Wife is pregnant, now what (I know what)

Redpillbrigade17 · 2019-09-20T13:13:28+00:00

Amazing. Dude has lots going for him. Is fucking 29yrs old, career, on the ascending ladder to peak SMV. Has this sub with tons of resources to genuinely awaken and become a better man. Ok, he made some arguably not- so-good decisions in the past and married a single mom, 4 yr older, with a kid. He helps raise another man’s son. Good lad.

But wife stops fucking him. He either half asses his becoming a valuable, fuckable man, or indeed did his MAP the right way, but the bitch is even nastier, weaponises sex even more to get him to fall in line, becomes room mate, and proves she was a terrible decision for him to begin with.

Now he has a chance. As I said, he has this sub and his wiser, more mature self. He can put a bow on it and never see this woman again, move on to the next stage of his life with all the new lessons and a new vision for his life. New expectations for himself and for what he wants in a woman/ women.

What does he do? He fucking gets her pregnant.

How will this end? Will OP turn this ship around and get this marriage to this woman where he wants it? Or will they get divorced and remain entangled with her for the next 18+ years in custody exchanges (presuming he wants to be around his kid), support payments etc.

SBIII · 2019-09-20T14:17:01+00:00

Happy wedding anniversary and congratulations on the good news. So happy for you both.

JudgeDoom69 · 2019-09-20T13:12:07+00:00

She knows the formula. Nine years ago she roped some dope into 18 years of child support payments.

Now she feels you slipping away so once again she has a beta on the hook for child support for the next 18 years.

You'll look bad if you leave now, but you really need to make your marital decision based on the marriage. Living in an unhappy marriage is bad for everyone, including your spawn.

RedPillGlasses · 2019-09-20T13:08:54+00:00

Paternity test is a good idea.

Might piss her off, she decides you don’t even love her (which you mostly don’t), then she gets an abortion and decides to divorce you.

I personally don’t believe in abortion, BUT it provides an immediate solution to your problem of pregnancy and a wife you don’t like.

Praexology · 2019-09-20T12:59:23+00:00

This could have been posted in oys. ++paternity test

SBIII · 2019-09-20T12:44:04+00:00

You do know why we post on OYS right? It's becsuse we can be blind to our own faggotty behavior and it helps to have others call us out.

So you were prideful and now you fucked up and want us to fix it?

andyturbo2000 · 2019-09-20T12:58:41+00:00

Congratulations you idiot

HornsOfApathy · 2019-09-20T13:02:29+00:00

Welcome to Ramboville, population: you.

We all pass through here, although normally without a pregnant wife, just don't stay too long. You'll be fine. Get into OYS.

johnmic07 · 2019-09-20T13:53:58+00:00

Usually if a man doesn't want kids, he uses a condom.

Definitely definitely get a paternity test.

fivenineattack · 2019-09-20T12:37:11+00:00

Do you want her beside you? Do you want a kid? Don't you want to leave?

itiswr1tten · 2019-09-20T14:02:01+00:00

Where does an abortion factor into this?

SkimTheDross · 2019-09-20T12:39:11+00:00

Sounds like you’re getting a new area of life to OYS at.

WeightsNCheatDates · 2019-09-20T17:03:23+00:00

I'll give you some happiness bro. It flows aplenty from me so no worries about leeching.

Being a father is not only the only reason you walk this god given earth (spread that seed homie!) but it's also the most frustrating and fulfilling thing you will do. Boy or girl that little lump will teach you lessons about yourself that you could never have gotten otherwise. It will slow you down in all the important ways and make you concentrate in all the ways you need.

It's hard as fuck though. But you don't strike me as the type to run from hard work. Brother, count your blessings. Ex-wife may be a massive cunt but she has given you something more valuable than money and eventually you will understand that its more valuable than your own life. This is the only legacy that matters. And suck it up. Your children are the gatekeepers to your legacy.

