Dropped by a FWB and It has confused me....

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October 7, 2019
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Hi Guys,

Recently had a FWB (20) cut ties with me because she wanted to pursue things with a single dad who is in his late 40's with kids. I am mid/late 20's have a decent paying job (120K annual) with the ability to earn more in future, been lifting for 6 years so have a decent body, live a very social life and always keep myself busy.

Saw a few pics of this guy and it really confused me... The bloke is balding, has your typical dad bod, out of shape, 3 kids, is late 40's, more than twice her age etc...

I will be honest, it has been a real hit to my ego, because I can't wrap my head around why she would drop me for him? I mean the guys kids are almost her age which is fucking weird. Any thoughts here?


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Title Dropped by a FWB and It has confused me....
Author newtothepill123
Upvotes 73
Comments 118
Date 07 October 2019 03:43 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/289145
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[–]juccal109 points110 points  (3 children) | Copy

perhaps she wanted a real a relationship not fwb

[–]newtothepill123[S] 8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah ok that's fair - it would be a lot easier to understand this if he wasnt more than twice her age with kids and a downgrade in looks though... she isnt bad looking and could do better than me and 10000x better than him... Ah well it is what it is.

[–]babybopp40 points41 points  (0 children) | Copy

beta bucks.. then majorly cuck him.

you no longer fit the equation. and most likely she has serious daddy issues that you really dont want to get involved with.

[–]juccal0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I can tell you how it is, with no daft comments, from a woman's point of view. No silly comments, just the truth.

[–][deleted] 69 points70 points  (4 children) | Copy

General advice to move on:

Stop qualifying yourself, especially by wealth.

Stop allowing the actions of women to affect your emotional state. Even they don't know what they want or are doing.

There's always more where that came from.

[–]dingleburry_joe16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good shit, I've seen dude's with literally nothing pull chicks based on game and a strong frame. No job and not the best looking. If you qualify yourself to her you are already putting yourself beneath her.

[–]jackandjill222 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

His is what I was thinking. This guys way to into himself but I guess most guys who PUA really often have a huge Ego like this.

[–]YouWannaPutMoneyOnIt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Solid fucking advice lmao

[–]Livecrazyjoe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is the best advice here.

[–]LooksmaxxedCurry83 points84 points  (52 children) | Copy

Well couple of reasons -

  1. Women are emotional creatures. They'll leave (or at the very least cheat on) the hottest, highest earning dudes for an ugly old bloke who can capture their minds and keep them on their feet.
  2. In general, older dudes know how to lay pipe better just out of experience.
  3. Is he rich? Most people are gonna say she's using him for money but the truth is if you were hitting it right she would still come get some on the side.

Either way, it doesn't matter. Don't trip over 1 FWB, go out and fuck 10 girls hotter than her and post pics where she can see em. Add the good ones to your rotation. Keep fuckin these hoes, put your purpose above everything else, and move on with your life. Nothing good or productive will come from trying to find "reasoning" or "validation" from an online forum. You got this shit brother. Don't let a hoe get your ego down. You still hit that shit. Stroll around like a cocky motherfucker and stop giving a fuck about this bitch.

[–]newtothepill123[S] 16 points17 points  (14 children) | Copy

Thanks for the words of encouragement bro. It just has me completely confused and has hit my ego. I would have thought a girl her age would be more likely to ride the CC then to settle down for an "old beta bux".... No idea if he is rich, but I would assume so, because I cannot for the life of me see how he is any better than me physically (unless he has a monster cock).

[–]cuztrp31 points32 points  (8 children) | Copy

Man why are you ruminating over a girl who decided to throw all of that potential in the laps of an old loser?

You don't get it, do you? It's her loss, not yours. It'll take time for you to finally understand but you're the prize and she's fucked it all up.

Take some time to recover and then get back in the game.

Release the negative emotions you're experiencing. Surrender to them, don't hide them. Do things that'll help you experience the emotion more, don't run away from them. And finally when you feel better, get back on track.

[–]aDrunkenWhaler13 points14 points  (7 children) | Copy

Why is that guy a loser though? He's a 40+yr old dude fucking a 20yr old, stealing her from a young ripped dude, has 3 kids, and he's probably accomplished with a lot of money. Seems to me he's a fucking king.

