How can I give a more sexual vibe?

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October 10, 2019
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I'll make it short. I follow all the classic red pill advice, lift, etc but I feel I'm not sexual enough. I know how to respond to shit tests, to be unreactive and all of that but I'm not really getting any shit tests.

I'm not socially awkward (or at least I think I'm not) and I can easily talk with women but I don't think they are considering me as a potential person to fuck.

I'm not a nice gut neither, I will not give them my approval for free and I won't do things for them if they did nothing for me but still, I think my vibe is more friendly than sexual.

Also the mandatory sorry for bad English and that shit. thks.

Edit : Also if I'm honest I think deep down in my subconscious I'm ashamed of showing desire for women but I don't really know how to change this.


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Title How can I give a more sexual vibe?
Author CharmingAct
Upvotes 143
Comments 107
Date 10 October 2019 06:39 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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Link https://theredarchive.com/post/289676
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[–]dominicthetiger118 points119 points  (16 children) | Copy

Toxic shame is a bitch. You'll need to show more and more of your sexuality through time. It will also take time to calibrate as you'll make it awkward before you make it sexy. It feels wierd but also strangely relaxing. Once you get the hang of it, conversations will feel more magnetic aswell. Good luck.

[–]MyRedGlasses63 points64 points  (13 children) | Copy

Toxic shame is a bitch.

Crazy to think what years of subconscious programming does to one's mind eh? Since the introduction of "Feminism", men's biological needs have been shamed, put down, and repressed. All the while, women were given a "pass" all under the guise of "equality, and freedom".

I understand that it's "Red-pill" ideology which makes us aware of the conditioning, however this post is an example which solidifies the claim. It seems so arbitrary that we as men must re-learn these aspects which is fully in-grained within our nature, yet has been routinely repressed by our new societal-paradigms.

[–]flipdoggers20 points21 points  (11 children) | Copy

I don't think it's just (or even at all) feminism. Long before feminism, fathers were still guarding their daughters against the local schoolboys, kids made fun of each other for having crushes, etc.

[–]MyRedGlasses12 points13 points  (10 children) | Copy

You have to acknowledge however, the recent up-tick in toxic masculinity, and how it's nearly impossible for a male to simply be as he is in the 21st century, without some form of repercussion. If this wasn't the case, there wouldn't be the need for this sub, and the various forums like so-suave, and other manosphere focused discussions.

[–]flipdoggers6 points7 points  (8 children) | Copy

nearly impossible for a male to simply be as he is in the 21st century, without some form of repercussion

Uhhh examples? I haven't found this at all. In fact, over the last year I've been able to learn how to hold frame, cold approach hundreds of women (not that I post publicly about it, but I'm still able to do it), go the the gym, have casual sexual relationships, learn how to look at girls I see in public and get over my shame and allow myself to embrace my sexual desires for them in my head, all without any repercussions. Pickup companies are getting shot under by the media now, but most guys embracing their masculinity have full freedom to live their lives. An anti-masculinity Gillette ad has no impact on your freedom.

(Edit: to be fair, holding frame is how I get away with a lot of shit without people really trying to bring me down. People don't like betas faking being alphas. But that'd be the case in any century, not just the 21st)

If this wasn't the case, there wouldn't be the need for this sub, and the various forums like so-suave, and other manosphere focused discussions.

Completely disagree. Forums like this have never been seen in mankind before, except for maybe ancient Greek times or other ancient civilizations where men taught other men how to be warriors and the best versions of themselves. And even then, they didn't teach each other how to spin plates or pass shit tests in relationships or pick up girls they'd never met. We're incredibly lucky to have this sub; it's not a treatment from damage caused by feminism, it's a cheat code for how to make life unreasonably awesome for yourself as a man.

[–]Savior16663 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

nearly impossible for a male to simply be as he is in the 21st century, without some form of repercussion

Uhhh examples? I haven't found this at all. In fact, over the last year I've been able to learn how to hold frame, cold approach hundreds of women (not that I post publicly about it, but I'm still able to do it), go the the gym-snip_

Instead of examples, I'll give you challenges:

-Try hitting on and banging multiple hot women at work.

