How to get respect from fellow men?

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October 25, 2019
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Context, I’m in university and it seems many guys in my class doesn’t respect me.I have only one friend and she is a 3, she also doesn’t respect me sometimes(not replying to my msgs,leaving with other guys without even telling me,she only needs when no one is there for her)I’m good looking(many girls have told me and some girls even approached me)but i don’t know how to get respect from guys, I even tried to act tough and not talking with anyone,but it didnt work coz no one gave a shit.i hate my life,I don’t have friends And no one respects me.that female friend said sometimes back that I’m a very boring guy and that’s why no one likes to be with me,so then I changed completely and started to talk with everyone and and cracked jokes,untimely I became the class clown...I got it and went back to silent mode,but still nothing changed.Im not afraid of fights,I had some fights and they went pretty good,but for one instance a bunch of people came to fight me and the lecturers got involved,ultimately they humiliate me infront of the class by saying “you act like a tough guy,but when theirs trouble there’s no single for you to get backup, that hit me.no one came for my side,that day I realized I had no one to call as a friend. Women I dated also said me they have noticed that I don’t have any social life and no friends,and some said your looks are great but you are very boring or you don’t have anything going on your life.please offer me some advice on what to do?even fellow men doesn’t value me will the girls value me?i love to have friends and be popular but the life is going the opposite diresction...


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Title How to get respect from fellow men?
Author darianwespunik
Upvotes 86
Comments 82
Date 25 October 2019 02:40 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]neuromancerBG 177 points178 points  (22 children) | Copy

Simple. Find a mission. Something you like to do and become skillfully awesome in it. It could be anything: lifting weights, playing a guitar, playing league of legends or doing calculus. Whatever it is, it doesn't matter. But choose for you to be epic at it and find people who are also passionate about it. Those people will be your friends. Good luck!

[–]Raxizhh 12 points13 points  (15 children) | Copy

Simple. Find a mission. Something you like to do and become skillfully awesome in it. It could be anything: lifting weights, playing a guitar, playing league of legends or doing calculus. Whatever it is, it doesn't matter. But choose for you to be epic at it and find people who are also passionate about it. Those people will be your friends. Good luck!

Let me ask you a question. What if you have many things that you are attempting to master, for example I play piano, powerlift, take programming classes, am studying calculus, what leads you to choose? It feels like I disperse my time evenly throughout all of these things to the point where I'm mediocre at best in all of them.

[–]PhaedrusHunt 22 points23 points  (11 children) | Copy

Pick the one that you like most. If you can make a living at it awesome, even better. Then you'll get that much more time, more reps, and you'll truly become a master.

Maybe it takes a while but fuck it. I was in construction but in my youth let my shrew of an ex convince me to go down a more stable, educated path. I still built my own houses in the meanwhile and continued developing my skills.

When I left her, I also left the primrose path of the safe career and grad school and all the prestige bullshit. But I was immediately employable due to my construction skills.

Shit can turn around fast. I went from basically homeless to a year later living in a gorgeous house on a cliff over a river and closing a $150k contract. Yeah it's a grind but it's my passion and I don't punch the man's clock.

Also, to OPs original question. My skills and delivery make me respected in my field. I have respect from other contractors and builders, good relationships with building pros of all types, designers, architects, good relationships with officials in munincipalities, and I meet all sorts of creative and wealthy people.

ALL of it comes from self development, which led to greater social opportunity, etc.

Plus women love a guy that can build and fox shit. Amazing. They'd almost rather fuck a cable installer with a truck than a fancy lawyer with a BMW.

Follow your passion. Maybe it's something you gave up on. It's not too late to go again.

I was told early by a boss who was really capable "I don't think you were meant to work with your hands." And my ex wife was super discouraging, thought I couldn't cut it in this world.

I was discouraged but my DESIRE was stronger than their doubt. I KNEW I could do it.

I did, I am, I will. I'll keep growing. Shit is baooto blow up.

Ok pep talk done

[–]ZeppKfw 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude nice. I know a bunch of other people with the same traits/personality that you have. They're one of the most successful people I know.

