If you want a tl;dr and just the question, skip to the last 2 paragraphs.

I have always been a pretty handsome guy. There has never been a period in my life where I didn't get envious comments from guys, IOIs from girls, and comments from my Dad about how that girl at the counter was trying to flirt with me. However, my Dad is a hardcore beta billy and I have always been an introvert. Neither of these factors would be even close to enough to put me in my present circumstances, if not for the fact that my parents divorced when I was about 9 (relegating my Dad to a person I saw every other weekend) and I sank into a deep depression at the age of 10. This depression would last until I was about 17 years old or so, and sapped me of any desire to get out of my comfort zone and socialize. I gradually withdrew from the world until even my oldest, closest friends and I stopped talking to eachother. I allowed myself to become utterly mediocre and weak. By the time I was 15, I had no friends, no social life, and was the definition of a loner. My only source of social interaction were the Karate classes that I taught 5 days a week during my last 3 years of school. By the time I was 18, I may as well have been a literal autist - matter of fact, my cousin with Aspergers has had more sexual experience than me.

Which brings me to the point when I joined the Military. Prior to, I discovered Jordan Peterson and listened to hundreds of hours of his lectures. I adopted the correct mindset, and thus was able to find a way out of the miserable, depressed hell I had inhabited for so many years. And then I joined the Navy. During Boot Camp, and after, I was forced to socialize constantly with other people. After Boot Camp, I was put into a very exclusive school where I spent a year and half with a very small class of students (only 10 of us in total, and we were split into 2 rooms), with a very large teaching team (4 teachers total). By the end of my time at this school, I had very nearly caught up to my peers in terms of social skills. I could hold conversations about topics I found interesting, and could read very obvious social cues.

Now, I am finally reaching a point at which I could call myself a relatively high-value male (maybe a 7/10). I'm tall (6'2"), and last year I lifted fairly frequently; putting on my beginner gains before slimming down to a fit 195 lbs. These days, I don't really have time to lift, as I split most of my free time between Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, Karate, Judo, and MMA. That being said, I still get in semi-regular Calisthenics workouts to maintain my present muscle mass. I work my ass off. I look good, not great. I am muscular, but not jacked. I can be charming, though I am by no means charismatic. I can usually maintain frame, but occasionally fail to do so. Also, I tend to be a bit of an asshole, but my time on TRP indicates this is a good thing.

With all of this in mind, how do I start dating? I am a 20-year-old virgin that has only every kissed one girl. I've never been on a date before. It's not like I can go to a bar and just start hitting on chicks - at least not for another year. The only women I know that I find attractive are coworkers - and we all know not to shit where we eat. I've been considering picking up bouldering and starting to make approaches in between climbing. Or perhaps I can make an account on Tinder and see what I can rustle up from OLD. My last option is to simply continue accumulating value until I turn 21 and start sarging in bars. Any tips?

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Also, if you're going to just say "sidebar," then please indicate which article you think I should be reading. I've read the main TRP sidebar twice, I've read The Rational Male and I'm currently working through the TRP handbook from the main sub before I get to the sidebar on AskTRP - there is a metric fuckton of sidebar material.