-Hell, even TALKING to them can end you up in hot water.

-Talk about all this with your real face, and real name on youtube, twitter, and facebook

-Tell ALL of your friends about this including about how you bang lots of women all the time

-Tell every man you come across how to take control of their situation with the wife/gf

-GET MARRIED, and try not to get divorced

-get a prenup before marriage and tell everyone you're doing it

-Make articles on a blog espousing masculine views, with your face and name.

Do this for at least six months. THEN report back with proof.

[–]flipdoggers-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy

I was specifically responding to the claim that it's nearly impossible for a man to be as he is. I'll respond to each one, but TL;DR: you mostly gave examples of extreme things a person can do that receive repercussions, not examples of a man just trying to live his own life and receiving repercussions

-Try hitting on and banging multiple hot women at work.

Don't shit where you eat is common sense for both guys and girls, and this is far from a man just being as he is. This is having sex with your coworkers. You can easily satisfy your sexual desires as a man outside of the workplace.

-Hell, even TALKING to them can end you up in hot water.

Then you're talking to them wrong

-Talk about all this with your real face, and real name on youtube, twitter, and facebook

Again this is different from a man just being as he is. Notice how I said I cold approach but I don't post publicly about it. I agree you should be careful about your public image (especially online), but I'm claiming you can still mostly live your life however the fuck you want without repercussions. Just like how I can smoke weed without repercussions but I'm not posting that shit on my LinkedIn.

-Tell ALL of your friends about this including about how you bang lots of women all the time

You're friends with people who judge your sex life?

-Tell every man you come across how to take control of their situation with the wife/gf

Again different from living your life the way you want, this falls into the category of giving people advice they didn't ask for. Particularly niche and nuanced non-mainstream advice that would warrant a longer, calibrated conversation with the person.

-GET MARRIED, and try not to get divorced

I don't think marriage was ever the best idea for people. People get married out of passion (love) and that passion inevitably fades and you're left with a boring marriage at best. I decided not to get married long before I found TRP. I also wouldn't count "I can't get a woman to commit her whole life to me" as "I can't live my life as a man without repercussions". My ex wanted to marry me but I broke up with her, that doesn't mean she's prevented from living her life as a woman.

-get a prenup before marriage and tell everyone you're doing it

Maybe we live in different social settings, where I live this wouldn't be frowned upon

-Make articles on a blog espousing masculine views, with your face and name.

Again, you don't need to publicly post your views in order to live as you want as a man

[–]Savior16660 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I'm not reading all that shit bro, you know what I was saying. You do you, if you want fuck yourself up, go ahead and do it.

[–]flipdoggers0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Nice addition to the conversation. Yes I know what you were saying and you were wrong in the context of this conversation

[–]Savior16660 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Then why act like a bitch and try to twist words around?

That's what women do.

Stop acting like a woman.

[–]thenewyorkmind0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How’s your success rate with cold approaching women?

[–]flipdoggers5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

In terms of sex, sporadic. Had sex with about 5 chicks this year ranging from 6-8 in looks. I'd only ever had beta sex with girls I loved in the past, so the fact that I've had casual sex at all this year by playing the alpha-role is huge progress in that domain for me.

In terms of my game itself, it's improved a lot over the last year, going from being a nervous wreck in my first few dozen cold approaches, to now I can fairly consistently have normal and charismatic conversations with strangers. I've also learned to communicate with girls I've just met on a nonverbal level, through eye contact, in a way I never knew was possible until I did it during cold approach.

[–]Balls_Wellington_2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't know, I'd say our society falls somewhere in the middle of the historical spectrum when it comes to embracing masculinity.

Yeah, we push hard for men to ignore their masculinity and embrace beta behavior, but look at the Victorian era. Men and women were totally sexually repressed. Look at the Feudal ages, sure knights and lords had it peachy but the vast majority of men weren't free to make any real decisions of significance at all.