That said, ditch the bitch. Trust me, you'll find new poon that makes your heart happy as much as your dick. You can't get rid of her and she WILL go for your wallet (expect that, but don't start a court fight. She will win since the justice system is so women friendly). But, remember that she is you ex and only respond to her when its mission critical. Otherwise leave her on read.

Good luck soldier, you're in for a frustrating ride and one you'll appreciate.

part_wolf · 2019-09-20T13:26:54+00:00

Is she a good mother?

helaughsinhidden · 2019-09-20T17:33:13+00:00

As fate would have it, we had sex once in her last cycle, I was apparently off on my calculation of when her ovulation was, and she got pregnant.

Nope, it's not your calculator that's not right, something else isn't adding up. Might want to save this in your bookmarks

https://www.dnafamilycheck.com/services/dna-paternity-test?gclid=CjwKCAjw8ZHsBRA6EiwA7hw_sXYpkhuz2Z6Oq6-vqZtJS0qOTwWoNut6Jxr6nJP43MXIbxHgI4LiBhoCDTYQAvD_BwE

WolfofAllStreetz · 2019-09-20T19:46:52+00:00

You made your bed, time to sleep in it.

RicoDunne · 2019-09-21T02:06:33+00:00

Wow... trying to get pregnant. Decided not to and then reduced sex to 1-month. Forgot her cycle, but still did the once a month. She amazingly got pregnant with little effort from me despite all the past trouble. Assuming the blood test is not conclusive, DNA test are very conclusive before she make you any more of a beta mule.

adeptintact · 2019-09-21T22:35:41+00:00

As a 29 year old, your first mistake was to marry a single mom. It is hard to believe that she got pregnant after one time of having sex in a month. It is more likely it's Chad's kid. Take a paternity test or do 23andme.com/ ancestry.com to determine if you are the father. Despite this, since you are married, most US states will make you the legal father. If the child is not your biological child, you will need to take her to court to undo that and it's not a guarantee.

If it is your child, be a good father, but that does not mean you have to stay married to her. There are plenty of divorced dads that are still good fathers to their child. She will be the divorced single mom with kids from different fathers.

2ndal · 2019-09-20T14:45:10+00:00

What a train wreck, and you weren't even the conductor.

jahesus · 2019-09-20T19:35:43+00:00

Been there, did that. Divorce her now, BEFORE BIRTH, own your shit, pay child support and be a damn good father, keep on Fucking

themerovingian01 · 2019-09-20T21:09:59+00:00

Abort the mission.

RStonePT · 2019-09-21T01:57:47+00:00

At what point did your actions align with your desires?

I don't get why you posted that you acted towards a result and got that result

peaceandlug · 2019-09-24T15:11:25+00:00

Paternity test.

MeansToABenz · 2019-09-24T22:21:40+00:00

Tell her you don’t want to be with her and definitely don’t want a kid with her. Ask her to have an abortion so you never have to speak to her again. If she has any sense she will leave you the fuck alone.

ibelieveican1982 · 2019-09-20T15:22:55+00:00

Everyone is calling you a faggot and rightfully so. But what are you going to do about it?

What is your stance on abortion? Are you ok with it? If you are, then convince her as well. If you are not, then own it and prepare yourself to be with this woman for atleast a few years or until you really are ready to leave.

I was a faggot too. I have no issues with my wife but made a mistake on timing things - yes I fucked up. Both of us did not want an additional child at this point in our life so we made our choice. There was a lot of crying and guilt but we got through it.

Mistakes happen. Make your choice and own it regardless of what anyone else says.

Good luck.

RP_PO · 2019-09-20T18:34:38+00:00

The crickets are bad this year. Step on those fuckers walking to my car to and from work, it’s annoying.

PillUpAss · 2019-09-20T15:21:10+00:00

I’m hoping this is elaborate trolling.

Title	Wife is pregnant, now what (I know what)
Author	WeightsNCheatDates
Upvotes	15
Comments	99
Date	20 September 2019 12:25 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	askMRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/288575
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/d6u5p3/wife_is_pregnant_now_what_i_know_what/

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