[–]SomaNoob 1 points [recovered]  (5 children) | Copy

Implying he's actually fucking her, and not just "lol here's some money can we M A K E L O V E now"

No one's a king unless you actually need to bow to them

[–]noxer94 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy

But implying he is a loser is all of a sudden right? lmao

[–]SomaNoob 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

Nope. Implying anything is wrong. Why do you care about a 40yr old guy, are you gay?

[–]noxer94 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

"Implying anything is wrong", but then you go and imply I'm gay for caring about a 40 years old guy? Oh let me guess, since its you, it's not wrong.

Btw, I'm curious now; What would be the difference between caring about a 40 years old guy and a 20 years old guy (op) like you did? Why caring about a 20 years old guy does not make you gay? Or it makes you maybe less gay?

I'm not sure if you're a troll or just retarded

[–]SomaNoob 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Found the bp

[–]DiggerClam0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed!

Someone find out who KingDingaLing is and get him to write a TRP guide for OP.

[–]Bascome18 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

Old guy here.

Think of sex, not like bodybuilding where the young have a clear advantage. Instead, think of it like jujitsu where experience rules supreme.

Why would you think for one second that you are better than I am at sex when I have been doing it longer than you have been alive? At 50 my physical abilities are about 90 percent what they were at your age. My knowledge is a lot more than 10 percent more than yours and more than makes up for the physical difference.

I would hope you find this information encouraging, life doesn't get worse as fast as you seem to think.

As far as why this girl would pick someone like me over you. A hell of a lot less stress for one. My life is settled most questions are answered and my ducks are all in a row. I am drama free and exactly as advertised.

I hope you find all this encouraging.

[–]LaimbeerAdvocate6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

But but but i'm not balding. The old dude in this story is definitely the bigger alpha.

[–]brassknuckls-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Even despite I do agree with most of your comment, judging one's experience by his age is a wrong move. Some people in their 20s may get laid 10 times more than some folks in their 50.

[–]johncillo5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

There is an old guy that respond to you on why, but I will underline it: Experience and game. Clearly you are seeing now that game reigns over other things. This guy probably has a rock hard frame and you are here pouting over her, maybe he fucked her and made her squirt for the first time or maybe fucked her while traveling, maybe she has daddy issues and he treats her like her little girl. It doesn’t matter, what you can do now is to get over yourself, read Rational Male one more time, read outcome independence posts and you’ll see the bigger picture. Make sure you get better everyday. Stay safe bro.

[–]rnsbrum0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Same thing happened to me, and its driving me NUTS!

[–]agjrpsl2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why fuck a $20 hoe when you can fuck two $10 hoes.

[–]SolidLiquidGasPlasma0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Underrated comment, if you’re hitting it right she WILL come back

[–]yungelonmusk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Keep fuckin these hoes

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[–]BusterVadge12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm 45 and have dated 20 year olds but it has always been purely about sex. I don't see that here... Like you said, this dude is out of shape and doesn't seem to have much going for him. Maybe she's got some deep seated daddy issues? Doesn't matter to you now though, what's done is done and you're going to be better off moving on.

[–]furcryingoutloud10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

1- Why are you fretting over this?

2- There could be a million reasons why she happened to switch to that guy, none of them reflecting on you.

3- Not all women are wired the same. And most likely, we're talking about anywhere from this guy being a serious beta, which may suit her, to a full blown alpha with a 20 inch dick.

4- Why would you give a fuck?

I've never seen a woman leave me for someone that could make me feel any less because she chose him. Usually, I just feel happy for the poor fuck if he's getting that. Your ride is over, quit dwelling on it and find a new ride. You're acting like you have oneitis.

Does your self esteem depend on someone else? Are you not convinced yet that you yourself are worthy? This is not a competition, she was going to leave, period. Also, no need to belittle that guy. He scored a decent ride if you're sitting there whining about it.

[–]SwedishKnigth0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This.

[–]jackandjill22-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Typical PUA, incel don't complain about shit like this because they understand thst women are fundamentally irrational. This dude is crying over the dating equivalent of skilled milk.

[–]BeeBopJoe13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude shes just a FWB why do u give a fuck

[–]moltenw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Even if she was a LTR he shouldn't give a fuck.