[–]z2a1-92 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

great break down on the follow up

[–]EvelynnSpoiler3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

You'll need to show more and more of your sexuality through time. It will also take time to calibrate as you'll make it awkward before you make it sexy

the fuck is this blue-pill advice?

OP be a cheeky cunt mate. In a given day you have hundreds of opportunities to communicate with people around you. I use the word cheeky because it conveys both confidence and assertiveness.

It's about warming yourself up. Speak to people; anyone. Even if you have no have no attraction to them Just get into the habit of speaking to people until you don't even think about it. You'll start to stand out amidst the sea of introverts. The more people you speak to, the less you'll start stereotyping and actually begin to connect with people. Most people aren't at that level, so use having the upper-hand to your advantage.

If you go out, have one hasty conversation to someone at the gym; analyse, then calibrate for the next time you have another "chat" with someone while doing deadlifts, you'll never grow to the person you strive to be.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon57 points58 points  (24 children) | Copy

I know how to respond to shit tests, to be unreactive and all of that but I'm not really getting any shit tests.

Because you're not escalating.

I'm not a nice gut neither, I will not give them my approval for free and I won't do things for them if they did nothing for me but still, I think my vibe is more friendly than sexual.

Likely yes.

Edit : Also if I'm honest I think deep down in my subconscious I'm ashamed of showing desire for women but I don't really know how to change this.

Fix this by doing it. Show them you desire them - flirty talk (very easy when she's attracted)... long stares... triangular gazing (left eye, right eye, lips, 2-3 seconds each).... looking at her tits... touching her.

[–]Rx_Red24 points25 points  (17 children) | Copy

looking at her tits

Interesting, never heard this overt strategy before

1.How do you know when to do this?

  1. How do you do it correctly?

  2. How to react if they call you out on it?

  3. What is their reaction when done right?

Edit: my numbering 1-4 is not showing up correctly in the comment despite correct when I type it

[–][deleted] 28 points29 points  (5 children) | Copy

  1. All the time
  2. candidly and in a fun way
  3. laugh about it and say they are nice, thank them for having them out for you to enjoy
  4. if done right they press them together and ask if you like the shirt they are wearing or are a tit guy or say you can touch them or beg you to touch them or press them up against you.

[–]Rx_Red5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

I will have to try this when I become more experienced

[–]Pajca23 points24 points  (1 child) | Copy

Try it now

[–]666Evo6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Perfect response.

[–]TRP_mask2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I mean it can work if she is already super attracted to you but nah, this is a bit over the top. At least for many of the women I meet

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

4 is certainly over the top. It's kind of a silly question. I don't spend much time staring at women's boobs unless they are really putting them on display or even blatantly asking me if I like them.

There are millions of less directly obnoxious ways to smoothly show attraction. They know they have nice tits, you typically don't need to bring it up.

[–]MusicSports7 points8 points  (7 children) | Copy

My thought pattern is don't stare but she knows why she's wearing that shirt.

[–]MultiMidsets4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy

Yea i thought it would be validation

[–]1984Survivor13 points14 points  (5 children) | Copy

guys it's not all that blue/red or black/white. seems pathetic at times. ur on a date with a girl, u are both attracted to each other, how is showing desire not good? OF COURSE it's validation, we all feel validated when someone shows they desire us. look at her, her tits, put your hand on her waist, play with her hair, tell her how like her smile/ass/eyes/mouth, make it sexual

[–]IXseed5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Like AMS says, it's truly IMPOSSIBLE to give a girl zero validation. Asking her out on a date is validation. Escalating is validation. Hell, just turning your head to check out a cute girl at the gym is validation. We just wanna get in the headspace of not give TOO MUCH validation. Over complimenting, double texting, always going out of your way to talk/see her.

Basically play the game that you're interested but if she doesn't one little thing stupid she gets benched.

[–]PirataCielo2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

It's a negotiation. You have time/attention and manly favors, she has her beauty and womanly favors. Ideally you're going for a balance of exchange if LTR, but with plates you want to be receiving more than you give. Buy low, sell high.