[–]PhaedrusHunt 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you sir

[–]Zran 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

And perhaps you also learned a small power to inspire. I'm on the beginning of a path to change and you are exactly what I needed. Now time to get off reddit.

[–]PhaedrusHunt 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Awesome man. I'm a drummer. One of my favorite drum books had a foreword by the author that said On inspiration: try to be one

[–]Zran 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wise words of the world. I don't like drums I always sought my own beat.

[–]BrabusS63 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

If you were to give advice to a younger man who didn’t have the experience of fixing and building things, how would you recommend to start out and learn to be self-sufficient around the house?

[–]TacoMedic 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not your OP, but just start.

Simple.

Start.

Whether it's making your bed every morning, washing your dishes after you use them, or fixing that table that's wobbly. Just start.

Unless you're an engineer, building is easy. But only if you have enough self-discipline to recognize something that's wrong and to not be lazy and fix it. Self-discipline starts in just making things into how they're supposed to be. Pre-made bed, cleaned dishes, etc.

If you have enough energy to do that, you have enough energy to build. Experience will come afterwards.

/tedtalk

[–]MitchAintNoBitch 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Speaking as an engineer. I also agree with your first paragraph. Start with simple things you know you can make perfect and constantly push your experience outwards.

If your results don't look correct, take apart and try again. Many of the projects I've completed are only finished because the results were not to my standard and I continued to mess with them until I met my expectations.

[–]PhaedrusHunt 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

What type of stuff?

The book Renovation by Michael Litchfield is the Bible of construction (for me)

My favorite woodworking channel on yoyos Paul Sellers

You can watch tons of videos of This Old House

Get a basic tools set. Shop pawn shops and Craigslist vs. new to save $

[–]BrabusS63 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Such as fixing a door frame, or the sink stopped working, etc. Being savvy with a toolset essentially.

[–]PhaedrusHunt 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Okay yeah. The book that I mentioned it's basically Cliff's notes of every major trade

It will describe how to do the things you mentioned but the more important thing is that it will make you start to understand how buildings work as systems

YouTube is also an amazing resource

[–]neuromancerBG 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Jack of all trades, master of none.

Just pick one, maximum two things to concentrate on for lets say 6 months. Then you can switch to one of your other hobbies or stick to the one you've chosen. But whatever you do, you cannot grow in multiple areas at the same time. You can only grow in one or two areas at the time. I've never seen, nor heard of people that grow in multiple areas at the same time. Its just not possible.

[–]woyspawn 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Music, programming and calculus can be synthesized.

You don't need to abandon everything. But you do need prioritize. That's what "setting middle / long term goals" refers to.

[–]cdh1003 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Caleb Jones has a chapter on how to help find your mission in his Alpha Male 2.0 ebook.

[–]kireol 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I play the fuck outta Zyra and Naut! ;)

[–]hate_sarcasm 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Isn't trp against playing videogames? I've always played video games, still do (mostly league of legends) but ever since i found trp i've always felt ashamed of it because i find playing a few games a week really good for me.

[–]neuromancerBG 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Wanna become a world class professional League player?!

[–]hate_sarcasm 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

No, i play it for fun.

[–]neuromancerBG 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Then its a buffer...

[–]Herdsengineers 46 points47 points  (0 children) | Copy

Be quiet, and do/accomplish shit. Don't brag, don't talk about shit constantly, don't be caught up in mundane shit. Stand out by being a guy that get's shit done that matters. Let people see competence, and go our own way.

And be attractive. Don't be unattractive.

People will gravitate to you and follow.

[–]EspressoCappuccino 41 points42 points  (8 children) | Copy

How to Influence People and Win Friends by Dale Carnegie. Start by reading this book.

[–]jjj2576 34 points35 points  (5 children) | Copy

Carnegie is a book meant to improve professional rhetoric.

OP has issues internalizing his own value— reading Carnegie won’t magically make OP think he is no longer boring.

OP— Have you read “The Book of Pook?”

[–]polarizingpotato 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed.

[–]EspressoCappuccino 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

After reading the book of Pook he can read how to cook fish fillet and how to screw a nut. Go on to read Kevin Hart's biography.

OP do what works for you. Download the RedPill handbook as well.

