How do you get out of your own head?

Additional_Barca_FC · 2019-09-28T18:38:24+00:00

Spotlight effect

You think the world revolves around you and all eyes are on you

Know that no one will notice you and if they do it will only affect them for a while before they go back to their own stuff

Being aware of this fallacy helped me overcome this problem you had

Copypastable · 2019-09-28T17:48:41+00:00

You're at the beginning stage where you recognize there's a problem. Control your fear, or it will control you. Think of fear as you shit testing yourself. Keep passing those tests to get what you want.

adomuzas · 2019-09-28T18:03:22+00:00

Meditation, self-hypnosis. Check out MichaelSealey on youtube, he has some good hypnosis for your problem

MotiMorphosys · 2019-09-28T18:04:59+00:00

Take more action.

I suffer from over-analyzing things myself, and what tends to get me out of this trap is surrounding myself with people who are big DO-ers and setting goals for myself that involve doing things. Then I have less time to stay in my head.

PolesWithGoals · 2019-09-28T22:54:28+00:00

I just stopped caring about everything at my university after I realized that 99% of the people here are shitstains who don’t give a shit about me

holzpuppet · 2019-09-28T21:17:33+00:00

Bruv take a look at Miracle Mornings. Practice them for 1-2 months. Thank me later :)

TheDopestPope · 2019-09-28T22:34:19+00:00

For me, working out hard, cutting back on caffeine.

_thechinaman_ · 2019-09-29T00:49:26+00:00

This notion "truly expressing myself" is kind of gay and I think needs to be done out with. There is no self to truly express. Our notion of self is not some essentiality we have lost sight of, but an arbitrarily established continuity we refuse to let go of. Anyways, besides discarding this essentialist notion beyond its practicality, lift heavy weights, become big, smart, and you will realize people are fucking stupid and their opinions are to be disregarded in the first place unless they prove to be worth listening to as by your judgement but not apriori.

anxietyriddledbuddah · 2019-09-29T00:33:55+00:00

Drop 5g of mushies

saheebs · 2019-09-29T02:00:08+00:00

What I do works for me so ill put it down here. its fine if you don't like it but if it helps me maybe it'll help someone else?

Step 1; type a rant filled with all of the thoughts of your own head. for me it gets it out of my head in a raw form.

Step 2; go back and organise it... notice what things are recurrent, connected to each other, how much is garbage and unusable, how much is important to you etc.

Step 3; prioritise the list... for me i like to put the ones most important at the top because im preparing to investigate and dive deep into them later

Step 4; pick one on the list ( i pick the top most important ), and really really think (or meditate) on that thing you wrote down, and see if you can self question yourself why you think like that. the more you investigate, the more you get close to your core beliefs in your subconscious and you can realise why you get stuck in your head for THAT 'SPECIFIC' thought, and then you make space in your mind for being relaxed. you clear that queue of thoughts that weren't 'complete' and can then 'archive' them or leave them behind?

The self questioning is the most important part for me. it helps reveal and recollect things i had forgotten about ages ago.
for me the more i do it the more clearer i feel, but life means that there will always be a list, so the more you do it the better you feel imo

But yeah the topic of this is mindfulness if you want to go research on that

HOPE IT HELPS GL

cudder17 · 2019-09-28T22:22:48+00:00

MEDITATION! You must catch yourself when you’re over thinking, then focus on the present moment. Focus on what’s in front you. Rinse and repeat.

BajaGhia · 2019-09-29T03:58:40+00:00

" The inner game of tennis"

By Timothy Gallway

Easy read, couple nights. Uses tennis as a medium to deliver a message about getting out of your own head when you already know what to do. You're just getting in the way.

rpgedgar · 2019-09-28T18:34:41+00:00

Meditation
Therapy
Improv
D&D (for the improv aspects)
Exercises that allow you to slow down and pay attention to what's in your body, especially foam rolling at the end of a workout.

mickymark1 · 2019-09-29T01:24:05+00:00

The way you get out is by releasing whatever you desire. Let go.

You desire to get out of your head. That’s the problem. Your mind is saying it doesn’t want to. You’re going against your own mind. Don’t go against the grain.

