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Found out about gf's loser exes and past slutty behavior. Not feeling attracted to her anymore due to this. Advice? Thanks!

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October 8, 2019

Hi guys, I have a little dilemma if you may help me.

I'm seeing this girl, we're both 24yo. She's submissive, feminine, always in my frame, she does everything exactly how I want her to do it, she cooks, cleans, washes my dishes, pays for me when we're out, not splitting the bill, she straight up pays fully.

Basically, there's no reason for me to not consider her LTR material.

Except I just found out about some of her exes (from one of her girlfriends who I'm also friends with) which I know through mutual friends, and all of them are straight up losers for lack of a better word. I've heard from a friend that some of those exes of her are friends between them and she was seeing 2 of them at the same time. Basically straight up slut behavior.

With me, as I said, she acts exactly how I want her to act, she told her parents about me, uploaded pics with us together on social media etc... It's just that I can't get over this thought, knowing who her exes are and how she could fuck men like that. It kinda disgusts me and makes me not feel attracted to her for this simple reason.

Should I next her, keep pumping and dumping her or give her a chance? I appreciate your advice, thanks!

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Title Found out about gf's loser exes and past slutty behavior. Not feeling attracted to her anymore due to this. Advice? Thanks!
Author zav25
Upvotes 58
Comments 104
Date 08 October 2019 01:49 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]Patches0wholahan403 points404 points  (26 children) | Copy

Every girl has at least fucked if not dated a POS dirt bag. Get used to that. If she is a good house bunny, I’d keep her around. Better then paying some other low life bitch to do it.

Also, if your girl has dated a bunch of dirtbags, look in the mirror. Her taste probably haven’t changed if she’s only 24.

Edit: Well fuck me and give me oneitis... I got gold.. thanks!

[–]niceguyputin118 points119 points  (10 children) | Copy


[–]rizzyfromthe937 points38 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Patches0wholahan 1 points [recovered]  (8 children) | Copy

Wow what?

[–]niceguyputin52 points53 points  (7 children) | Copy

I liked the second paragraph

[–]Patches0wholahan 1 points [recovered]  (5 children) | Copy

I’m not trying to call out OP or hurt his feelers. Just how I see it. Girls don’t date gang bangers one day and the next get with the honorable pastor of the church.

[–]niceguyputin16 points17 points  (4 children) | Copy

Alright muchacho. I suspect you’re right

[–]Patches0wholahan 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

What’s muchacho?

[–]niceguyputin1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Heard it on tv, no clue. Sounds cool

[–]Patches0wholahan 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Is it a name?

[–]niceguyputin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Axehead880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Judd Nelson harsh. I love it.

[–]ozzieb2322 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]zav2533 points34 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's deep. Thanks for replying!

[–]1MrTheFalcon26 points27 points  (2 children) | Copy

Also, if your girl has dated a bunch of dirtbags, look in the mirror.

Nobody is forcing her to clean your house and pay for dinner, but you're also allowing complete servitude. You're complicit in this arrangement, and you bear some responsibility.

It was fine when you felt special, but now you know she's been completely submissive to other men that you consider to be beneath you, and now it's mundane.

You still want the maid service, but it's all going to fall apart when you don't have sex with her. I would move on before it gets messy.

[–]Patches0wholahan14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

“She is/was NEVER yours, it is/was just your turn. Enjoy it while it last.”

[–]Gr33d3ater2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Here’s something that doesn’t get said enough in this ask sub.

[–]Truedemocracy511 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh man the amount of “good girls” I’ve seen do slut shit abroad with low IQ any club rat is hysterical.

Oh your nerdy girl listens to NPR, likes podcasts, and has a 3.9 GPA? She still will get wild for the hot dumbass who has nothing in common with her

[–]urgentc16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

That really made me lough haha

[–]Freedom__Fighter6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

lol damn, an angle he has not yet considered!! LMAO

[–]enixyn4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]ticklethegooch14 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

hahahah snap

[–]jackandjill221 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Amazing advice. Like seriously A1.

[–]macheagle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]z2a1-90 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The hero we need.

[–]Domebeers24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is hilarious. Did you think your slut was a virgin? My gawd man, grow up. AWALT.

What's important: Her friend is trying to break you up. It means your girl likes you, otherwise the friend wouldn't be trying to create drama. This is good. If you want, try to fuck the friend creating drama.

[–]Ohboohoolittlegirl93 points94 points  (15 children) | Copy

LOl just cause YOU see them as low value, doesn't mean their SMV is low in womens eyes. Don't pretend to know who and what exactly has high SMV cause you aren't a woman. Do what you want, but realise you may not be such a great catch as you think you are.

Also, fairly big chance you are in some way like the guys she liked before.

Again, your judgement on them being losers is heavily tainted to start with. Also, she might get you to commit, which didn;t work with them, so who is the loser?

