Why do I prefer to hit on less attractive girls?

ComfyBiscotti · 2019-09-26T05:50:32+00:00

Its also called Juggernaut theory

thats why so many ugly fatty girls have huge egos cuz they sometimes get hit on more than stacy

thrwy75479 · 2019-09-26T05:54:40+00:00

I find hot girls to be intimidating

So you know why.

Also, it can sometimes work in your favour in that if the hot one's attracted to you, she'll wonder why you're not hitting on her instead, and try to seek your attention.

It also helps if you bang the less attractive one as it builds social proof, which gives you an in with the hot one.

[deleted] · 2019-09-26T08:03:56+00:00

Cause you don't feel you "deserve" the hotter one and are putting her up on a pedestal

XXXMersenne · 2019-09-26T08:18:30+00:00

Ego defence mechanism: As long as you don't do it, you don't know if you suck or not.

The possibility that you could if you tried is a more secure thought than the reality that you won't try because you think you probably can't.

If we look at an even bigger picture here it gets funnier because you actually could, IF you felt 100% entitled to it. Hot girls fuck all sorts of sleazy, drug-dealing douches all the time if you don't 'blow yourself out' in the interaction by giving away signs that she's someone you're not used to being around, she'll get the message that you fuck girls on her level (or higher if you're sub-communicating your assessment of her after a clear assumption of attraction on your part).

Feel the fear and do it anyway, you've let it erode your mental capital enough so you might as well clear the confusion by focusing on interacting with the more attractive girls. You'll get comfortable with it soon enough and cringe at the sheer self-deception of your past thought loops.

XXX

Schhwing · 2019-09-26T06:43:26+00:00

self confidence. Once you think you deserve hot women you'll hit on them and be surprised by your success.

dirkberkis · 2019-09-26T06:04:35+00:00

You... answered your own question.

But yes, in fact its so common, its caused a major inflation of value to otherwise low-value women. This effectively gives them more power in the market almost by siphoning it from... well, the millions of men in your shoes.

You need to go for what you want. Low hanging fruit is for monkeys. Is you a monkey nigga?

mymindislikeaseive · 2019-09-26T13:10:34+00:00

Okay, I read this sub and other associate trp stuff, but I'm old and in a different world altogether these days than most of the folks on this sub but here's my experience:

In my youth, I slept with a lot of women. Many one night stands, several short relationships, etc. I can't say I was as enlightened and woke as I could have been. There was no red pill back then. Alpha was not a term, nor was beta, or anything like that. Some of what TRP focuses on, we figured out on our own, but IME, if there's one thing I found it's that the hottest women were typically the worst in bed. My theory is that they never really had to try that hard. They were desired, idolized, and hounded for their appearance; ...so they didn't have to work much at reciprocity, or much else.

However, the 6's, 7's, and 8's were typically more ravenous in bed. Sucking, fucking, bouncing, and fingering in all manner of ways. ...with enthusiasm! It was like somehow they knew "If I'm going to keep this guy interested, I'd better be able to suck his prostate out his dick. Or maybe they were just a bit starved for sex? I dunno, but the patter was there. We would usually find a table full of women where the hot ones were being orbited by most of the guys, and we'd simply turn and focus on the butt-hurt women who were not getting the attention. It worked so many more times than I can count.

Often though, we'd find as soon as we did that the hot chick who was stringing her orbiters along for the nightly ego-boost would drop everything and focus on these guys (us) who were more interested in her "lesser" friends than herself. We didn't call them that, but 'shit tests' would be thrown across the table more from the affronted "hot girl" than from the targeted 6, 7, and 8's. Passing the shit test or not, we found we had to be committed to the beta girls, or the table was lost. The betas would be miffed if we turned our attention to their "hot friend" - they were tired of that, clearly. On at least a couple of occasions, we were gently asked by the beta's "are, ...aren't you interested in my friend Karen?", we'd make it known that "she's probably lousy in bed anyway". This usually got a giggle and seemed to be a gauntlet being thrown down for them to show us just how good they were in bed, compared to their popular friend.