[–]Ill_mumble_that[🍰] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Aka turn off your phone or computer. Get the fuck off reddit and digital entertainment. Cancel your shitty Netflix. Sell any games you arent playing with friends in person, single player is a time sink of no value, online friends are not real friends (yes there we exceptions, fuck you if you were about to reply and bring those exceptions up. tRP is about generalities not your online no-homo boyfriend).

Only use it to:

  • make money
  • look up a how-to or instructions for doing shit
  • learn a skill, similar to above
  • post a pic of shit you just did on your own website or youtube or something that can benefit you through audience, then log the fuck off

In b4

"But I enjoy watching TV and playing Minecraft by myself."

Good for fucking you. Do you want greatness or do you want that shitty trivial enjoyment? I don't care either way, but you understand what I'm saying. It's your life.

If you want respect and joy WITH others, you need to bring value. You bring value by being social and having skills and/or having money.

Get skills or get money. As a man you need either one. Being social and being BIG either by lifting or a sport however are non negotiable.

You can be the most interesting man and richest and most skilled man alive. But if you are an introverted fatass nobody is going to respect you.

Example: GabeN. Nobody respects that guy except for people he pays to, his employees. He has mad skills and money and is even somewhat social but hes an introverted fatass.

[–]throaway69404 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is what I use my phone mostly for, and rn i am 17 in college, but somehow the fomo and not having fun kinda makes me depressed sometimes.

[–]EspressoCappuccino 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Basically, become a master at something you're good at/interested in. What do you bring to the table OP? All those people with high SMV have something they can bring to the table.

Be the best and that will attract money, women and status. Money brings status, status attracts women like a moth to light, you know how this goes.

[–]GorillaFingerprint 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

This book teaches you how to be a pussy. Most of us already understand the principles laid out in this book, which is why we are lead to the red pill. This will not help OP in his current situation.

[–]kellykebab 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is actually kinda true. That book is fine to apply after you've maxed out your looks, developed some really marketable skills, have some achievements under your belt, etc. It's good for a top 1% guy to add maybe 10% more charisma.

But if you're floundering in life, applying those ideas without also having boundaries and the ability to disagree with people will make you seem try-hard and weak.

[–]Verstappen3363 26 points27 points  (2 children) | Copy

Fucking hell, stop with the fighting bullshit. It sounds like you are very insecure about yourself. Being a tough guy has its short term benefits, but it really doesn't work long term. People are going to be stronger and better fighters than you, you must accept this.

Anyway, read this:

If you attention seek, stop doing that immediately.

Only talk when necessary.

Speak slowly.

Smile less.

Make cheeky digs at other men.

Don't lie about things which you don't know about.

Be blunt.

Have an open mind.

Stand your ground.

Practice assertiveness.

Maintain strong eye contact when in conversation.

Learn to be comfortable with solitude.

Be as independent as you can possibly be.

Be passionate about something.

Have goals in your life.

Lift.

[–]mustache_ride_ 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Make cheeky digs at other men.

Never punch down though.

[–]Verstappen3363 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This can be interpretated in two ways, either actually digging them physically in a joking way, but what I meant was to make cheeky comments and test the frame of other men. Either way can work to gain respect however.

But nevertheless, you are correct, don't punch down OP, ffs.

[–]thrwy75479 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

At your age, typically, everyone is still finding themselves, including you. Hormones are also still raging. Despite appearances otherwise, the guys around you probably feel the same way you do. For most, it's a time for self-reflection, and a lot of people are absorbed in their own life.

There can be several reasons why it's difficult to build a social life. I think, for guys, there's always a competitive aspect. We're sizing each other up all the time, trying to figure out ways in which we're better than the other guy. This is a major reason why it's difficult to connect.

For guys, the best way I've learned to bond is to endure difficulties together somehow. This may mean taking trips together as a group, and facing difficulties, perhaps camping, or exploring a jungle. Or, being under pressure to get a project done together as a group at work, or at school. Hard times together create bonds.