Also, if your LTR's past matters that much, perhaps you should not LTR..

[–]Manny140085 points86 points  (11 children) | Copy

the OP treats the girl like a house maid and can't even afford to buy her dinner, and yet he thinks he is high value. Go figure

[–]IFuckingHateAllergy31 points32 points  (4 children) | Copy

Lmao that's what actually caught my eye in the beginning. A dude who lets his woman pay for her. After that the rest of what I read was straight up garbage and purely rant. This guy doesn't even deserve a proper response to his inquiry.

Edit: The fact that he is too concerned about the type of men his gf has previously slept with shows a shit ton of insecurity.

[–]ProFriendZoner7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

I see that behavior in a lot of Beta Billies

[–]realdealdawg1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I can confirm this. That was me 3 years ago lol

[–]ProFriendZoner0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I was one too. Still am in some instances because it's so ingrained.

[–]WeddingCrasher910 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Billie Betas

[–]smirk_addict9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

So what if he says that he always pay for dinner? I’m sure you’d give him shit about that too.

[–]misls11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Uhh, it's 50/50. If she pays for the bill once, you pick it up the other time. We all give females shit for leeching off men like that, but when you're not footing the bill, you're exactly like one of those leeches that you so despise.

[–]Manny14000 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

nah. he should generally pick up the tab (or look like a broke-ass loser, or a cheapskate), but once they have been dating for a while, she can treat him to a meal

[–]smirk_addict0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I hope you’re being sarcastic. There is a happy medium perhaps but that sounds like something someone would say that doesn’t really know much about the community.

[–]jackandjill223 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yea, that's facts. I'm a mean son-of-a-bitch when I'm vetting a girl but I dont mind splitting a bill or paying for a dinner once. You have to be broke, broke to worry about that.

[–]thy_shall_win1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not defending OP but defending the statement about him not affording dinner. How did you get that from his question? He never said he can't afford to pay for meals but rather she will pay for meals.

How many women would pay the full bill to have a meal/drink with Brad Pitt? A fucking lot, that is how many. Where as your average Joe? None of the mid to high women would. Now would you tell me Brad Pitt isn't high value?

[–]ProFriendZoner7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Might get him to commit?

She's got him wrapped around his finger.

[–]Truedemocracy54 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Good perspective. Most blue pilled guys have no idea what goes into a mans smv (hence, being blue pilled). They think “I buy her flowers, I wear khakis and polos, I have a good office job, my smv is high” and “that guy is a dumb gym rat, he has a stupid tattoo, he says offensive things to her. His smv is low”

I often see this confusion with the beta bucks crowd. On the provider plane they are strong, but the smv plane they are weak (flabby bodies, safe personality, etc)

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[–]thebadguy8932 points33 points  (1 child) | Copy

The fact that she pays fully is a little worrisome to me for the stability of the relationship. This shows she thinks she has low value compared to you and that she REALLY wants to lock you down.

I'd let her go not just for your sake but also for hers. Women's SMV quickly drop over the course of her 20s and she should find an older guy who's ready to settle down. At age 24 you have so many years to pump and dump as many chicks as you want, but she does not.

[–]bigsunsetguy4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Didn’t expect to read this analysis. This is actually what OP should do tho

[–]maljo2427 points28 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep her. You think her exes are losers. They think you’re a loser. It’s all in the eye of the beholder.

[–]smirk_addict25 points26 points  (5 children) | Copy

The responses to this post are exactly the reason for that thread a few days ago. Half of you aren’t even trying to be helpful and just come here to shit on dudes.

OP I would just sit on this information and don’t make any quick decisions. If you decide over time you aren’t feeling it, don’t confront her with this. Because she technically didn’t do anything wrong to you and she’ll probably make an effort to hide or lie about this shit the next time and make a fool out of the next guy. Think of some other reason to end it. Don’t show any negative emotions that can be directed at her.

[–]zav251 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Thank you so much, a rational reply finally. Cheers mate!

[–]smirk_addict4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

No problem dude. What a shit show.

[–]mickey__0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

glad there's someone who can make conclusions on his own, few of us here

[–]ProFriendZoner8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Uhhh ... got news for you ... she's attracted to (your words) "... her exes are straight up losers, low value males, and she exhibits slut behavior."

Guess how she sees you?

She's not suddenly going to go against her pattern because you are just so awesome. She's not going to break her frame, and NO she's not in YOUR frame, YOU are in HERS.

You need to do a lot of work on yourself Captain Saveahoe.




[–]zav253 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for replying. It's an interesting perspective. Cheers!

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

. Basically straight up slut behavior. / With me, as I said, she acts exactly how I want her to act,


She dates who she chooses to date, you kinda have to accept that.