Not worth emotionally investing in any shape of a relationship with a woman. Just enjoy it for what it is and if all goes south, move on.

[–]AlphaBinomialDistrib33 points34 points  (5 children) | Copy

These comments suck so far. People are saying you caught one itus and that she went to beta bux. They must not have read your OP.

This would be a shot to any guys ego and this happens a lot for inexplicable reasons. You probably make more money and since you are single you have more purchasing power and flexibility.

TRP doesn’t explain this.

I just have a feeling she has greener pasture syndrome and she will realize that situation will suck too.

If there is any constant with women, it's that they are never satisfied. This is why a pump-and-dump scheme works so well because initial encounters are pumped with emotional steroids and it will really be the apex of their emotional arousal. The only problem is, if you're ok with breaking a few hearts along the way. Don’t feel to bad though. You gave them a bunch of material to talk to their friends about.

[–]newtothepill123[S] 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Massive shot to the ego you are 100% right. I would completely understand if she went for someone more attractive/better body/higher pay/single etc - but it feels like she has downgraded in all aspects. Massive wtf? The fact that he has kids as well I thought would be a deal breaker for a girl her age - it all makes 0 sense to me? But yes, of course I am on no contact and moving on from her. Still pisses me off though.

[–]AlphaBinomialDistrib5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

You should be pissed.

You are the best option. If she can’t see it, it’s totally on her. Trust me. She won’t be happy with this guy and you will be the good one that got away.

[–]SomaNoob0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's okay to be pissed for like an hour or so. Not for an entire day. I just hope OP has got it together and that he's now fucking some rand girl real good.

[–]Endorsed Contributorbalalasaurus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

For future reference women care less about a man with kids than men care about a women with kids. If anything having kids means that a man has means to support both himself and others and that he is responsible to some degree: qualities in line with those of a beta bux.

[–]cuztrp0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I simply think the girl's dumb or into older guys or whatever the fuck. Whatever it is, it unhealthy and not good

[–]scorpionkg8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Human behavior is not like math. And you will not have all variables to analyze that situation. Be glad that you have done your work and are in the beat version of yourself. Next one and don’t show her any shit. Be cool and hold your frame, that is what you have to do.

[–]okuli7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe she just wanted commitment, she knows that the dude won't run away or cheat. We don't know what she is, maybe she prefers comfort to smv, not all women are competitive for highest value guy.

[–]ricardomhv2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Confidence >>>looks, money and game

[–]bowhunter8572 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This entire post is scarcity mentality 101

[–]ReformSociety1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop. Take a deep breath.

She is no longer in your life. Don't waste another thought on her or why she did what she did.

Move forward with your life.

[–]Schhwing1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can't beat yourself up about this stuff man. Humans are complicated and she could have made this decision for any number of reasons. "Daddy figure", maturity, maybe the dude really DGAF, which you seem to be struggling with etc.

BUT THE KEY POINT IS, WHAT YOU WANTED IN HER WAS NOT COMPATIBLE WITH WHAT SHE WANTED IN YOU. Once you accept that just move on and find (more than one) someone who is compatible with you.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tingles.

You'll never know "why". So get over it.

[–]KillaJewels1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He fucks her better. Stronger boundaries. Owns her mind better. Don’t underestimate old guys.

Experience breeds confidence, confidence breeds success.

[–]ejwarrior821 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He was more Masculine and had a stronger Frame.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Translation: ”Dear AskTRP : I have Oneitis for my FWB, and I’m butthurt that she moved on to another guy who older and who I think is not as cool as me.”

AskTRP: “Shit happens. Or maybe you just aren’t that cool. Or: Older Men, Younger Women: How & When It Can Work

[–]Kabuki4311 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like my ex. But in short she's damaged goods and you dodged a bullet.

My ex oneitis left me for a 70 disabled biker guy cause she loved bike rides. Yep plain and simple damaged goods. Theres no explanation to it

[–]anal_coke5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

$$$$$ beta bux

[–]Pushnikov3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

AWALT.

There are two modes of thinking. Heuristic Models and Systematic Models

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heuristic-systematic_model_of_information_processing

Everyone uses both. But women lean heavily on solipsism, so that when they follow their heuristic model, they assume that it’s always legitimate rational action. “I feel it, therefore it’s true.”