Regarding respect, it comes with time, and hard work. You're not going to wake up tomorrow, and voila, you're a god. You can't force people to respect you. Also, beating people up, acting like a clown, these things will never earn you respect. There is a clip of Conor McGregor (world-class MMA fighter) randomly punching an old man at a bar, losing all respect in everyone's eyes. A glance at the comments provides an indication of how pathetic people think he is.

Set goals for yourself, both short-term and long-term. Work hard, get your degree, be ambitious in your career, and life. Remain positive, and maintain your health. Don't be an asshole, but know how to be one, if it is required. Be helpful, but maintain your boundaries. Socialize, learn to make small talk without the aim of making people laugh, or get something from them.

Accept that no matter what you do, not everyone on the planet will respect you. Learn to respect yourself, and others, and people will give that respect back to you too.

[–]alleyteris 16 points17 points  (8 children) | Copy

On thing people respect is raw physical power, everyone respects a jacked dude ,its primal instincts

[–]effyouasshole 28 points29 points  (6 children) | Copy

A jacked guy who has nothing interesting to say, has no interesting hobbies, nor an interesting personality is not going to get any friends. Sure, people will respect him, but they won't engage or include him in their lives.

You still need to have a personality.

[–]jzekyll4 -2 points-1 points  (5 children) | Copy

Yes but it’s hard to be jacked and still be a loser.

[–]throaway69404 13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

lol no plenty of jacked betas out there.

[–]jzekyll4 -5 points-4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Betas aren’t necessarily losers.

[–]effyouasshole 9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

Oh, I beg to differ! There are plenty of retarded meatheads at the gym.

[–]jzekyll4 -4 points-3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Retarded doesn’t mean loser.

[–]effyouasshole 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

Spoken like a true retard.

[–]send_it_for_the_boys 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I had zero personality when I began to lift 4 years ago..got big and strong in a year “thought I was improving my personality by acting like a nice guy beta” and thought everybody was just mean little did I know I actually developed a huge ego and was being a manipulative whiny douche bag, but basically nobody ever respected me I barely had friends or girls around....I changed jobs and started nights and I lost alllll of my muscle I started doing cardio only and working on my personality and not being a pussy and my all around self confidence, guess what at 5 11 155 lbs people respected me, now I stand tall and proud at 187 lbs and I’m pretty cut and I’m no where near my end goal, but now I get IOis almost everywhere, people stutter when talking to me, people do random unasked favors for me at work and stuff. Etc. when you have an above average amount of muscle on your body annndddddddd can project confidence then you get the respect you want but the confidence & personality is the biggest one for the people who matter, and someone who shows “respect” or can’t talk to me straight or something because my arms are bigger than theirs then they are a pussy & probably a negative person I don’t want to be around.

[–]RileysRevenge 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lots of good advice here, “find a mission” being #1.

I’ll tell you something I’ve learned that’s a bit different. I’m in my late 30’s and I realized that men don’t really just hang out very often in life. Men work together. They build together. They fix together.

Women “hang out” just to hang out and talk, not men.

Find your mission. Be exceptional at it. Fix things. Help people. Smile more. Be friendly and yet stoic. Don’t complain. Don’t fight (unless you’re in danger). Don’t argue.

Most people suck at everything other than the 9-5 job that they have, and even then, sometimes they’re not even good at that. Being an expert in something will immediately earn respect from others, give you joy and purpose in life, and make your life fulfilling.

Be friends with men. Earn their respect. Be every guy’s favorite dude. Then, the women will notice you without even having to try.

Good luck!

[–]novalentineforyou 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

People respect a guy who is fucking jacked more than they would if he were skinny.

Increase your status. Learn how to be interesting to talk to. Work on your life so that you build confidence. Your post reeks of insecurity. Why do you want respect from a bunch of assholes?

Normies don't have to have a personality in order to be popular and have respect. Just be socially connected and be interesting to talk to. Practice humor but make jokes because you want to share your funny thoughts, not because you're trying to entertain people. Really listen to people and ask them about the things about them which interest you. Stop trying to act like a badass Hollywood character.

After you graduate you will hardly give a fuck about any of these people.

[–]ChadTheWaiter100 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You don’t want to make yourself into a dancing monkey.

[–]PhaedrusHunt 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Be respectable. Respect yourself.

