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Wife is pregnant, now what (I know what)

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WeightsNCheatDates
September 20, 2019
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Stats: married two years this Sunday. Me: 29, her: 33. Stepson 9. (Already starting this off on the right foot, aren’t I? Lol).

Lifting: bench 265, squats 265, deads 365. 12% BF, best shape of my fucking life.

Reading: NMMNG(x2) WISNIFG, MAP, MMSLP, book of pook, side bar multiple times. Haven’t been posting OYS like I should, but its because I felt I was in a good place just owning my shit and working on my MAP.

Career: make decent money for my area, up for a promotion by the end of the year, owning my shit.

Relationship: sex life stalled to a drop after I stopped owning my shit in the relationship 2 months before marriage. Marriage was her decision(I’m a pussy) and so of course she lost respect for me. Half assed MRP until April 20 of this year. Began owning my shit in absolutely every aspect of my life. I understand it’s only been 5 months but the 1000 foot rope has tightened but my wife continues to be a cold bitch about everything. So I said fuck it and just continued on with my MAP. She even has stated that we live separate lives( told her she has the opportunity to come live a great life with me, but even that pisses her off knowing I’m over here enjoying life).

Been trying to have kids since November of ‘18 but hasn’t happened. In about July I said fuck it I don’t want kids with her and allowed sex to drop to once a month. Just am not attracted to this woman when I have HBs at the gym, work and store all ready to hop on my dick if I gave them the chance.

The stay plan=go plan, but I was preparing to begin the divorce discussion in November.

As fate would have it, we had sex once in her last cycle, I was apparently off on my calculation of when her ovulation was, and she got pregnant.

Now I realize that I just have to own my shit with this one, but I’m genuinely not excited to have a child with a woman I have no interest for and had plans of leaving.

Not really a question, and I don’t want any feel good stories about being a dad because I’m not trying to leech my happiness from anyone here, but I’m struggling with my mindset right now.


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Title Wife is pregnant, now what (I know what)
Author WeightsNCheatDates
Upvotes 15
Comments 99
Date 20 September 2019 12:25 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]Redpillbrigade1728 points29 points  (16 children) | Copy

Amazing. Dude has lots going for him. Is fucking 29yrs old, career, on the ascending ladder to peak SMV. Has this sub with tons of resources to genuinely awaken and become a better man. Ok, he made some arguably not- so-good decisions in the past and married a single mom, 4 yr older, with a kid. He helps raise another man’s son. Good lad.

But wife stops fucking him. He either half asses his becoming a valuable, fuckable man, or indeed did his MAP the right way, but the bitch is even nastier, weaponises sex even more to get him to fall in line, becomes room mate, and proves she was a terrible decision for him to begin with.

Now he has a chance. As I said, he has this sub and his wiser, more mature self. He can put a bow on it and never see this woman again, move on to the next stage of his life with all the new lessons and a new vision for his life. New expectations for himself and for what he wants in a woman/ women.

What does he do? He fucking gets her pregnant.

How will this end? Will OP turn this ship around and get this marriage to this woman where he wants it? Or will they get divorced and remain entangled with her for the next 18+ years in custody exchanges (presuming he wants to be around his kid), support payments etc.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret18 points19 points  (4 children) | Copy

We have a new 'trainwreck' candidate here in OP.

[–]Redpillbrigade1714 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Seriously- Mods should consider saving all these for disaster scenarios that other guys can learn from. We don’t learn so much from successes, but from failures. Ideally others’ not our own.

In this case, OP was like sheep to slaughterhouse (even before getting married she stopped fucking him!) as she locked him down. Female sexual strategy 1 - Man’s 0.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

I really want to get new flair for but at least I am not trainwreck or big gay al. It could be worse...

[–]SoggyTrainCucked by machines5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah, I miss my big gay al flair.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cucked by machines is easily the best flair on here. You know anyone else with that flair? To me, you are fucking famous and will go down in MRP lore as the guy who was Cucked by machines.

I've heard about the smelly balls/dick guy but don't know what is flair was or his user. Any OGs in here know?

I would also say that my flair is pretty dope too. Know any other Wednesday Retards? I'm even becoming "the retard" for short. Basically famous at this point.

[–]Praexology7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Find out on the next episode of: I'm a big Cuck Boy and I don't need no peepee touch

[–]RoccoPinkman1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man, If I had the resources and information this dude had when I had my kids there is no fucking way I’d be making that mistake.