Release your conscious desire and accept what’s happening right now. Your brain is telling you it wants to think and imagine. You need some time alone to recharge and build yourself up again.

I used to be in my head all the time. I realized it’s a part of who I am.

From there on, I set aside time every day when I was most low energy (1-2pm for me), and used that time to sit and a quiet place and merely let my mind wander.

Just like watering your plants, you have to give your mind some time to wander with your thoughts.

Over time, you will be conditioned to only get in your head during a certain time every day.

During that session, find out what’s bothering you/making you feel self conscious. There has to be something underlying. Start with- why do I feel this way? Because.... Well why that? Because...

Eventually, you’ll be lead down a path until you find your underlying issue that you can work on/fix.

-MickyMark1

ghostokg · 2019-09-29T05:10:28+00:00

I'm going to suggest you increase prebiotic fibrous foods to your diet to improve your gut biome and decrease anxiety. Barley, asparagus, oatmeal, whole grains, root veggies, honey, nuts, seeds, beans, apples, onions, leeks, bananas, chickpeas, lentils, artichokes. A lot of smart people are thinking that anxiety is exacerbated by an unhealthy gut microbiome, google that shit.

Also, advice #2, my understanding is that anxiety is a personality trait called "emotional stability /neurotic ism" in psychology, and it is believed that where you fall on this spectrum, is around 50% genetics. Meaning you have a genetic propensity that you will always revert towards. All these comments gave you good tools in the toolkit to combat your anxiety, I'm adding that you should also accept yourself for the anxious person you are to some degree as well. Work with that acceptance in mind. Genetics lay the foundation of your personality, we aren't blank slates that can change who we are completely, although the self help industry sells that lie for profit. Our genes aren't completely our destiny, we can recognize their limitations and still use the tools to combat natural tendencies if we want to achieve something different.

cbxxxx · 2019-09-29T07:45:38+00:00

Figure out what the ROOT cause of your anxiety is and then build a life where you are reliant on nobody except yourself to satisfy that thing you're anxious about (as well as all your other life needs)

Titan_Coeus · 2019-09-29T10:34:08+00:00

So here's how I conquered it (mostly)

First you can purchase something called Phenibut. Phenibut is a safe anti anxiety medication many PUAs use to increase their sociability - I can attest to this working.

But the above can only be used sparingly (special events/dates etc)

But for long term you need to learn self talk.

Usually when you're being over analytical your mind is racing with obtrusive thoughts. Its trying to make you analyse the world, best outcomes and what to say next in conversation.

This pulls you out of the moment. Your thoughts are running on autopilot. Sometimes the thoughts can be negative and effect your emotional state, which feeds into a negative analytical feedback loop. You get stuck here and it pulls you out of the moment further. It's a vicious cycle.

So here's what you need to do. If your thoughts are running on autopilot switch to manual thoughts. Repeat certain phrases back to yourself in your mind like 'fun, fun, fun', or 'this is fucking awesome, this is fucking awesome' smile at the same time and just keep repeating this thought chain in your head.

The objective here is to prevent you from falling into a negative mental feedback loop, and to pump your state up. It's to stop you from over analysing and keep you in the moment. It's to put you into a potivie feedback loop by tricking your mind. Stay with it and keep hijacking your thoughts to prevent you from over analysing. Move to manual thoughts is the key take away here.

One final tip. Stay out of your head by noticing what's around you. People watch and make comments about what's going on around you. If you get stuck, look at the room, name the colours, the features of certain items and keep doing it. This forces you out of your head and to be more present in the moment

OfficerWade · 2019-09-29T20:02:03+00:00

OkAy, so you dont like your thoughts. But all you have to do is watch them. But don’t stop doing what you’re doing. If you think about a women, your mom, whomever just interact with them. If you notice that you’re upset by what’s going on take a step back, when you realize something is all wrong just say to yourself you’re doing that silly thing again and laugh or smile at your self. It’s when you take yourself seriously that you, pardon the pun, get into serious trouble. I’m not saying don’t take risks on asking women out. Confronting your self limiting beliefs-head-on or getting that job. Do all those things, just watch yourself do it.

Title	How do you get out of your own head?
Author	polarizingpotato
Upvotes	115
Comments	35
Date	28 September 2019 05:40 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	askTRP
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