[–]cbxxxx0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What are some examples of manly/womanly favours that are non-sexual?

[–]PirataCielo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Manly: emotional support, fixing things, leading fun activities.

Womanly: doing laundry, cooking, massages.

Anything that falls under the classic man/woman roles. It's a basic division of labor predating history. Men make change, women nurture wellness.

[–]MultiMidsets0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Gotchaa finna probably do this

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

know when to do it

Try it. Make sure she catches you. Say "nice rack".

How do you do it correctly

OVERTLY

call you out on it

Call you out on what? You are doing it OVERTLY.

"Were you just staring at my tits!!?" / "Yes. So as I was saying about my pet rabbit..."

their reaction

Increased attraction.

[–]Rx_Red1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Interesting

[–]Domebeers0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OP THIS IS THE CORRECT ANSWER

[–]MultiMidsets7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Fuck duude I'm in the same situation but similar.

For like a good week i didn't escalate with this one girl but I see her everyday so i thought it'll be best to just be chill and focus on my (school) work and when I have time set plans then escalate . (Is it to late to escalate?)

Then today I had the balls to set plans with her but it felt so weird because i wasn't direct wanting her...if that makes since? Like i wasn't straightforward letting her know i desire her ( i don't how to explain good)

I always felt like i should look at her boobs and stuff while talking but I always thought it'll be weird or I would feel like a perv... LIKE basically be sexual but at the same time it felt good

But Idk

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

(Is it to late to escalate?)

The sooner the better before she sees you as a nice guy (non sexual)

Then today I had the balls to set plans with her but it felt so weird because i wasn't direct wanting her...if that makes since? Like i wasn't straightforward letting her know i desire her ( i don't how to explain good)

Yeah... tricky balance here. Show massive interest or casually make plans? Pros and cons.

I always felt like i should look at her boobs and stuff while talking but I always thought it'll be weird or I would feel like a perv... LIKE basically be sexual but at the same time it felt good

Again tricky.

Too sexual up front will trigger ASD. Asexual will make her bored.

Ideally you want to non verbally show some amount of interest.

[–]MultiMidsets0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Gotchu

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Examples of escalation?

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Attempting to move things forward to sex. There are countless examples: verbally, physically.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Examples..?

[–]TigerTamingSword42 points43 points  (4 children) | Copy

This is actually a great topic. In the Book of Pook, one of my favorites regarding game, it is stated that you must be desireless/have IDGAF attitude, BUT you must be sexual - sexualize yourself, your behavior, your appearance. As to how you do that, well, it is also a work in progress for me. But one of the things I noticed, which definitely changed interactions with women for me, was to sexualize the tone of the relationship with the girls you're interested in right off the bat. An association between the idea of you and the concept of sex must be created on her mind. Not every girl will bite, but hey, that's life.

There was a comment in the main TRP (or this one, I can't remember), which I liked so much I saved in a txt. file. Maybe you'll find it valuable. Alas, I wish I had registered the name of the redditor who posted it.

i guess I'm a blessed man. i have 3 older sisters and I've watched them interact with guys then talk about what turned them on/off. here are the main points:

- what you say really doesn't matter to women. you could be talking about the weather and the rain... and if she's into your body language, tone, and cadence, it will turn her on. you need to be smooth & methodical... not nervous & tense.

- now here's the fun. when talking about something like the weather, say how "wet" it is... how sticky & humid it is, etc. but know that when you make eye contact during these times is crucial. "the atmosphere is so wet and with this humidity, it's so warm and sticky," while looking into the ground does NOTHING vs looking right btw her eyes then glancing head to toe while saying it.

talk to ALL women you meet as if you've already fucked them. this takes away any nervous feelings, makes you seem less desperate/eager, sets a subconscious "abundance mentality" frame and gets her moist thru mystery. break eye contact when she's talking and halfway ignore what she's saying while looking her in the eye... smirk a little if you have to. do this when she's going on & on about how wonderful she is. iow, act like you've been there and pretty women are the norm for you. this makes her want to impress you.