I slept with more than a few "Super model" types, and NONE of them stood out in the sex department (actually scratch that, just 1 actually she was the center fold for Easy Rider magazine - she was a tiger in the sack too! A rare exception to the rule!). The sex I think back on when I'm walking down "mammary lane" is usually with average looking girls who would screw with reckless abandon. The absolute best sex I ever had was with an average looking girl. Unassuming, and quiet. Smaller tits. Sort of pear shaped body. But what she could do in bed was nothing short of mystifying. Uncontrollable orgasms that left me feeling like I just shat myself. Sex with this woman was almost a physical addiction for a while. Not exactly the attitude TRP encourages, but ...damn!

In addition, myself and my wingmen would target older women more often because they were almost always much better in bed anyway. They knew what they wanted, they were not afraid to take it either. They worried less about the 'shame' of sex and just "fucked".

From what I understand this may not be the case nowadays, but back in the 80's and 90's it was most definitely a pattern. 90's got a bit harder thanks to AIDS, and other fears.

...sigh, I miss those days! I wish I knew what I know now and could go back and apply it to so many more women! There's simply never enough women is there?

javascript_dev · 2019-09-26T07:55:23+00:00

Your brain subconsciously assesses chances of success in the background, so this is not entirely some kind of self defeatign tactic

MiZiSTiK · 2019-09-26T10:28:59+00:00

What's the point of making a whole thread when you literally answered your own fucking question lmao

MattyAnon · 2019-09-26T11:38:49+00:00

Why do I prefer to hit on less attractive girls?

Perceived to be easier.

Most men will hit on the least attractive girl they can bear to fuck, to maximise their chances of success and minimise the pain of rejection.

I find hot girls to be intimidating

I think that rather answers your question.

troyohchatter · 2019-09-26T12:49:45+00:00

It was never about intimidation for me. it was more of, if a woman had a choice between taking another wack at her eye shadow and hair or snuggling with her dog, I want the one that is snuggling with her dog. I want the one that eats the cookie, or relaxes with coffee, maybe keeps her car in good shape. The looks thing, when you see some of these super hot people, they are letting other items in their life lapse. That's just the way I have always felt about it. Even if a girl is in super good shape or has the natural shape, if she's not spending huge time getting her hair together or whatever, that's okay too. One learns as they age, the things that make someone special are of the heart and brain, not physical appearance.

SomeAverageChap · 2019-09-26T10:48:23+00:00

It could be psychological. If you have ugly parents or the people who you grew up with/befriended were ugly, you could just find that you're more comfortable and naturally attracted to less attractive people.

jrr6415sun · 2019-09-26T11:05:44+00:00

Because you think they’re easier and have low confidence

flyinghorse1 · 2019-09-26T13:19:36+00:00

Same. I prefer normal looking women, in general. The turks have a curse 'may you have daughters and may they be beautiful*.' The gist being that beautiful people are usually difficult and lure in trouble.

*its a very bad translation but that's a basic version.

papunigga031 · 2019-09-26T14:32:01+00:00

Pedestalization from a deep belief you are lesser and not good enough

If you are a man, you are good enough. You don’t need to be a badass alpha all the time. You just need to be a man.

macheagle · 2019-09-26T15:09:51+00:00

It’s because you are deep down insecure of your own self-esteem, and internally and subconsciously recognize that the lower HB girl is “well within your reach” as a potential mate. Essentially, who you hit on is a direct reflection of the SMV score you give yourself.

Work on your own self-esteem and I am sure you will be getting signals from higher HBs as well.

alvarocame · 2019-09-26T15:26:04+00:00

you just being logical and sensible. the hot girl might be most expensive to maintain, if you are above her two or three points she is gonna be heels over knees to please you, you doing good

Slut_Slayer9000 · 2019-09-26T15:58:31+00:00

If all men only fucked girls with high enough SMV for them to date we could reset the market, the problem is horny bastards will dip way below their league to get their rocks off, there by inflating that girls value.

Men really always need to date a girl below his SMV for both parties to be happy (him in control, her submitting to him). Girls won't submit to a guy below her SMV.

popsickkle · 2019-09-26T16:23:07+00:00

100% same here. The hotter one is usually realistically unattainable or is very aware of her status and will just be a pain in the ass to game and much less receptive

KillaJewels · 2019-09-26T13:09:34+00:00

Tbh I hit on both hot girls and less attractive girls. Less attractive girls are more likely to work harder for your attention, lower maintenance, have less ego, more submissive, etc. Less attractive girls are less likely to show their crazy colors. Hot girls tend to be entitled, arrogant, high maintenance, more drama, less loyal, more games.