But seeing two at the same time? Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Look, it's simple: she might cheat, and things will likely end between you and chances are she'll initiate that. Is the rest of your life and your emotional self robust to that?

[–]jjj25764 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I give you permission to do what you want.

[–]bakachelera18 points19 points  (5 children) | Copy

You're no longer attracted to her. That's all that matters. There are other women who are worth your time and dont have a slut past.

[–]chim_city5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

I don't know why some women do that, they brag about their slutty past to try to impress us? and of course it makes us no longer attracted to them. [face smack emoji]

[–]bakachelera4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

You seem to lack some basic redpill knowledge, Im glad you're here. Some of that is basic women behaviour. Mostly shit tests or Competitive behaviour which can be explained by high testosterone. Was that (your woman telling you she was slutty) prompted by something you said or was it out of the blue?

[–]bakachelera3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh another thing.. consider every women has a past. Two partners and monkey branching with two low smv guys is not that slutty...

[–]mrpoopistan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bragging about N count is mostly about the fear that she's not attractive enough.

In my experience, high N count women have to lay it on thick about how many guys have wanted to fuck then. Low N count women bury their exes like cat turds.

[–]papapinga19 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy

Just string her along till you find somethin better. The worst is over now that you’re not even into her anymore. If she starts being a burden to have around just cut it off without a second thought. Free meals are free meals dude

[–]razezero19 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's straight up bitch behavior, you're advocating for the same shit you see women do. Fuck off, we should be better than that, no stringing along for free shit. Man up and make a choice one way or the other, don't listen to this scumbag

[–]BusterVadge4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Basically, there's no reason for me to not consider her LTR material.

The biggest reason is your gut feeling about her, and she fails to pass the LTR test when it comes to that.

[–]BeeBopJoe2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

next next next next next next...............

Hard next

[–]PhaedrusHunt2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Okay not going to crap on you.

I think you're conflating your own SMV with these previous guys. Clearly she or at least her friend thinks you're different.

If you can't handle this new information do the right thing and move on or confront her about it if you feel like it. Probably better to just rest with that knowledge but you're going to have to have a poker face with her.

I was in a similar situation with an ex. I met her ex and he was a complete dork and a real honest-to-god loser that have been to rehab and all that stuff blah blah blah. It made me wonder why I was treating her well when he treated her like crap.

Let's just say the whole thing didn't work out and I couldn't really have self-respect if I continued that relationship with her.

If you want to dump her clean just tell her you did some recon and found out that she had been sleeping with two guys at the same time in the past and it's too high risk for that to happen to you so you're bouncing.

Then go game her friend. Sounds like she's into you.

[–]YouWannaPutMoneyOnIt4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think this is actually a plus, she’s been around, now she knows what she wants and she isn’t going to chance losing it if everything is how you say.

You’re clearly her top alpha, just remember it’s only your turn, keep improving yourself, and with the mindset and outlook you’ll likely keep her around, find someone better? That depends- but if someone “better” still had the same behavior , cause AWALT, what would you do then?

I wouldn’t break it off over this one, maybe you can get her to do some freak shit, and get her out of her comfort zone, but only or you. When you bring power into the relationship dynamic it’s harder for her to let go if she only wants to be submissive to you.

[–]shegotmass1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She is nothing special OP don't waste your youth with someone you're not even that into and dating for convenience. Also she is at the age where she is starting to look for a husband, so she is already taking in to account your job prospects and future earnings. So don't think she is as committed as she currently acts or tells you or that she will maintain all of her positive behavoirs those are lures for husband prospects.

Regardless not being comfortable with the sexual history of the women you're dating is just going to be something that lingers and doesn't go away, you will regret dating as long as you did when you break up.

[–]PIGamer861 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do what you want. Own your decision.

[–]Cocksmasher691 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP, since no one is going to tell you this since you're in an incel echo chamber:

You're pathetic, dick is abundant and low in value, and when she dumps you she'll have NO trouble find a more valuable male. Just keep that in mind while you prowl for more women with low enough self-esteem to be around you willingly. You'll be fine too, unfortunately.

[–]Haytch12341 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pump and dump her. If you are not attracted to her why would you stay with her?

It will eat into your conscious for the rest of your life.

[–]SilverGryphon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You should always assume that a girl you are with has fucked several other dudes. Remember she is not yours but it is only your turn. Your post was mentioned in female dating strategy and they are all talking about how they should hide their sexual past while expecting to know yours.

Now matter how innocent she appears to be, you can be sure she fucked other dudes. Remember that guys.

[–]redpilllogin3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

My girlfriend is perfect, but I just found out she wasn't perfect in the past before I even knew she existed. I can't be with her anymore. I'm also 11 years old.

[–]furcryingoutloud2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I had a girl like this. She was a spitting image of what you describe yours to be. She is also extremely hot. I'd say a 8/10. But her exes were like, the funniest and lowest in the ladder. It's like her smv meter was broke. I won't call them losers, because these guys were making money, but they were not what you'd call high smv.