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] -1 points0 points  (8 children) | Copy

I have no choose but to turn my marriage into the best it can be. For the sake of myself and my future child. Welcome to the newest MRP sitcom

[–]Redpillbrigade1711 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

No. You have no choice but to turn yourself into the best man you can be. That’s the right mindset. And it involves (among many other things) putting a genuine effort in the relationship with your wife. That may indeed lead to a good marriage, saving it etc. But your job and your focus should not be to save the marriage. Open your mind. Do you want your kid to grow up with a disgruntled dad? You have your whole life ahead of you. Don’t spend it next to someone who you don’t get along with.

Ask yourself this: Do you think she’s beautiful? Do you enjoy her company (more than say 80% of the time)? Does she genuinely turn you on?

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re right. Completely. I am the mission and focus. My marriage is just a small part of that.

I would say I’m at about 50% with her. In attraction, enjoying time spend and getting turned on.

[–]RedPillGlasses7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’ll make an additional suggestion.

This was an unwanted pregnancy for you, you didn’t want this.

GO GET A VASECTOMY.

You can freeze buckets of your sperm, and have as many kids as you want, ON YOUR TERMS.

It’s what I wish I had done.

[–]coinbaserep2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Is it your child ? You Just happened to fuck once during her cycle which you say you track and now believe is wrong because you got her pregnant

Maybe chad put a baby in her the week before ?

FYI I tracked my wife’s cycle for 2 years after our 2nd child and we fucked 10+ plus times a month with no birth control, pull out method and even came inside her during weeks she wasn’t fertile, no babies (I don’t recommend doing that but I had 100% success) she wanted another baby I didn’t care either way After I finally decided no more kids I got snipped

[–]teaandtalk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I mean, OP should definitely get the paternity test. BUT I'll also say that I track pretty seriously (edit: and with more information than OP, unless he's checking her temperature every morning) and still get it wrong sometimes - some people are clockwork (sounds like your wife is) but many aren't...so I wouldn't say it's definitely dodgy.

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

great point.

[–]Bedtimeshine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don’t see how her having this kid should effect your plan at all. I’d still be out. You’re just scared.

[–]RStonePT0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No you don't

Where in the rules does it say you do?

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando27 points28 points  (1 child) | Copy

Happy wedding anniversary and congratulations on the good news. So happy for you both.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ouch.

[–]JudgeDoom6923 points24 points  (9 children) | Copy

She knows the formula. Nine years ago she roped some dope into 18 years of child support payments.

Now she feels you slipping away so once again she has a beta on the hook for child support for the next 18 years.

You'll look bad if you leave now, but you really need to make your marital decision based on the marriage. Living in an unhappy marriage is bad for everyone, including your spawn.

[–]RedPillGlasses11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

It’s a fucking great deal for her.

One kid gets you 25% of post tax income in most states. So if both baby daddy’s make $70k annual, she gets $35,000 a year and DOESN’T WORK.

Sign me the fuck up for that program.

[–]RoccoPinkman9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s easy to enrol

Step one - marry your self a beta faggot.

Step two - fuck him like a starfish once a month.

Step three - sit back and count your money.

[–]blackswan2whiteswan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

The first dude didn’t even stay around, and she didn’t go after child support.

I can’t leave now. Maybe in a few years, but this is part of my life and I need to own it.

[–]JudgeDoom693 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I can’t leave now. Maybe in a few years, but this is part of my life and I need to own it.

If you've resigned yourself to staying then you need to improve your SMV to the point your wife is attracted to you and your marriage doesn't suck. Either that or start spinning plates on the side.

It's time for your relationship to get busy living or get busy dying. Regardless of the pregnancy.

[–]WorkWorkZubZub1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Well hey then, nice job. You might be on the hook for child support for BOTH of them if you leave.

[–]RedPillGlasses4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Highly unlikely. He would need to adopt the 9 year old, and baby daddy would have to sign off on it.

BUT, it can happen in super liberal states, ie California.

[–]RoccoPinkman4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

No shit, my GF aunt has a kid that another man took on as his own, he has no kids of his own. She fucked around behind his back then left him and he pays child support for a kid that’s not fucking his. It’s not a legal thing or anything he’s just a faggot. She even bad mouths him for being a bad dad. Lol

[–]umizumiz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol

God, she's good!

[–]RedPillGlasses15 points16 points  (7 children) | Copy

Paternity test is a good idea.

Might piss her off, she decides you don’t even love her (which you mostly don’t), then she gets an abortion and decides to divorce you.