Hot girls are great as plate material. But for an LTR or marriage type joint, I’d recommend screening values/character more than looks. If she’s got looks and values (hits your blueprint), you’ve found a unicorn.

TooManyThots · 2019-09-26T13:58:15+00:00

Bro I'm so deep I find less attractive girls more attractive.

I'm no male model so I know most blonde girls are going to look over me or give me insane shit tests, or straight out rejection.

The quirky girls are way more into me and everything is much better. Their attitude, the interaction and even the sex.

deathhandmachiavelli · 2019-09-26T14:33:59+00:00

I actually appreciate the existence of guys like you.

You eliminate yourselves form the competition for the hot girls.

Thanks bruh!

deathhandmachiavelli · 2019-09-26T14:36:46+00:00

I've hit up on girls of different levels of attraction.

You aren't any more likely to get rejected just because the girl is hotter.

Ugly girls will reject you about as often as hot girls, maybe even more, so they can boost their self esteem with one of the many guys who are brave enough to talk to them, (those same guys being too insecure to hit on hot girls).

MOST guys are intimidated by hot girls, so those of us who DO hit on hot girls are a select few, and the hot girls tend to reciprocate because of our BALLS.

Hot girls aren't for the weak. Most guys can't handle hitting on them and can't handle dating them either.

I've hit on some average-ugly girls, and end up rejecting it either way, if she likes me, who the fuck cares. If she doesn't it sucks getting rejected by an uggo.

When I hit on a hot girl, I never regret it, and actually have a better percentage with 8-10s than I do average or ugly girls.

SolidLiquidGasPlasma · 2019-09-26T15:34:00+00:00

How do you treat them like their uglier if you’re making eye contact, if you start checking them out they’ll think they’re hotter than you and move on in the conversation

escapethesolarsystem · 2019-09-26T15:55:35+00:00

If you find hot girls intimidating, that means you're subconsciously asking yourself the question "what the hell would she ever see in me?" A few things:

The man typically will always be the uglier one anyways
You have no clue what weird combination of things she finds attractive, beyond the basic masculine / alpha traits
You have a confidence problem and need to sort it out; you think there's something about you that's not good enough, and you should either get over it (if it's something you can't change) or fix it (if it's something you can)

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-09-26T16:49:29+00:00

You do this Bc you can’t man up and go for what you want. You settle for what you believe is easier.

Sendmeloveletters · 2019-09-26T16:58:57+00:00

I always talk to the less attractive but I don’t flirt, I just am my normal charming self. The hot ones will always engage me themselves. That’s when I flirt with everyone but the hot ones get longer eye contact than everyone else.

Houston2NYC · 2019-09-26T17:09:31+00:00

Sorry I can’t help you with this inquiry. But thanks for bringing it to our attention.

snaptogrid · 2019-09-26T18:00:46+00:00

If you're enjoying yourself, what's the problem?

Kn31 · 2019-09-26T20:36:50+00:00

First filter for looks then filter for personality lastly for values

IXseed · 2019-09-26T15:19:00+00:00

Everyone finds hot girls intimidating. I remember watching some 21 studios vid where a guy who's banged pro models says a good amount of them end up being Lesbians because a majority of guys they work with are gay and the ones that would cold approach em on the street think they're so hot that they can't be single. So the models themselves end up feeling lonely and unwanted to they just turn to girls.

Use this to your adv. Realize that if there's a 10 there that night that she's most likely gonna not get hit on as much if at all. She'll shit test hard in the beginning, but once you pass that, you're money.

MeansToABenz · 2019-09-26T06:18:34+00:00

Your smv is low due to not enough practice or simply your smv being low. Therefore, increase your smv

Maarko · 2019-09-26T08:42:03+00:00

Because men have hypogamy.

Title	Why do I prefer to hit on less attractive girls?
Author	Throw83736282
Upvotes	115
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Date	26 September 2019 05:48 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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