In any case, I persistently refused to acknowledge a relationship with her and finally, she found some guy who was head over heels for her. She's been with him for 4 or 5 years now, her smv meter completely broken.

There are lots of women who are straight 9's and their choice of an SO is the worse, some of them don't like the competition. They don't like their SO's to be admired or wanted by her friends and shit. It's a very weird thing.

You don't need to next her man. Just don't make her an LTR. Like, ever. Chances are, she'll be around forever if you play your cards right.

[–]1XXXMersenne1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Listen to this very carefully.

It helped me a lot!

[–]zav250 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks. Will do!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Who the fuck are you to call someone a loser.

[–]Garathon10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Must have something in common with the other losers if that's her type.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

hahaha yeah must be man

[–]vicvicsum71 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You sound like a loser yourself...letting her pay? Lol

[–]Watido4080 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

AWALT. No point to move on.. most women are alpha widows

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bro this things doesn't matter, all women are sluts, women had slutty past so do we.

[–]lt0502860 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Large majority of women are like this ,You know her past and now can deal with her accordingly, don’t let the good pussy blind you.

Best of luck.

[–]rdotskip0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh also her friends are shit talking her because they lowkey wanna fuck you

[–]razezero10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If she was cheating earlier then run and don't look back. Once a cheater always a cheater definitely applies. No stringing along or second guessing, just power play and dip. Also if you care about this girl on the slightest tell her exactly why you are leaving, let her know that because she has cheated she is no longer worth your time.

[–]Rick_White0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds more like a potential narcissist.

Love bombing. Establishing relationship quickly. Trying to please you constantly.

What's her temper like? Is she emotionally needy?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's your well behaved triple orificed fuck machine and she's doing what she's supposed to.

Reward that shit and don't let the past bug you. We all start out as fucking morons and evolve from there.

Some people can't stop being morons, able humans grow out of stupid shit, usually by making those mistakes and learning from them.

Just my view.

She fucked the dudes that were there, she didn't hold out for a super chad, she wanted to fuck so she fucked.

She's not with those losers now, she's with you.

If it's a huge deal gather up some more plates till you find one that's better then cut her loose.

[–]Red_King26020 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Have you got money? A good job? A house? Read more on here and you might figure out what's going on here.....

[–]PandaLLC0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You don't sound like a catch either, so we can say she has a type.

[–]Poopmouth98-2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy

Her past matters not, its who she has grown to be that matters, a wonderful strong women. She is nice to you because she see you as a real man and one she respects and could see herself grow old with. Yes, you finished last ( innside her) but YOU are the ONE now, enjoy it!


[–]1redhawkes2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Use the sarcasm font next time

[–]Dude_Mon1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lol, so many bitches will say this unironically

[–]Poopmouth980 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I cant fucking belive I belived every word that came out of my mom and womens mouth when they said this stuff.

[–]frognads0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

This is where you learn it's better to 'don't ask, don't tell' and also AWALT motherfucker

[–]smirk_addict2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

How do you conclude sticking you head in the sand is the best option? You need just be able give off a non judgmental vibe while you assess if shit is a dealbreaker for you or not.

[–]frognads0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Because all women are like that. No point fretting

[–]SeriousAccount00 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy


[–]ProFriendZoner0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not only read it, but comprehend it. Too many read it and interpret it to fit their view instead of understanding the concepts.

[–]juccal-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Were you a virgin when you meet her?. Sorry everybody has a past, don't just judge her on them, as no dought you have one

[–]rdotskip 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

This post is pretty ridiculous lol. I know girls from back in high school who had waaaay higher N counts and had more, actual slutty motives. You’re acting like this girl was having sex with 10 different dudes at the same time. Like dude, TRP suggests plating, BECAUSE women do the SAME thing. When you start judging them on doing that, you might as well start judging yourself also lol. Finding a girl with a low N count isn’t impossible but it should be assumed they don’t.

[–]trpppp1231 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Unfortunately it bugs most men because plating as a man requires a lot more skill than for a woman. Women have abundance by default while a man has to work to cultivate abundance.

[–]HectoSexual-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do you know why you think her slutty past matters?

YOUR insecurity.

How many plates have you spun? Get that number over 50 and I guarantee you will never care about a women’s past ever again.

It just simply doesn’t matter.

[–]PhaedrusHunt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My n count is in that range but plates? Not even close. Maybe half? Hell I don't know but the mindset you mentioned is in me at this point. I've been with enough women to sort of understand them lol

[–]TimelessNY-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

she cooks, cleans, washes my dishes, pays for me when we're out, not splitting the bill, she straight up pays fully

when is your next vet visit? ticks are bad this time of year make sure you get the frontline

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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