do not put her on a pedestal bc she's cute. i never compliment women I'm not fucking so don't let all that war paint and tight fitting clothing blur your "vision." let all the other guys tell her she's looking good when she's intentionally trying hard to look good. i usually say, "nice hairstyle" as i walk up to women i know just left the gym or didn't doll themselves up tgt Walmart. iow, give a small compliment when she's NOT trying to impress the crowd.

the hardest one. learn the language of women, esp. younger women. they're socially mindful of their status and reputation so they won't be overt with what they want. they won't say, "come over... i want some dick," but will instead say, "can you stop by... I'd like to talk to you... just want to be "around you" for a little while." the words "around you" are the key. with older women, fuck all dat. MILFS & GILFS have played those games already... have no time for covert talk and say, "you busy tonight? if not... i need dick. oh, and i have tgt work early tmo so don't plan on sleeping over for morning fun."

as men, we are too caught up with "getting it done" and don't take the time to give women the little story they need to feel good about LETTING YOU SEDUCE THEM. they WANT to be seduced & "swept off their feet," but they do not want to tell or show you how to do it. they want you to already know the game they need to get into that mode.

give them that time/story within reason and act like it's your regular MO: you're not phased or amazed by her beauty or booty... don't need her pussy... and can/will walk off if she doesn't fall into a submissive and welcoming disposition.

Also, search "How to exude sexual magnetism" in the main TRP sub.

Good luck

[–]shugerdaddy0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Main trp sub???

[–][deleted] 1 points  (1 child) | Copy

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[–]Red_Pill_Brotherhood35 points36 points  (9 children) | Copy

Escalate, dress better/smell better/look better, and dont be afraid to give them the "fuck eyes" in the right scenario.

[–]z2a1-93 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

yup

[–]IndiansSmellLikePoo1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

What are the fuck eyes

[–]Red_Pill_Brotherhood37 points38 points  (2 children) | Copy

Looking at her like you're going to fuck her brains out. Some people just cant do it. I've had chicks playfully hit me and say "dont give me that look" and later tell me it made them wet. Shit works when done at the right time.

[–]cbxxxx0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

When is the right time?

[–]Red_Pill_Brotherhood2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Usually when escalating, also when she just keeps talking and talking and she eventually responds to your look with "Whaaat?" or "omg stop!" and a playful look. Sometimes at random times as well. Dont do it too much or you'll overuse it. This takes time/experience to know when to do it.

[–]AA726 points27 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hard eye contact while thinking about fucking her

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah. Youll feel it. It shows.

[–]Solid-Sloth-5 points-4 points  (1 child) | Copy

You can either do it, or you can't my guy.

[–]Standgrounding1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Actually, anyone can. Just make laser eyes, with head slightly down.

And stare at her with laser focus.

Think of "just before closing in for a kiss", right before shutting your eyes.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

I have the same problem, most women really enjoy me and want to be around me. I'd say the majority of them don't know I am interested in them. Being politically correct has been important my whole life.

Combating it is talking about sexual subjects. Ask if they like to have their hair pulled or be choked or tied up, or instead of asking directly say you were talking with another girl [on tinder, on the train, on the phone] and SHE said she was into that kind of stuff, then ask if that's common for women to enjoy.

Tell her she looks good, look her up and down when you say it, it's definitely all in the way you say it, but you can just copy the way they pronounce things in big movies. The way Tony Stark talks to Pepper Pots is a perfect example.

Tony Stark is a perfect example.

[–]Standgrounding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hey, thanks for showing me.

