We all know the gym is a place to build your body and mind. As you grow and find new strengths and PR you will sometimes need to ask for a spot as you try to breakthrough and get to a newer level of fitness. Be it bench, squat, or anything else you can feel comfortable asking for assistance instead of going by it yourself. Don't be scared to ask for assistance that you might not need. People will help.
The above goes same for your mental well being. Many times those that have the greatest physiques and other attributes that people ogle over tend to also be those that need help with their mental state, and many succumb to the darkness.
Many times the message that is communicated on here can be misinterpreted and that needs to be understood. We aren't a group of callous assholes that will call you a faggot if you truly need someone and reach out, even though that can come off like that. We are here to support but at the same time we aren't going to do all the lifting for you. You need to have some burden of the weight and be willing to struggle as we will be there for you if you need to reach out.
Now, you might be wondering why am I writing this? I'm writing this because my close friend that is going through what I have done reached out to me. He mentioned within all the chaos of the last few months (Separation, Moving out, Leaving the Navy, starting a new Job, going through Divorce proceedings) it was dark for him and he didn't know what to do but just try to numb the pain with alcohol. He has gained 40lbs in about 3 months from drinking and not doing shit. He lives in a nice apartment but he mentioned it is quiet when his kids aren't with him. He told me he will kill a 12 pack a night and just listen to seconds tick by thinking of how he is a failure of a man.
I didn't say anything and I kept listening. The guy has no network and his father had died early and as I was listening I was reflecting on my journey. I told him that I am there but he also needs to seek professional help too. Told him to get rid of the alcohol and he needs to start going to the gym and work both his body and mind. He acknowledged that he realized that he was asking for help by not even asking for it.
He got a therapist and is doing better than before. He is going to the gym but not as often as I want him to so we are making a date out of it now. He has to have that accountability just like I needed. He also turned over his handgun to me because even though he said he didn't want to he did state that there had been times that he just wanted to suck down a fifth and a .40 cal to end things. He told me he appreciated me supporting him and I just reinforced him that I'm there for him as I have been there.
Why should you care? Regardless of the ego that you flaunt or the strength you say you can show, the darkness has taken and will take some of the best men on this planet. You will see it creeping on you through your journey and evolution. In the end you shall not be one of them with the support of those around you. Just ask for help and it will be there.
TLDR: Don't be a Pussy, reach out to your MRP brethren.