Summary:

The other night my FWB hit me with the "I just can't do this anymore" talk. An hour later, she was charley horsing on my dick and swallowing my babies.

The cast:

Myself: 23, 15+ n-count A: FWB, 22, serial cheater, 15+ n-count

Both A and I have known each other for 5 years - strictly friends for about the first 3. It wasn't until after a couple threesomes last summer with my LTR at the time that A was promoted to FWB. Since then, we've been seeing each other and having sex on and off for about a year and a half.

Body:

After spending the whole day fucking around zip-lining, we went back to her place to unwind with some drinks.

A pint of bourbon and bottle of wine later, we're both laying atop one another on the couch. It's at this point that she always begins with her bombardment of both shit and comfort tests.

Her favorite one that she's been hitting me with lately is "I love you but I just can't do this friends with benefits thing anymore".

Lo and behold, that's the exact card she pulls on me for like the 25th time.

Typically, I'll pretend I don't hear her and force her to sit in silence. Doing this always ends with her changing the conversation, rambling on about whatever and us fucking like animals.

This time though, I decided to throw her hamster for a spin by responding with "look, that's fine. You just won't be the girl I have sex with then".

It's at this moment the no-huddle, air raid offense of shit and comfort tests begin.

"I love you", "I'm just so confused", "I haven't seen anyone other than you for the past 6 months", "I'm not interested in anyone right now", "I know at this point in my life I should be okay with a friends with benefits", "I just don't have my shit together like you", "why do you still stick around for me", "thank you for never judging me despite my past", "I don't know what we are", "I can't keep having sex with you if we're just going to be friends with benefits"

Below are some of my responses - verbatim:

"I love you as a person and I enjoy all the experiences and time we spend together"

"Look, that's totally fine. I don't want you to feel like I'm entitled to sex with you. But, you're also not entitled to my commitment"

"If I'm not getting my physical needs met by you then someone else will do that for me. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy spending my time with you"

"We can be exclusive, but, you cannot fuck anyone else, suck anyone else's dick, hangout with someone you have fucked, sucked off, knows wants to fuck you or that you've ever wanted to fuck"

"I'm glad that you haven't been seeing other people, it means you might be worth it"

"If you don't want to follow my guidelines then someone else will"

"Look, A, there's nothing confusing about what I'm saying it's black and white. You're just not used to someone being so honest with you"

"I don't need to lie to get in your pants"

"I don't want to lose you in my life, but, if the situation demands it I'll disappear"

After our little debate, we watch some TV, she asks to "take [her] pants off in the most nonsexual way possible", we hook-up and I nail her from behind right in the living room.

Conclusions:

  1. Proceed as normal

Disregard what she's saying and continue doing what you were doing or planning on doing anyway.

  1. Emotion is fine, infact, it's needed.

I've been lurking this subreddit for the past 3 years and have seen a lot of shit regarding this. The bottom line is it's ok to show emotion/BP traits, whatever you call it, as long as you are strategic and have an iron grip on them.

I hope at least one of you guys can take something away from my experience to utilize.