If you see women’s actions as a series of emotional/cognitive shortcuts that they regularly take, you’ll have a better grasp of why this may have happened.

Random series of simple rules that may have gone through her head.

“Older men want to settle down more.” “He already has children, so I don’t have to have children if I don’t want them.” “He’s really funny, that means he’s so confident.” “Dad bods are sexy!”

There’s this really sexy Russian girl I know that loves dating unattractive pudgy guys. Her friends met me on our first date randomly and basically were like, “wow, you actually dated an attractive guy!” She stroked my cock in the car, we made out, and then We never went on a date again!

Some girls are just hard wired like that, and really will never do the relationship math any differently. The take away should be: thank god women have shit taste, or most guys wouldn’t have a chance.

[–]cydestiny1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

because I can't wrap my head around why she would drop me for him?

Without further context, none can answer. Anyone who can is either a fortune teller or a novelist.

Any thoughts here?

The truth is, yes, he have got something that you don't but it's none of your concern, really. Both you and the guy are better than the other at some point of time, else why did you became a FWB for her? So there is no point debating why.

The why which is important here, is why did you fell being hurt egoistically? Because you had invested in her (bought her some stuff in exchange of the sex or doing somethings for her or merely just your time/emotion) and that you had compared yourself to someone that you clearly did not even met.

If it's the first, then enjoy your time being sad and helpless because you're the one who put yourself in this mess, you deserve it. But it's not the end, take your time to recover and remember this feelings to not over-commit next time.

If it's the later, it's easier, whether it's the guy or that guy, remember that it is not your fight, it's hers. She choose what she wants, the reason and outcome is irrelevant to you. What is relevant to you is what you want from her? Sex? Validation?

Be truthful to yourself, don't point fingers on others and start to actually shallow the pill. I see you have weak understanding to how the SMP works.

tl:dr The ideal case here is show her that you couldn't care less what she's pursuing and show her that you believe that she will come crawling back to you for sex next week.

[–]GregTRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She'll be back in 2 months when she wants gorilla fucked.

She's seen it as a chance to score the beta or just the grass being greener. When she gets bored but still wants his wallet she'll be blowing up your phone.

[–]KoolAidMan79800 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What was this girl’s family situation like? Did she have her father in her life? Did she come from a good home or had a tough childhood growing up? 9 out of 10 times with girls that seek out much older men, they come from single parent homes where the father wasnt around or if he was it was an abusive situation. These are key issues to vet for as you get older and want to get into an LTR with a girl because these issues really screw up their brains and youre the one who suffers the consequences.

[–]newtothepill123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Her parents split in the last year and I am pretty sure it was because her dad cheated. Should have picked up that she had daddy issues...

[–]matrixtospartanatLV0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

F20 made a bad choice/decision.

Shocker.

Learn from it and move on.

[–]ChadThundagaCock0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Wait you're that young and make 120?

[–]newtothepill123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yep - finance manager hoping to be promoted to CFO in a couple of years.

[–]deathhandmachiavelli0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This example also illustrates that conventional SMV is not everything.

There is something about the guy, the way he treats her, or the way she is wired, that makes her like this old guy better than OP (at the present time, anyways).

[–]neveragoodtime0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stop trying to assign rational thought to her emotional actions.

She wanted something different, that doesn’t mean it’s better.

Don’t assign value to yourself or other men based on female sexual selection.

She was never yours, it was just your turn.

Lots of girls have daddy issues. Your salary and lifting aren’t going to solve them for her.

[–]totoro_make0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think as a man you’re just trying to find a logical reason why a woman would do something so obviously bad for her and that there is your mistake, women possess little to none of it

[–]nateydanger0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Here's a question I don't think we've addressed in this conversation yet: How did she enhance YOUR life outside of sex? Remember you are the prize here. You are the one that has the money, the future, the goals etc. You are the catch, and if she want's to throw that away for another dude don't beat yourself up. People make mistakes. I'm not much of a gambling person but I'd wager that she'll be back in a few months.

More importantly, why are you worried so much about it? TRP teaches things like having multiple plates and abundance mentality for such occasions. If you are everything you say you are you should have another 2 7-10's lined up. If you still feel the need to beat yourself up take as a lesson instead of a loss. Meditate and evaluate your moves and countermoves in this situation. What can i do to grow in this situation.

