Former LTR has popped up. What to do? Plate?

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October 9, 2019
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I touched on this in my OYS this week, but want to get a few more thoughts.

Last week a former LTR hit me up out of the blue. At first it was just catching up a bit, but after a couple of days she turned things sexual fast. Now shes saying things like she "misses choking on my cock", how she wants me to fuck her in the back of her car in a crowded parking lot, etc. She's fully aware that I'm married and I dont discuss any details of my marriage with her (she has no idea that my wife hasn't let me fuck her since January), but insists that she just wants to be my "secret little fuck toy." Shes 4 years younger than me, but has hit the wall face first. Still fuckable, but definitely not what she used to be.

Sex was always insanely great with this LTR but she was too clingy and emotional, so I bailed. While it has been 15 years, I'm worried that she'll catch feelz and become a problem. Should also mention that she is also married but separated, and lives half way across the country from me. My work involves travel and I could easily go on a "work trip" just to meet up and fuck her with minimal suspicion from wife.

I'm torn...debating on plating her or ghosting. I'm not sure I have the frame to manage a plate quite yet. Since shes an ex with history, also worried about her catching feelz and nuking my marriage.

On the other hand I havent seen a pussy in 9 months and I'm fucking losing my shit. Also could give me the chance to practice game and frame.

Should I plate this one, or wait to game fresh girls that are younger and hotter when I'm further along in my red pill improvement? It's not too late to ghost her or cut her off if I decide not to fuck her. Any input is appreciated as always.


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Title Former LTR has popped up. What to do? Plate?
Author SmoovMove
Upvotes 14
Comments 48
Date 09 October 2019 01:34 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/289483
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/dfh494/former_ltr_has_popped_up_what_to_do_plate/
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[–]SeamusAwl41 points42 points  (4 children) | Copy

So, do you normally like digging through the garbage for an easy meal? What makes you think this time, with a now post wall female, will be better?

Are you desperate to get laid that you are willing to slide into a used up ex GF? One who is so post wall that she couldnt find action from tinder that she took the chance to reqch out to you? Hoping that are so thirsty and thatyou remember how “good” she was in bed she can rope you in?

[–]KoolAidMan798022 points23 points  (1 child) | Copy

Your comment completely knocked the luster off that pussy...lol

[–]SmoovMove[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yup. That's pretty much what just happened.

[–]SmoovMove[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are right. My faggot need for external validation is fogging my view of the bigger picture. Thank you.

[–]RoccoPinkman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ouch

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"12 points13 points  (7 children) | Copy

The dilemma...

Shes 4 years younger than me, but has hit the wall face first.

+

I havent seen a pussy in 9 months.

So I guess the nude text and the "come fuck me" comment didn't pan out?

Look, dude, if I recall correctly (1) you're a fat-ass who's (2) slightly less fat than before, when (3) you were a fucking monster lard-ass, and (4) you've let yourself go for a long-ass time, and so (5) the beta bux lifestyle you've provided to your (6) still beautiful wife, unfortunately (7) doesn't include the inspection-of, or insertion-of-your-penis-into her vagina, at all, ever.

Fucking tap the ass of horse face if you want, but know that you're not going to keep getting table scraps until you butch up, man up, frame up, and become a fucking man.

Know, too, that tapping any external ass can have consequences and blowback, so if that boo-hoo-hoo-I'm-so-scared-of-divorce-rape-whaaaaa that keeps you up at night is less boo-hoo-hoo if caused by a fat ugly girl with the face of a gorilla, then fucking have some, errr, fun.

[–]SmoovMove[S] 5 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy

Yes, your recollection of all things above is spot on.

I would be definitely trading down by fucking the ex, and likely fucking the limited progress I've made so far. I need to become less of a faggot and stick with the plan. Thank you.

EDIT: it did not pan out.

[–]RoccoPinkman4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy

That’s the problem with OYS, people fucking remember man. So when you come here like some chick hit me up with nudes, and dudes are like ‘aren’t you that faggot from last week who can’t get his wife to fuck him?’

[–]SmoovMove[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

That's a good thing right?

[–]RoccoPinkman3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yeah it’s a good thing that you don’t get wrapped up in your own bullshit and run away with yourself.

[–]SmoovMove[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Thus the point of me posting here. Keeping myself in check.

[–]RoccoPinkman2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

It worked

[–]SmoovMove[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Indeed it did.

[–]Morpheus_TNTB9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

An old sammich rotting in the dumpster started smelling really good since I'm starving. What to do?

[–]SmoovMove[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Deal with the starving and wait for the better meal. Got it.

[–]BarracudaRP0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Deal with

wait for better

Only because you're starting from a deficit, temporarily. Remember, you're becoming the kind of man who plans his own meals, and doesn't go starving any more.

I'm eating dinner tonight, even if my wife's not cooking. But I am fucking eating.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

In the middle, you just casually drop in about how your wife hasn’t fucked you in 9 months. Should you get a plate? Maybe, maybe not. But, don’t be so desperate to get a post was needy and clingy plate.