[–]PayneGreyWolf 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

-Find something you enjoy doing (preferably something that makes money) and do that. Keeps you occupied + raises confidence

-Hit the gym

-Stop hanging around ugly girls. Your friend is a 3 PLUS she's disrespectful? Have some standards. Better to be alone than to be around people who think you aren't shit.

-Don't be afraid of confrontation. Look people in the eye, you seem like the type to shy away from eye contact. If a guy disrespects you, don't be a bitch. Say or do something about it.

[–]rockyp32 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Been there it’s all in your head. U want these guys approval. That’s normal but just don’t think about it just try have good conversations but from a place of security. When ur insecure you’ll sabotage yourself you’ll say something than you’ll imagine how they reacted and you assume it’s negative. It’s just a whole shotty spiral. I’m sure people respect you. But also why do you need respect form them? You just seek it cause u think that’s what ur supposed to go after. You don’t that’ll just happen. Naturally.

I’ve noticed recently I’ve been feeling more comfortable in the same positions. I’ve been lifting so I feel more proud and comfortable in myself and I’m just not overthinking shit I just accept it is what it is. If your really insecure that’ll leak out..... it sucks but it’s true. It pretty much implies if your insecure everyone will view you negatively which isn’t fully true. Just once you start to enjoy your day to day shit you start to become more positive and comfortable and just don’t think too much

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Please add paragraphs so that this is readable.

[–]Andgelyo 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go lift. Your physical SMV is not high if other men don’t respect you.

[–]Snowaey 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get huge my guy, TRP 101

[–]securethabag 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Youre trying to hard to seek approval

[–]AncientDragons 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It sounds to me like your issues have less to do with getting respect and more about respecting and liking yourself, and connecting with other people.

I think you should continue to pursue interests and hobbies. Try some classes, maybe take a martial arts or bodybuilding class, or attend reading groups or maybe even join a sports league or learn a musical instrument.

People find each other when they are put in proximity with other people doing the same things or having the same interests. Work on those things in your life, and probably you will find that people are attracted to you and interested in you.

[–]acp_rdit 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

get good at shit

[–]savageinthebox 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Kick someone’s ass or become someone’s bitch the first day. Idk, that works for prison.

[–]jzekyll4 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

What works for prison works everywhere

[–]Distractingyou 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sometimes you just need to change enviroment and fix some of the shitty trades you have

[–]rockyp32 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I feel it bro it sucks. Specially when everyone says improve SMV as if life is just some RPG. A better way to do it is just improve your life. Get healthier workout, socialize. Naturally you’ll become more comfortable and happier. The thing is if you probbsly don’t respect or think highly of yourself. I’m the same way a lot it’s subconscious partly. You could be 5”0 100 lbs and still get respect from guys if your comfortable in your own skin.

[–]Zero-Milk 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nurture your strengths. Identify your weaknesses and work on them, but don't allow yourself to become discouraged when change doesn't come easily.

Delve deeper into your hobbies and passions.

Learn to take an interest in your fellow men and the things they are passionate about.

Never try to fit into someone else's mold just because you envy their lot in life.

People in general envy positivity. Chin up, shoulders square, eye contact, firm handshake, smile. Life is good.

Some of the advice I've seen ITT is highly suspect. Other advice seems legit. Sort through it with caution, and at the end of the day, remember: to thine self, be true. No amount of manufacturing a fake image is going to help you. You'll figure it out soon enough, brother.

[–]dani098 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lots of times it’s confidence and just how you walk And care of yourself. That’s probably 90% of it.

[–]BrodinsOats 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Guys like you when you’re aligned on some task together (sports game, group assignment, etc.) and you display competency. Even better if you go above and beyond and display competent leadership.

In other words, provide some value.

[–]papunigga031 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you’re someone people feel they need to earn respect FROM/get validation FROM, they will respect you by default.

It can be comparable to attraction. Lower SMV guys can still lay hot girls, but they will face a barrage of shit tests. High SMV guys can lay hot girls and maybe get shit tested a few times.

High value men don’t get disrespected. People seek their respect. Low value men get disrespected whenever. They have nothing of value to offer.