Either way kill the sad boy shit. we aren't here to wonder why some girl broke your heart we are men of action. On to the next.

[–]ColdBeing0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Some girls just like older dudes. One of my plate's friends (21) only dates mature men (30+) because "they age like fine scotch" lmao

[–]SolidLiquidGasPlasma0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah she’s maybe...looking for something else

[–]Ranocore0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Temporary beta bucks / relationship with a beta provider. Let her walk while you go radio silent on her indefinitely. If you have a firm high-value frame, she’ll boomerang back to you regardless of you wanting her back or not.

[–]HaroldTFinch0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He does important things to her better than you can do.

Relationship Communication Sex

... Usual things

[–]_Ulan_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Men's peak time is 45. You're just not ripe yet

[–]Gr33d3ater0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You say you’re mid to late 20s? Which the fuck is it?... you say “mid to late 20s” for someone you don’t know... you know your own age, what’s with the mysticism? Makes me assume you’re more like mid to late 30s. I mean you called out the girl for being exactly 20, now you’re saying that you are 23-29?... that’s a pretty big fucking margin for me to say my own age is....

Just say your fucking age dude, what’re you trying to trick us into believing? You aren’t going to get honest help when all you do is lie. Also what’s your annual take home have to do with any of this? You know that if you’re doing shit right your salary means little to nothing right.

[–]newtothepill123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you really need to know my age I am 28. Only reason I mentioned my salary because I am not a deadbeat and can take care of myself, have my own place etc -

[–]SheriffBart420 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Rather than figuring out that mystery, I suggest you stop mixing your ego up with what one dumb bitch decides to do.... and move onto the next one.

[–]1walawalawa0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Similar situation happened nearly 2 months ago. A plate I was banging hard just suddenly went for a dude who is an acquaintance of mine. Weird story, I was banging her a few times over the last year. She moved to my city, she texted me. She came over to my place one night I was djing. I banged her 4 times in a huge balling session. We went to my event. She met another guy and left with him. They've been together since.

He doesn't know. She keeps staring at me. It was strange to me. I thought I'd done everything right. But maybe she wanted a "boyfriend"?

In any case, the why's don't matter. I ghosted her and found a new plate in the rotation.

In my case the guy had a car...I have no idea what else was going through her mind but for me to dwell on it was useless. You say she's a plate. You should always have 2-3 more on rotation.

That way you maintain an abundance mentality.

Stop comparing yourself to other guys. Figure out ways to find higher quality women.

[–]The1ndex0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do not ever attempt to rationalize a woman’s actions with logic.

[–]wawakaka0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Older dudes worship younger women like your girl

He's probably super beta with her and she likes it

Women love to be worshipped

[–]DevilishRogue0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She was never yours, it was just your turn. This guy could be a real smooth talker, romantic, rich, have the right star sign for her or whatever. That you let it affect your ego is your beta trying to control your frame. Strangle that and understand that this was never a forever thing.

[–]Red_Pill_Brotherhood0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe she has a thing for older dudes. Could be anything. Who cares. You have high value from what youre saying and sometimes people make stupid decisions that dont make sense. Just keep on keeping on.

[–]PolesWithGoals0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

They usually just follow the money

[–]SeasonedRP0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The main reason is he's not you. Women don't keep a spreadsheet and rigorously compare the various factors that go into SMV and choose the guy with the highest score. Too many people here want to understand the logic of a woman jumping ship. There really isn't any. You are trying to do an objective comparison, but women don't think that way. They get bored and want something different. It could also be something as simple as she wants commitment now and he's willing to give it.

[–]deadcastles0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You honestly seem “too perfect.” Like you live your life just to fit the stereotypical mold of what women find attractive. The dad probably is more chill and secure with himself. He’s had kids, had a wife, and is probably just looking for fun. You seem hung up on the analytics and completely miss the underlying psychology of the situation.

[–]Harshtroof0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If women realize things are going nowhere with you they will cut things off, at least temporarily. She probably realized you weren't going to wife her up so she moved on. It doesn't necessarily mean the other guy is better, just means your time with her ran out.

