to believe.

[–]NightFire451 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

This, my LTR notices this when we are out far more than I do and will drop comments about other women. I feel like it's normal but from reading around on Reddit over the years apparently it's not normal.

[–]Popeman791 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's normal for 20% of guys. The other 80% of guys have never seen this happen irl and so they are convinced those are made up stories. Also reddit probably consists mostly of guys in the second group..

[–]JameisBong0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's not yours bro, it's only your turn...but while having your turn,have boundaries, become the best version of yourself. She responded to the man because he was forceful and corrected her immediately. That's your job and you failed. Some other man is more effective at keeping her in line than you are, there's the problem. Work on it or prepare to have her spit roasted by two chads,while you wank using your tears as lube into her wedding dress.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks
Lick on these nuts and suck the dick
Gets the fuck out after you're done
Then I hops in my ride to make a quick run

As Foxshitnasty recently said, don't fear Chad, be Chad.

[–]themerovingian010 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Is that other man's wife hot? If so, try for a wife swap.

[–]PreEntertain1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree. Fuck his wife before he fucks yours would be my power move.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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