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I followed the advice given here and just texted back "ok". I started the process of getting her out of my mind. After one week of no contact, I'm feeling quite fine, read and re-read the advice given here multiple times and it did wonders. Then, she texts me and wants to meet.
Apparently the whole thing was triggered by me declining to meet up with her after her dinner with friends. When we met, she said she thought I "had no empathy" and was "cold". Turns out she misunderstood my intentions and was butthurt I didn't meet her.
Basically, despite all her declarations of love, she almost ended it over a stupid small thing. Her feelings are superficial, momentary and meaningless.
The whole event really woke me up though. I let my guard down thinking she was a special snow flake. She isn't. Going forward I will always have this event in the back of my mind.
The posts here did more than you can imagine for my sanity during this time. So big thanks to the community.
As for my question, I think I do have a bit of a problem worrying too much about the alpha side and sometimes lack on the comfort. I have to calibrate that, but how to not overdo it?