I personally don’t believe in abortion, BUT it provides an immediate solution to your problem of pregnancy and a wife you don’t like.

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 3 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy

Can’t wait to navigate the waters of a paternity test.

[–]RedPillGlasses10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

Simplest solution?

She gets angry as fuck that you would suggest it, gets an abortion and then you two divorce.

With no other kids, you can be as involved in 9 year olds life as you want, or don’t want.

I have six fucking kids man, you don’t appreciate the freedom that is within your grasp.

[–]primordialawe4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah. If she’s already a cold bitch about “everything” what’s a drop in the bucket?

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol great point. Wouldn’t change much.

[–]Imaginary_Historian1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd be mailing in cheek swabs of you and the baby within a week of birth

[–]teaandtalk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just do it. It's not about her, it's about you - and you need it done. If she can't handle it then sucks for her.

[–]depressedfuckboi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You don't even need her. Buy an at home kit, swab the kids cheek and yours, send it in and have the results mailed to a trusted relative or buddies place.

[–]Praexology11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

This could have been posted in oys. ++paternity test

[–]Redpillbrigade176 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

The S in this OYS is so big and smelly it deserves its own post.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (13 children) | Copy

You do know why we post on OYS right? It's becsuse we can be blind to our own faggotty behavior and it helps to have others call us out.

So you were prideful and now you fucked up and want us to fix it?

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando6 points7 points  (9 children) | Copy

He's been posting in OYS for the last nine months. Just had a quick read through it. Amazing how little has changed since then:

OYS No.1: I’m in the best shape of my life. Squat 260 Bench 265 DL 350

Today : bench 265, squats 265, deads 365. 12% BF, best shape of my fucking life.

OYS No.1: Went from sex 4x a week to about once a week. Then to about 1-2 a month.

Today : I don’t want kids with her and allowed sex to drop to once a month.

OYS No.1: (I have) a bitter and naggy wife.

Today : my wife continues to be a cold bitch about everything.

He also states in his first OYS that he plans to hang out "hang out with friends more than once a week" and talks about the need to create goals for himself. Yet - as his OYS's continue - he struggles to make any social life fro himself and doesn't mention any goals or mission. In fact, practically all his OYS's revolve around his wife, how much sex he is / isn't having with his wife.

This is a classic fucking example of failing at MRP because you are half assing it. You get the life (and wife) you deserve.

And now she's pregnant.

LOL.

Oh, and this...

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Been lifting weights 5x week for 10 years.

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LMFAO ROFL.

[–]RedPillGlasses8 points9 points  (4 children) | Copy

I would almost believe the stagnant weights, IF he had dropped 20+ pounds of fat in that time period.

Whenever I cut hard, weights never increase.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

That's fair enough, but 10 years of lifting and a 265 squat does not compute. The lad is just fucking around on MRP and has his head up his wife's ass.. no mission, no goals, no social life... he made it all about the pussy and surprise, surfuckingprise.. the pussy went and got him by the nuts.

It's like a cautionary tale for all those fuckers who half ass it and make pussy the prize.

[–]RedPillGlasses4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

10 years of lifting and a 265 squat does not compute.

Agreed. For reps, that’s like 2 plates on each side. Upvote.

[–]SuperCrazy070 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

10 years of lifting and a 265 squat does not compute.

That’s totally possible.

I’ve been lifting for over 10 years and that’s probably where my squats are at (I’ve never tried a 1RM).

I’ve had around a dozen personal trainers and told them all I want to “lift heavy” and all but one of them interpreted that into 12x185 or 8x215 or similar. Most trainers and people in general don’t have a background in lifting heavy. If the client doesn’t know what they’re doing, lifting for reps in the low 200’s feels good. I was stronger, by far, than anyone I knew.

It wasn’t until I got a trainer who is a competitive powerlifter that I realized I’d been doing it wrong.

[–]umizumiz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Depression, as well. If I'm in a "funk", I'll wake up after a few weeks and realized I've gained nothing. Really makes you realize how worthless our emotions are...

[–]Cloudy_Pirate5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

From OYS 16 (2 months ago)

> Stuck in a position where these shit tests are no longer fun, and I don’t want to have sex with her and get her pregnant because then I’ll be locked in

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oops

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shit.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Certified faggggggggggot

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re completely right. Anytime I saw progress in my relationship, I stopped posting in OYS. Sex increased, everything is going great because sex isn’t the goal. Sex was the goal. Sex is not longer the goal. Hasn’t been for a while.

focusing on myself on owning my shit became the goal, with fucking other chicks as a eventual side benefit after the marriage.