Knew Iron Man was a chad all along

[–]Jacked2TheTits7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I had the same problems for most of my 20s. It took conscious effort to break out of it. I was raised in a semi-religious family and carried a lot of that stigma about sex with me (no sex out of a relationship); still do to a certain extent... A couple things that may help

-Treat them like you are already sleeping with them, not overtly sexual, but masculine. Take care of them, while holding your own frame/needs/priorities

-overtly hit on them. it shows that you are interested in them; examples: thats a sexy dress; you're turning me on; when you look at me like this, i wanna rip your clothes off

-say things that you "know" can potentially offend them. it screens for girls that will be down with sex and takes away the boyfriend vibe; examples: say she's a lucky bitch to get to spend time with you, explicitly say the sexual things you want to do to her (don't say this over text but in person because it gives her too much time to think about it and they ghost after this), degrade her playfully... if she does actually get offended and doesn't play into the roleplay, just apologize and tell her the truth, that you were joking, "sorry, it was a joke"... its usually salvageable for a girl that likes you.

-physically escalate!

-mentally figure out what is holding you back from going after what you want

[–]mickenrorty6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You have to be care free and social. Perhaps you come across too serious... there’s a balance... also you have to have the ability to know how to seduce, eye contact, kino, holding a convo and making her laugh... only way to get good is to practice and be prepared to fuck up on the road to mastering the skill. If you tell yourself that this year is about making mistakes while improving then next year you will have the skill mastered for life.

Don’t be ashamed about your sexual attraction to women, women want to be desired, women want to be wolf fucked by a healthy, muscular strong man without holding back his inhibitions.

Do not be ashamed of enjoying using her for your own pleasure, she was born to pleasure successful men, for her it’s a pleasure to be used (by a strong successful man (it’s rapey if the guy is a beta) )

Women want to be used and manhandled in submission, they won’t tell you this, only experience will prove this (except for dominant women who prefer submissive men).

Just don’t be a weak beta, submission for a women is the ultimate pussy wet orgasm inducing pleasure in their existence IF AND ONLY IF the male is a top 20% or at least perceived to be

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (17 children) | Copy

Make sexual statements

[–]CharmingAct[S] 6 points7 points  (12 children) | Copy

Examples ?

[–]i-am-the-prize16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

they would be language specific, but in english we use the french term "double entrendres" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double_entendre so they think about what you want them to think about (sex with you, your cock, etc)

the key is saying this stuff with a smile, not a creepy vibe. be confident and smile, be funny and practice amused mastery.

Example:

I recently took a trip to a 3rd world nation known for some, ahem drug and sex trade activities, and I got a cut on my hand an it got infected. Had to get antibiotics when I got back to the U.S. I was at a client site, meeting with some customers, the head of 2 departments, both females, both solidly very beautiful women. Both married, kids, no desire to actually start anything with them. But they're both really hot and I am all about having fun and practicing Game. It's just us 3 in the meeting and they ask me how my trip was, and how I'm recovering (I had to move the meeting a week due to "being sick") and so they asked me how I was doing:

me: "I'm fine now that I got the meds"

HB#1: "so scary that from a simple cut you can get that sick"

HB#2" "yeah, you forget nature is always in charge"

me: (yawn) "hey I'm just happy that's the only thing I caught on that trip..." (with sly grin)

...they both LOL'd and looked at eachother and blushed. (if this is lost in translation I was joking about not getting an STD) So i know they both thought about me fucking someone or whatever visual they hamster'd. Yet it was fun and flirty in a business setting without being too forward, yet it was sexual.

Oh and actually be sexy. No woman wants to flirt with a non sexy dude.

[–]WIA20XX11 points12 points  (10 children) | Copy

That dress makes you look delicious.

When you do that, I can't be held accountable for my actions.

The main thread of most romance novels is that the heroine can corrupt the strong man by simply being. By small actions. She gets power via her femininity.

You say these types of things, she gets a charge, and you get a charge from her reaction, and keep going. Vicious cycle

[–]Rx_Red5 points6 points  (9 children) | Copy

Struggling with the almost verbatim problem as OP.

When you say sexually charged comments, do women normally react positively?

[–]Heybuddyyyyyy5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

If u don't sound gay

[–]Gordon-G1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No homo ⚠️

[–]Rx_Red1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

So say it like you've successfully said it to 100s of women?

