What does healthy self esteem look like in women?

ComfyBiscotti · 2019-09-21T22:56:31+00:00

doesn't use too much social media,

doesnt post slut shot photos plastered all over social media

doesnt require constant validation

doesnt need beta orbiters around her 24/7

doesnt have gay best friends

doesnt self harm

is in good shape

cares about her health

things like that shows she is half decent

KingMike1997 · 2019-09-21T23:03:53+00:00

Just be aware that all woman need validation. All human beings do. So you won’t find a female that “doesn’t want validation”. A healthy one (like the one I’m with, I like to think she’s healthy) will only look for validation from her man. Not because she doesn’t want it elsewhere, but the thought of attention from someone who isn’t her chad is non existent. It’s subconsciously yours or nobodies

Truedemocracy5 · 2019-09-22T00:50:49+00:00

Small social media presence. That means rarely or not even using Facebook, instagram, Snapchat

Involved growing up and currently. Likely played a sport, did band, did something growing up. Still works out with a purpose other than to look hot. Examples can be women training for marathons, lifting, rock climbing, mud runs, etc

Good family unit. If she was raised from a bad family it likely effects her some way. If she still talks to her parents regularly it’s a good sign

Doesn’t go out often. A lot of people go to bars to fill holes in their lives, they sleep in the next morning hungover, and lounge around before doing it again. These women are content reading a book on a weekend, going to a farmers market in the morning, etc. not to say no social life just not regularly getting drunk every weekend

Also little drug use or “look at me” behavior. If she smokes cigarettes regularly, weed regularly, does any hard drugs, get drunk regularly, has exotic piercings or tattoos she likely loves attention

Actual interests. Yes women with interests exist. No, “travel” does not count.

Fortunately for guys looking for relationships the above behaviors are usually correlated. Unfortunately, those women are so rare these days that it’s almost not worth trying

MR_SKINNYPENIS69 · 2019-09-22T02:36:17+00:00

Good relationship with her father is a bedrock from which everything else grows.

Likewise with a bad relationship.

You want a woman who has a good relationship with her father, where her dad is good to her and she loves him and he was always around when she was growing up. You can often find this out on the very first date if you ask right.

I cannot stress this one enough: if she posts lots of selfies on social media then she's going to cheat on you. All girls post selfies, I'm talking about the ones who post stories every day that are just photos of themselves. She has low self esteem about her looks and she NEEDS validation from men - sooner or later she will fuck some other guy for this validation because just being with 1 guy all the time isn't enough validation. If she posts a lot on social media like this, sure, plate her, but know that you're an idiot if you try to LTR her. Nothing will change the fact that she WILL cheat on you.

Girls with "motivational" quotes are also showing signs of low self esteem and dissatisfaction in life. That means they're much more likely to branch swing.

Also, while it is the easiest way to get laid, if you want a high quality woman don't uee dating apps. High quality women with high self esteem do not use those apps.

THEMIDLANDMAN · 2019-09-22T05:18:46+00:00

A 48 year old woman I know.....

Smiles a lot and is pleasant to be around.

Has active social life with similar friends

Keeps herself physically active (can run 3:20 marathon)

Split up with her boyfriend last year, never posted any attention seeking stuff on Facebook.

No changing her profile picture every week, no relationship quotes, no feminist crap,

She is a very rare 48 year old woman

EvelynnSpoiler · 2019-09-22T03:35:09+00:00

Women who have alpha fathers seem to be pretty cool

urbancore · 2019-09-22T03:19:24+00:00

Gets along great with other women. Has a great group of friends who are like minded.

When a woman only has guy friends, says other women are all drama, etc, she’s the problem.

When a woman, or a man for that matter, has a group of friends for a long time, with little to no drama, they feel supported and grow in confidence.

The key is that their friends are like minded. They will all keep each other in line.

Sylvester_Sterone · 2019-09-21T22:48:52+00:00

Has a hobby they are good at like quilt making Involved in committees Has a life besides you Healthy relationships with parents Has 1 or 2 drinks max Doesn’t need social media

Fromstatepharm · 2019-09-21T22:19:43+00:00

No need for external validation.

[deleted] · 2019-09-22T00:22:37+00:00

Has a career and some actual life goals of her own. More than just getting married/having a baby i.e. her goal in life is more than just meeting a man.

Has significant gaps between relationships (is comfortable being single without constantly needing to be in a relationship).

Able to have her own opinions even if that opinion isn't shared by her friends/family.

Uniqueusername360 · 2019-09-22T01:53:59+00:00

Enough confidence to trust your SO

daudirfan58 · 2019-09-22T04:45:23+00:00

Has good relations and respects her father

ChiBron86 · 2019-09-22T14:04:48+00:00

Aren't desperate for attention (not constantly flirting with guys, not super active on social media)

Willing to stand up for themselves without being a bitch

Don't feel the need to tear other people down in order to feel good about themselves (this is huge).

zboo1h · 2019-09-22T20:25:09+00:00

It's something in the eyes, something in the smile. I've only ever seen it a few times in my life.

its4thecatlol · 2019-09-21T22:39:14+00:00

A mark of a confident woman is that she does not respond to negs or half-assed compliments. Give a mild backhanded compliment. A self-assured woman will either call you out on your shit or, at best, respond only lukewarmly.

PolesWithGoals · 2019-09-22T03:02:01+00:00

Only swipes right for males they rate as “10s” on tinder/bumble

Pasta1776 · 2019-09-22T06:38:08+00:00

Very low ncount 0-2

Isn’t dressed like a whore

Rather traditional or at least understands roles

Good values

Isn’t afraid to be feminine in all ways

Never questions your authority once established

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-09-22T04:26:41+00:00

Who cares?

Copypastable · 2019-09-21T23:43:05+00:00

She shoots her shot before you even think about it.

Title	What does healthy self esteem look like in women?
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Date	September 21, 2019 10:16 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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