The best way to command respect is:

  • Maximize your looks
  • Get big
  • Fix your demeanor (no anxious bullshit)
  • Don’t get butthurt (male shit tests) and joke along
  • Always put your priorities first/don’t be needy
  • Strive to be the best at what you do (your purpose)

REMEMBER: if you are trying to get validation/respect from someone, you are putting them above you. Never aim for respect. Simply remove your attention from those who don’t give it.

[–]cluelessguitarist 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Find meaning in your own life, respect is gained by showing a strong character and you cant fake that, if you are afraid of fighting join an mma gym or bjj dojo, you will meet fellow men there and probably develop a sort of camaderie, if you are not into combat sports(which you should self defense is important just dont use it as a loaded gun all the time) join a team sport. Dont focus so much in your appeareance and what people do.

Read david googings book Read the way of men and all his books And stop being needy and seeking so much validation, read some stoic material for that

Good luck.

[–]EdvardMunch 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This. What they said.

Take that advice and all will be fine.

But seriously respect is earned from doing whats respectable whether its liked or not. Standing for something, even if its standing for self sacrifice for others is respectable.

But if you want to do it just to feed your ego youre going about it backwards. And from what youve suggested if you dont have much going on, and youre just acting tough with your looks thats definitely gonna push people away.

[–]FaP_corleone 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

By being Boss.

Do lifting, browse redpill, fuck bad bitchs.

[–]agjrpsl 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pick something you like doing that some of these guys said. Get your education and get good at the other things. Build up your inner core. Make the foundation strong so no one can break it up. Socialize and enjoy life. Friendships take time and trust. Approach chics and plate them. Volunteer somewhere, find some outdoor activities you can do. Google is right there if you need info about anything. Later dude, you got this.

[–]Livecrazyjoe 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is a joke. Right? Sounds like it was written by a women trying to troll us.

[–]newwinterleaves 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I used to feel that way. But I took action to resolve it.

I started lifting. And eating better

Started taking hobbies -fishing, hiking, photography

Started to care more about what I have to think about the world rather than what the world thought about me

Started to read more books to increase social skills and knowledge.

Started to focus in school/work

Put my head down and work, staying silent

In silence, let your success be your voice

Check out charisma on demand channel on YouTube

Good luck my friend.

[–]Haytch1234 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You mentioj the issue with other people but what about your personal life?

Give us more info. What have you achieved? What do you currently do?

Do you have low self esteem? Low confidence? Anxiety?

[–]kellykebab 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not what you're asking, but dude you really need to learn how to write correctly. This mess is a travesty for someone in fucking college.

[–]128bitworm 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stop wasting time on what others are thinking/doing. Work by yourself on yourself. You are your primary concern. Grow yourself and achieve your goals. You have no other priority.

[–]Lalocal4life 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

5 day split routine with cardio.

[–]cheeky_shark_panties 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I feel like if I can smell your desperation and lack of self respect in this post, I'm sure people along you can catch that vibe too. Fights imo don't make you look stronger, it makes you look like you can't control your emotions.

Don't "act" tough. Be tough. Be confident. You said people call you attractive, so work with it. Be yourself and stop worrying about getting respect from people. Genuine respect is something that's earned, and I guarantee you'll want that more than the "respect" you get from people fearing you.

Snatch life up by the balls and own it, dude.

[–]catsdontsmile 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There's nothing wrong with having no friends unless you're not okay with it. Then it's pathetic. And it's noticeable you aren't okay with it.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Most fellow men are pussy worshiping fags, and I don't give a fuck about their respect.

[–]ASAP_IKER 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Judging by your post and the few details you gave, it seems like you have a huge fucking ego and a horrible personality. Who cares if you got in a fight or supposedly girls think you're cute. Work on your personality, stop judging people and genuinely care about them.

[–]vintageBiscuit 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So how do you kill your ego in this case?

[–]I_sort_by_new_fam -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Easy. Don't be a trp Chad.

[–]JurJur -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

seems like a common issue. Here’s what I always tell myself, “Do what you want, not what you should do.” & “You are enough” Just go out and do whatever the fuck you want to at school. School is the only time where it’s acceptable to be arrogant and cocky really.



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