[–]Final_Pantasy5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

No, you say it like the fat fedora wearing beta cuck you are.

Of course you say it like its second nature...

[–]i-am-the-prize0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

not sure why you got downvoted, so +1 to you. exact answer, i has to be 2nd nature and naturally rolling off your tounge.

that's in one of the rollo books about your experience and OI attitude conveying that "you've seen all of this shit before" it may be a component of Amused Mastery. It works. oh and be sexy.

[–]geo_gan3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Only if you are attractive to them. If you are not they will immediately label it creepy and call HR and all the other shit that the feminazi have programmed them all to do.

[–]i-am-the-prize0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

what's interesting, is that the feminazi's, when not around other women and have their ASD in high gear, are often the most thirsty for sexual attention. you have to be more subtle but you find they open up, chicks love secrets.

check out the many posts over the years of RP guys shocked to have been told by the most SJW feminazi chicks of their rape fantasies. (I'm not condoning rape, you spergs!) I'm just saying there is often a schism between a person's outward persona and their inner kink(s).

[–]geo_gan0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Could be. Haven’t experienced it myself.

[–]i-am-the-prize1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

my first paragraph - i have first hand.

my second paragraph - i have not either, just what i've read.

[–]MultiMidsets1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

But doesn't that make you sound thirsty?

Now I'm getting confused from

Sexually desiring her from Validating her and being thirsty??

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

in my experience I never make sexually overt statements. My girls can just tell it's on with me. And the one's that don't fall into that vibe with me aren't my girl...

[–]i-am-the-prize2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

don't be binary.

1) it's been mentoined in this thread, the romance novel plot thread of a woman being able to corrupt/break through the armor of the strong man/beast/whatever, purely via her beauty and femininity. throw them a bone that they have an affect on you via you letting your covert intentions be known and they love it.

2) girls like secrets and like more the idea that they are on the inside of a secret. a private flirt or sexual statement gives them this along with actual thoughts of sex.

it's thirsty if:

a) you come off like you only say that to her

b) you say it like you've never said it before

c) you're not outcome independent

[–]Gordon-G-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Drop trou

drop-trou. Verb. (third-person singular simple present drops trou, present participle dropping trou, simple past and past participle dropped trou) (US, intransitive) To drop one's trousers and/or undershorts; to moon. (by extension) to strip, undress, get naked.

[–]1InformalCriticism5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fashion.

Tight (enough) shirts. Tight (enough) pants. Expensive accessories like sun glasses, watches, shoes, etc. Go easy on things like rings and necklaces -- those communicate different things.

[–]__TheDon__9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe you’re afraid of being rejected...?

Something to think about.

[–]TheCiph3r2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Got the same problem before, I got you. It's because you don't escalate and touch her. Touching is what separates a friendly interaction w/ a flirty one. Search for kino escalation techniques.

Another is like what the other guy said, is do the fuck eyes. During pauses, especially after a high point of the interaction (laughing or saying a compliment) look straight into her eyes while thinking you want to fuck her so bad. I don't know why but it increases the tension and it shows in your body language.

[–]shugerdaddy2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I tried some of the stuff here.....

She opened her arms for a hug but this time she leaned in for a cheek kiss

She kept looking at my dick it's like she couldn't stop haha

She was playing with her hair and something she did was....she was giving off super sex vibes the way she held her hair up it was like she wanted me to see sex hair

Later in the day she initiated the hug and kiss again

It works better if you're not in your head. This is too hard for me though rn

[–]kyzen1421 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was watching a youtube video of a host asking a japanese girl how to have sex appeal and she said " carry with you a sexy picture in your pocket and when you wanna have sexual appeal pull it out and look at it " everyone laughed but what they didn't know is that what she said was spot on. In order to give a sexual vide you gotta feel sexual and aroused and show that to the other person with your non verbal communication. The thing is you could feel sexual but like most people you will hide it due to the shame and embarrassment surrounding sexuality in society.