Have you read the sidebar? What are you lifts? If you aren’t getting laid by your wife, I’m assuming you’re frame is like a paper bag.

You’ve given us very limited, weak information, and then asked us to make a decision for you, which tells me you’re a faggot.

[–]SmoovMove[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

True...frame is still weak and faggot need for external validation is still strong. Thank you.

[–]savageinthebox4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

What are your lifts bro?

[–]tom-anonymous2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

The post-wall faced LTR will only be a distraction to your improvement plan. Think long term. Ask yourself if the person you want to become, the person you visualize yourself being 12-24 months from now would even consider being with this skank who wants to be used by a married man so willingly.

Your current wife might not be giving you sex now, but she might be willing to give sex to the version of you 12 months down the road. Are you willing to put that in jeopardy and screw your future self?

[–]SmoovMove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good point. The bigger picture and long term plan is more important. I'll cut this off immediately. I have too much work to do.

[–]RoccoPinkman2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

There’s a saying walk before you run

[–]Imaginary_Historian2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

At first I was going to say I might hit it once or twice, but then you said she's halfway across the country, post wall, clingy and emotional.

Honestly, I think the rules are slightly different when you are married and looking for side chicks. An ex who is truly cool with it all can actually be a good plate, but she has to be worth the risk. This one isn't.

[–]SmoovMove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I agree now. Plus I realize I dont have the frame for this kind of shit, and I'd be skipping all sorts of levels of dread.

Read and gym for now and cut off the ex.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

ITT:

A bunch of dummies who can't tell OP is a troll. No one who has not seen pussy in 9 months has someone reach out to him to choke on his dick.

[–]SmoovMove[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not trolling. But thanks for thinking I have that kind of time on my hands.

[–]SelectAirline2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm not sure I have the frame to manage a plate quite yet.

I'm sure that you don't. From your OYS post:

Still no sex, but no initiations by myself or the wife. Still not ready to initiate as my ego is still too fragile

If you're too scared to fuck your wife then a plate like this will eat you alive.

[–]SmoovMove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good point. Not ready to spin plates, especially a low quality possibly clingy and emotional one. I'll ditch her and continue my work. Thank you.

[–]askmeanything21 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Emotional, clingy, post wall, and needs to branch swing. See recent CPC celebrations for how to spot red flags.

[–]SmoovMove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, red flags all over. Cutting her off and will continue to work my MAP. Thanks.

[–]part_wolf1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

My work involves travel and I could easily go on a "work trip" just to meet up and fuck her with minimal suspicion from wife. Should also mention that she is also married but separated, and lives half way across the country from me.

So the plan is to pretend you're on a business trip and fly halfway across the country to make an unstable ex who is still married your "secret little fuck toy?" That's a lot of logistics; this must be some next level pussy.

Shes 4 years younger than me, but has hit the wall face first.

Oh.

I'm not sure I have the frame to manage a plate quite yet. I havent seen a pussy in 9 months and I'm fucking losing my shit.

If you're wanting us to talk you out of this, then both of these statements are correct.

Since shes an ex with history, also worried about her catching feelz and nuking my marriage.

I'd bet that you would be the one catching feelings. Your ex has a stronger frame than you.

[–]SmoovMove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm being fucking stupid and losing sight of the bigger picture. Thanks for the reminder.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Rabbit-boiler. Eject.

[–]SmoovMove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Already done. Thanks to the sub for putting me in check and getting my head right

[–]RicoDunne0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

dude you could be getting cat-fished. At any rate just string her along as a backup POA and for your needed validation.

[–]cdnrpc4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Twist, it's actually his current wife trying to catch him "cheating"

[–]SmoovMove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck....

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

IF you just need your dick wet that bad then just get a escort. Much cheaper than travelling to see her and almost zero chance of drama bubbling up and overflowing into your marriage

[–]JameisBong0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You could fuck her...but why would you?What has changed from when you last saw her that makes her more attractive or adds value to your DB situation? Find girls locally,go to any college bar on a Friday night and get your dick wet. Lift everyday, improve yourself and prepare for whatever comes next after your DB with your wife.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nope. Keep on improving until your wife is fucking you again or you are pulling fresh poon locally.

Some tips. You don't travel to get to a pussy. You find it local or on your travels, you don't travel BECAUSE of it.

She reached out because she needs a branch to swing to. If she just wanted a fuck she would have been burning up Tinder. She definitely wants a branch.

[–]IWantToHelpSometimes0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why not just divorce your wife and move on? Why so you have to cheat?

[–]redwall92-4 points-3 points  (4 children) | Copy

You've responded to every single reply to your original post so far.

Do you do this with your wife? God I hope not.

[–]SmoovMove[S] 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Jesus christ no. But why ask for advice and not respond when it is given?

[–]cdnrpc0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Lifts?

[–]SmoovMove[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Bench: 225 Squat: 250 DL: 280 OHP: 130

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Height and weight?

How about the sidebar? I’m assuming none since you evaded my question about it before.



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