I'm 36, wife also 36, married for 3 years, together for 3.5 years. 1 child (2 year old).
Discovered red pill 1y ago. Started serious lifting, but major fucked up with frame building. Went insane butthurt super mega turbo Rambo 10000 and things got a lot worse then they were before redpill. Almost destroyed my marriage. Slowly rebuilding now, without ramboing.
Height 192cm (6 feet 3.6 inch), Weight 96 kg (211 lbs), bf estimation between 12-16%.
Squat 3x4: 107.5kg (237 lbs)
DL 1x4: 137.5kg (303 lbs)
BP 3x5: 102.5 kg (226 lbs)
OHP 3x4: 60.5kg (138 lbs)
Pendlay Row 5x5: 85kg (187 lbs)
Chinup 3x5: +20kg (+44 lbs) added
Finished MMLSLP, The Rational male, NMMNG 2x, WISNIFG, The Unchained Man: The Alpha Male 2.0, Sex God Method.
Currently reading BANG.
So recently I've read Sex God Method and liked the book a lot. It's very informative and easy to read.
But reading about this guy's comprehensive and abundant humble-brag of sexual adventures got me thinking about the topic of vaginal orgasms and me still being a sex noob with it.
So he talks a lot about making a girl cum on his dick and he seem's to have mastered it as something that happens almost effortlessly for him and his woman.
So as I understand, for it to happen he has all 4 elements of DEVI covered, followed with good foreplay and **long period of vaginal sex*\* , but he mentions that sometimes even this is not necessary and he gets her to cum in first few dick thrusts.
So here is my case:
My wife never had a vaginal orgasm. She says (thinks) she is not able to have it, that she had one in her life and that she is afraid that she never will. She expressed that she would like to experience this, but is also sad about the possibility that she (allegedly) is physically not capable of having it.
I'm extremely pumped up regarding the possibility of making her cum vaginally. I want to experience the feeling of her cumming on my dick.
After reading the SMG, I realized that I have 1 (probably more than 1) major problem that's holding me back in getting even close to achieving this. I usually can't fuck strait for more that 3-5 minutes (without pulling out and taking breaks) cause it's a 1 way ticket to Ejaculationville for me. So I feel that first I need to address this inability to control my arousal. I don't know how to start though. Maybe with controlled and deep breathing during sex?
In last 3 years, there were 2 situations where she told me "O my god, I feel like I could cum if you keep this up". In both situations I was fucking her doggystyle and she was extremely horny. However, her saying things like that, made me loose my cool instantly and exploding inside her in 5 seconds like a horny virgin.
So what normally happens when we fuck is: I eat her out and she has a clitoral orgasm. No big deal, I like it, it makes me horny and I'm not doing it solely for her.
Problem? Well, even clitoral orgasm from oral sex is not always easy for her. She is often in her head worrying about stupid stuff like am I doing it but not really want to, does she smell bad, do we have enough time, will she last too long and "ruin everything" and so on. She sometimes takes even 45 minutes and it stops being fun for me.
So this is where it gets interesting - I asked her if she's fantasizing about something when I eat her out and for quite a long time she would just blush and told me she's ashamed to talk about it. So around a year ago she confessed that she always has one of these two fantasies:
- me fucking her and another woman at the same time.
- me fucking another women or two other women while she is watching us.
Another women in the fantasy is either a girl that we both know that she thinks is interested in me (either this being true or just her hamster thinking that this women want me); or they are just some made up girls that she imagined.
She also told me that the girls in the fantasy always do "slutty" and forbidden stuff - they do anal, they squirt. they do ass to mouth, and in the fantasy I treat them like whores they are. I never kiss them and I never cum in their pussy, only in their ass or on their face/mouth. They are always blondes.
In contrast, in the fantasy I cum in her vaginally, I kiss her and tell her I love her, and that I want to be with her, and I sometimes pick her as my favorite over this other bitches.
I find this shit very interesting, as this could just be a confirmation about women being aroused by possibility of competition with other women, fighting for a man (of value) and feeling a thrill when she wins this competition. This could also indicate her deep rooted belief that some forms of sex are bad, dirty and unacceptable for a good girl (anal, squirt, atm, mouth and face cumshot), so she creates "slut and whore" characters so she can think about it freely. She did anal with me before (avoids it for last 6 months) but sometimes felt "dirty" after doing it. Same thing is true for mouth and face cumshot.
So my plan for sex is to focus more on Emotion and Immersion from DEVI and also to practice ejaculation control for penetration longevity.
Maybe a good way for Immersion would be transferring slut/good girl threesome fantasy from oral sex to vaginal sex. I could create a story and keep telling the story while fucking her.
I'm really interested in you guys experiences with vaginal orgasms and how the fuck you manage to do it. I appreciate your honest input.
Edit: Thanks for comments. I realize I might be wanting this for all the wrong reasons and that I could adjust my perspective.