[–]MR_SKINNYPENIS691 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get your dick out

[–]DurgsRbaad1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Have you read Book of Pook?

[–]z2a1-90 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

would be a good start if not

[–]oohaah1230 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy

Be attractive.

[–]CharmingAct[S] 18 points19 points  (4 children) | Copy

Thank you, you're really helpful.

[–]Gordon-G21 points22 points  (3 children) | Copy

Don’t be unattractive

[–]PIGamer8611 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

“Write that down! Write that down!”

[–]agjrpsl-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do we need hamsters?

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

You forgot have lots of money.

[–]Gordon-G-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes, being a Millionaire 💰helps

[–]Standgrounding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Helps you buy roids and hit the gym by not being broke

[–]Standgrounding-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Captain Obvious strikes again

[–]NextForever 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

Aside from the obvious, eye contact/kino/etc.; I find straight up asking a woman if she finds me attractive in these circumstances works fairly well.

If they say no, which has only happened a handful of attempts and was always politely expressed, then I it's just a "o well, had to ask" sorta thing and that's it. NO stress.

[–]CharmingAct[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I think asking like that is needy. It shows you're insecure and need her approval. Also they will mostly say yes just to be nice so you're not getting real feedback.

If you know you're the shit you don't need to be asking anyone.

[–][deleted] 1 points  (1 child) | Copy

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[–]CharmingAct[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah but even if i dont know it's better to make it seem like i do.

[–]CookieAdmiral0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Incorporate silence with a smile and strong eye contact. Like if you say something and she doesn't hear, just look at her with a smile until she breaks the silence. Silence can build a lot of sexual tension if you use it right. Keep practicing, you'll get the hang of it I'm sure.

[–]redHussar0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Other people already gave you good advice what to do. Now is time for implementation. I recommend you to find a hobby/place/social group where attractive women are. This way you will practice A LOT and everything comes with practice. Bonus points if that hobby gives you a plausible deniabillity to interact closer. For me it was dancing. However it has to be fun to you. Women (and men) in dancing circle can spot from miles away guys which are there to pick up only and they dont enjoy dancing itself.

[–]Trposh0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I also have this problem. When I’m meeting someone or going out later, watching Liam McRae’s talk “Sexual Escalation Mindsets” beforehand helps get me in the right headspace. He talks about common limiting beliefs like women don’t want to be touched, and then proceeds to dispel those myths. Just being aware of when I’m having one of those limiting beliefs is a powerful tool for me to overcome them. Watch that video next time you’re going out if toxic shame is an issue for you.

[–]1XXXMersenne0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Take a look at this article.

His other content helped me lose my virginity in a just fucking get it done sorta way.

[–]Don_Draper270 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read "The Mindful Attraction Plan". This is basically a "how-to guide" on how to increase your sexual energy aka SMV.

Also, shift your mindset and stop looking for IOI's. It sounds like you're seeking for permission or you want the girl to literally hold your hand for you. Quickest and simplest way to know if a girl is into you is to go for kino and softly push for a rejection. Look for IOD's. Grab a girl's hand to examine her sunflower tattoo on her wrist and see if she tenses up or if she's ok with you touching her. Lead her by touching her lower back and see how she reacts.

You want to be sexual you have to be bold. Stop being mediocre. You have to take action. It'll be uncomfortable and awkward at times but eventually the results will be worth it.

Disclaimer: Sexual assault and harassment are real threats and you should not proceed with anyone if you have a bad feeling in your gut. Learn to give yourself plausible deniability with every approach and as soon as you get a rejection / IOD, eject from the interaction completely.

[–]mr_chgr0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stop fapping, and f*cking more.

[–]jsphere256-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Seriously, just whip it out.

[–]shugerdaddy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Haha!!!

[–]z2a1-9-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

lol

[–]1MrTheFalcon-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

I totally understand.

Start simple; say "hi" and smile at every attractive woman you see. -Every woman actually. Just spread the joy. If she smiles back, tell her, "you look nice today".

Do that purposefully for a week, and you'll be back with new questions.



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