Definitely have fuckarounditis in the gym, so you’re probably right, I have it elsewhere in life too.

Not much else to say, no need to DEER anymore. You’re right I completely got myself in this situation. Not here to bitch.

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Don’t want anyone to fix it but myself. But yes, I got to cocky with my success and didn’t think I needed to post weekly. Now my life has leveled up and I need to man the fuck up and handle this level.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

See you in OYS on Tuesday then. Get after it and good luck.

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’ll be there.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Welcome to Ramboville, population: you.

We all pass through here, although normally without a pregnant wife, just don't stay too long. You'll be fine. Get into OYS.

[–]johnmic074 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

Usually if a man doesn't want kids, he uses a condom.

Definitely definitely get a paternity test.

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Anyone have experience with doing this?

[–]part_wolf5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah, you roll the condom down from the tip.

[–]W4T3V3R1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

LOL

[–]johnmic070 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you want to divorce just do it and deal with the details of the paternity test later

[–]fivenineattack4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy

Do you want her beside you? Do you want a kid? Don't you want to leave?

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy

No. Yes, but not with her. Yes I did want to leave.

[–]RoccoPinkman6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking leave then, there’s nothing worse than staying with someone because you have a kid I did it for 8 years. You will hate her. But it’s not her fault it’s yours.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Paging /u/over60_FireTempered3...

[–]Over60_FireTempered3Red Beret4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

I don't think I can help OP after reading his responses.

OP is afraid of her, can't even ask for a paternity test. I don't think he miscalculated, I think he got cucked. Who could blame her, he is powerless. He would rather do 20 years a slave than confront these issues.

She even has stated that we live separate lives

… but I was preparing to begin the divorce discussion in November.

Nothing but plodding and "gonna do sumpin". OP lacks resolve, and he makes no decisions, he just goes with the flow of wherever she leads him.

I was where he is, but I made a DECISION to stay for my son. Yes, it was not the best decision, but I made and stood by it for my 20 years a slave. What OP fails to recognize, is it will get worse being in a shitty relationship. He gets to work twice as hard, just to get up to the level of a little unhappy.

Everything so far is caused by inaction on his part. He's looking for someone to tell him how to stay the same course of inaction, and that everything's going to be OK. It will not. He is just kicking the can down the road, and if he lives long enough, it will be much harder on him and his children later.

Why I bothered to type this out for this do nothing OP says much more about me than him.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Thank you for answering the call. I don't think it's for nothing when we answer things like this. Remember that other guys will search this sub and read this thread in the future. They will dust themselves off, get the message, and take charge of themselves. You're writing for them, not for this guy.

[–]Over60_FireTempered3Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're writing for them, not for this guy.

Yes, it does matter. Thank you for the reminder.

[–]itiswr1ttenRed Beret5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

Where does an abortion factor into this?

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Unfortunately not an option to her.

[–]itiswr1ttenRed Beret1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Why. Be specific

Because if the answer is she doesn't want to I am officially mad at you

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Deep rooted Christian values. Definitely not an option.

[–]itiswr1ttenRed Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

So you're going to powerlessly hitch yourself to a nightmare and give up. Cool. I'm done here

[–]aherrns1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeh.. Just kill the baby... C'mon Red Planned Parenthood, you know better than this.

[–]SkimTheDross3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like you’re getting a new area of life to OYS at.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

I'll give you some happiness bro. It flows aplenty from me so no worries about leeching.

Being a father is not only the only reason you walk this god given earth (spread that seed homie!) but it's also the most frustrating and fulfilling thing you will do. Boy or girl that little lump will teach you lessons about yourself that you could never have gotten otherwise. It will slow you down in all the important ways and make you concentrate in all the ways you need.

It's hard as fuck though. But you don't strike me as the type to run from hard work. Brother, count your blessings. Ex-wife may be a massive cunt but she has given you something more valuable than money and eventually you will understand that its more valuable than your own life. This is the only legacy that matters. And suck it up. Your children are the gatekeepers to your legacy.

That said, ditch the bitch. Trust me, you'll find new poon that makes your heart happy as much as your dick. You can't get rid of her and she WILL go for your wallet (expect that, but don't start a court fight. She will win since the justice system is so women friendly). But, remember that she is you ex and only respond to her when its mission critical. Otherwise leave her on read.