[–]Snowboard180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Some women need a man in their life that they can control to feel secure

[–]DiggerClam0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

FWB (20)

WRONG

This post has oneitis written all over it. If you had more girls you wouldn't care about this hoe. Scarcity mindset. Why aren't you fucking other girls?

[–]philltered0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

They always come back. Maintain radio silence

[–]MR_SKINNYPENIS690 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

I've seen a lot of very good posts on TRP explaining why women downgrade but I can't for the life of me remember the reasons.

[–]Sobinia2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

  1. Low self-esteem
  2. They know that once they hit the wall and don't manage to put "wife goggles" on their high-quality husband/LTR's eyes, he'll ditch them for a younger and hotter model, simply because he has options. A beta guy will remain loyal, because if he divorces his older wife, he won't manage (or is too afraid to) to find any new option for sex that's better than his spouse. Therefore, he'd rather not risk anything and just stay with his SO, as long as her flaws are somewhat tolerable.
  3. They have a more dominative character, which is repulsive to alphas, who don't want to deal with shit tests, hysteria, being controlled and changed if they have tons of other options. Betas, however, will see a mother figure in such a girl. Someone that will cook, clean and look after them.
  4. Betas are easier to lock down than alphas.
  5. Betas give attention and validation just because the girl exists. Alphas, however, want their girlfriends to earn their attention and commitment and not every girl wants to do so.
  6. Betas are easier to manipulate and listen to their spouses, unlike alphas.
  7. Some girls are under the radar of alphas. They don't even realise they exist. Therefore, these girls learn to love betas and, if they never get alpha widowed, will manage to create a long and stable relationship without major power struggles. That's also one of the reasons why, in the past, women were married off at an early age and were often shamed for showing interest in sex. A beta-bitch will never please a girl like an alpha. He'll never make her so wet and aroused that she'll come in a matter of seconds. When I dated beta guys in my teens, genuinely believing that tingles only appeared in romance novels and a romantic relationship is something a bit like friendship, I could always easily turn down offers of sex from my boyfriends, telling them that I don't want to sleep with anyone until I finish school and get a job, so that, if I accidentally get pregnant, I'll manage to raise the child. Once an alpha noticed and started pursuing me, though, he managed to take my virginity after less than a week of dating. He completely made me lose my control and ever since he has told me I'm not exactly his type (after a few months of dating), I still haven't fully recovered from the breakup. There's a high probability that I'll never develop such strong feelings for any other guy.

[–]geo_gan1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

That last bit. The very definition of alpha widow.

[–]Sobinia0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yep, sadly... I'm currently trying to improve myself both looks- and character wise (losing weight, actually caring for my appearance, being responsible)to learn to be happy alone. If attract someone like my ex and actually get to lie him, then good. If not.. I have other things to do in life as well. Luckily for me, I won't be forced to marry a beta-loser like it's the 19th century.

[–]geo_gan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

At least you actually admit the difference exists... unlike those idiots who insist there is no such thing as alpha/beta male.

[–]Haytch12340 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He probably knows how and when to hit the right buttons.

When it comes to sex, women will fuck whatever gets her pussy wet. Even if the guy doesnt look good on paper.

Having a high paying job, etc are positive traits and nice to have.

But just having a rock solid frame is what gets pussy wet.

Dont take it personal. You should be happy for the dude. Shes just a hoe.

[–]HeartbreakHotline-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are trying to justify/ reason an emotional based being / action with logic, don’t mix feelings with logic, cause you won’t find an answer with the latter, or at all. Keep moving toward.

[–]frognads-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You just described the plot of Café Society.

She likes money. Move the fuck on.

[–]thrwy75479-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Perhaps she has daddy issues? Perhaps she feels she can get commitment from him, but not from you?

It's impossible to know what the exact reason(s) may be.

[–]Shadows1455-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women can be very irrational creatures, trying to find an explanation for their behavior is a waste of time.

Tell yourself that it's just how it is, you were unlucky but you do not care because you'll find other women to replace her

[–]TheBunk_TB-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Branch swinging or baby rabies?

[–]pukima_sial-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is this a repost? I've read this before

[–]Wodensnacht-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Beta bux. Sugar daddy.

Just wish her luck & soon enough she'll come back to your dick



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