Reality check time here.
A girl I started seeing for the last 4 months has been slowly opening up, spending more time, make out but no sex yet. She has a busy job with weird hours so we usually go out once a week or 2-3 times a month.
So the other night after a great night out she drops casually that she'll be hosting a guy who's visiting her for a week that includes her birthday. I didn't flinch. She started offering a lot of details revealing that this was some guy she's met on a "language exchange app" and will be showing this guy around because he's learning her language and she is a language tutor and writer. Her family is making dinner for him blah blah blah. It was all described in the most generic innocent terms. But it immediately triggered my suspicions something wasn't quite right.
The idea of any girl I'm involved with spending a week that includes her birthday with some dude she met over the internet just doesn't sit well. I'm not the jealous type but for me it's about respect. She can't plan anything more than a few days in advance because of her job but she's now planning this dude's week-long holiday to our city.
The idea of "jealousy" isn't what I"m feeling, it's more like this is disrespect and relegating me to some sort of second-place. I expect to be a priority with any girl i'm seeing.
- am I over-reacting?
- I'm inclined to just end things. Any tips on what to say to not come off as jealous?
- If I do treat this like an innocent cultural exchange am I being naïve?
Anyone face something similar? How did you handle it?
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