Good luck soldier, you're in for a frustrating ride and one you'll appreciate.

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

You’re right, I’m not one to run from hard work, but seems easier to stay in it and make it work, than to deal with divorce, an upcoming kid, child support, etc.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

It’s not. Getting you to stay is betafication step one. She will know she can manipulate you. Your kid will have a better life if you leave and model a better one yourself. Ex wife will live a trashy life and instead of bailing water to model submissiveness, live on your own yacht and model happiness and success to counteract the miserable house mom will have.

Think of it like starting a business. The hard part is upfront so it’s easy later. Leave and deal with it now so when you kid has a memory it’ll be good.

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

So many good points in this comment. Definitely an eye opener.

instead of bailing water to model submissiveness, live on your own yacht and model happiness and success.

Putting myself #1 and making a better life for my kid in the process.

deal with it now so when you kid has a memory it’ll be good.

Great point. Why fuck up a kid’s life when he can remember it. In 5 years I could be working on a shitty marriage just trying to stay afloat, or in 5 years I could be crushing life, having my kid begging to go to dads house.

Edit: I’ll be crushing life regardless, but seems like life would be better for everyone in option 2

[–]part_wolf2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Is she a good mother?

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Meh.

[–]part_wolf0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get the fuck out of there brother.

[–]helaughsinhidden2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

As fate would have it, we had sex once in her last cycle, I was apparently off on my calculation of when her ovulation was, and she got pregnant.

Nope, it's not your calculator that's not right, something else isn't adding up. Might want to save this in your bookmarks

https://www.dnafamilycheck.com/services/dna-paternity-test?gclid=CjwKCAjw8ZHsBRA6EiwA7hw_sXYpkhuz2Z6Oq6-vqZtJS0qOTwWoNut6Jxr6nJP43MXIbxHgI4LiBhoCDTYQAvD_BwE

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Saved. Seems super easy.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You made your bed, time to sleep in it.

[–]RicoDunne2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wow... trying to get pregnant. Decided not to and then reduced sex to 1-month. Forgot her cycle, but still did the once a month. She amazingly got pregnant with little effort from me despite all the past trouble. Assuming the blood test is not conclusive, DNA test are very conclusive before she make you any more of a beta mule.

[–]adeptintact2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

As a 29 year old, your first mistake was to marry a single mom. It is hard to believe that she got pregnant after one time of having sex in a month. It is more likely it's Chad's kid. Take a paternity test or do 23andme.com/ ancestry.com to determine if you are the father. Despite this, since you are married, most US states will make you the legal father. If the child is not your biological child, you will need to take her to court to undo that and it's not a guarantee.

If it is your child, be a good father, but that does not mean you have to stay married to her. There are plenty of divorced dads that are still good fathers to their child. She will be the divorced single mom with kids from different fathers.

[–]2ndalRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

What a train wreck, and you weren't even the conductor.

[–]jahesus1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Been there, did that. Divorce her now, BEFORE BIRTH, own your shit, pay child support and be a damn good father, keep on Fucking

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Why before birth? What benefits does this have?

[–]jahesus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Chance for lower support and maintenance

[–]themerovingian011 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Abort the mission.

[–]RStonePT1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

At what point did your actions align with your desires?

I don't get why you posted that you acted towards a result and got that result

[–]peaceandlug0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Paternity test.

[–]MeansToABenz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tell her you don’t want to be with her and definitely don’t want a kid with her. Ask her to have an abortion so you never have to speak to her again. If she has any sense she will leave you the fuck alone.

[–]ibelieveican19820 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Everyone is calling you a faggot and rightfully so. But what are you going to do about it?

What is your stance on abortion? Are you ok with it? If you are, then convince her as well. If you are not, then own it and prepare yourself to be with this woman for atleast a few years or until you really are ready to leave.

I was a faggot too. I have no issues with my wife but made a mistake on timing things - yes I fucked up. Both of us did not want an additional child at this point in our life so we made our choice. There was a lot of crying and guilt but we got through it.

Mistakes happen. Make your choice and own it regardless of what anyone else says.

Good luck.

[–]WeightsNCheatDates[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m ok with it, she’s 100% against it.

Abortion seems like a cop out. But so does divorce and I was contemplating that.

Honestly do not think I could convince her. Way too strong Christian values in her

[–]RP_PO0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The crickets are bad this year. Step on those fuckers walking to my car to and from work, it’s annoying.

[–]PillUpAss-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m hoping this is elaborate trolling.



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