Why has my wife recently been curious about strip clubs...

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October 28, 2019

So my wife has been bringing up strip clubs a lot recently... This was prompted by her telling me that a friend of hers mentioned that she would be going to a strip club with her husband while in Vegas. My wife seems to have an obsession on the topic ever since because she has brought it up repeatedly, and once acted guilty saying "does it make me a bad wife that I don't want to go to a strip club with you?" Claiming jealousy and self confidence issues are the likely rooted cause... My opinion has always been consistent, I think it would be hot to see my wife having fun with another woman and I would be open to an FFM but only if it was a team endeavor, not one-sided, requiring her enthusiasm and insistence. Wife has always claimed to be purely straight, never experimented with females, and claims this is still the case. However she also claimed to not be into bdsm when we first started dating and now she is a kinky bad girl lol. She asked me my opinion on strip clubs, told her I'm not a big fan of paying to see fake tits and generally am not attracted to the type of woman who would be a stripper but that it would be hot to see wife get a lap dance. Wife didn't seem upset about that response but didn't escalate either... then yesterday she texts me a YouTube video of a Halloween themed poledance... I'm like "you seem to be obsessed with strippers lately, do you like this video?" And she turned it around and asked 'i just thought it was funny and coincidental to our discussions recently", not really saying anything new...

So basically I am confused lol. I'm wondering if this seems like my wife is curious and wants to try going to a strip club together. Would she keep bringing it up otherwise? She is always the one bringing it up, not me. Is this a red flag or something that can enhance our marriage? How should I proceed?

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Title Why has my wife recently been curious about strip clubs...
Author skizzum97
Upvotes 11
Comments 36
Date 28 October 2019 07:15 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
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[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret33 points34 points  (3 children) | Copy

Look at her actions, not words.

You are listening to her words. She needs plausible deniability, and you keep turning it back at her, which is the opposite of what she needs.

The fact that she is continually bringing it up suggests she wants it. It may only be because her friend did it, but regardless her obsession suggests she’s very intrigued at a minimum. She’s looking for you to make the call, but you are being autistic. Grab her one day, and say “ok, get ready, let’s go to the titty bar.”

A word of caution— if you are still a faggot, you might end up getting jealous if it escalates into something. Also, it could open other doors, like her eventually wanting a MMF. If you are going to do it, be aware of the pitfalls- go in with eyes wide open.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Anyone who writes 'lol' in a post is definitely still a faggot.

[–]Hydrakeen4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hard to argue with that

[–]HeckleandChide13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

There are two factors at play here.

First, you are listening to what she says. That's dumb. Stop it. Instead, look at what she does and how she responds to certain activities. For example, if she says she hates being scared but then goes home and acts like a freak in the sheets after you take her to a haunted house, then maybe she doesn't hate it as much as she says. If she says she hates BDSM but moans and calls you daddy when you bust out the handcuffs... you get the point.

Second, women truly are wired differently than men. You know how stuff can seem really hot right up until you nut and then it goes back to being weird or gross? Women work the same way, just in reverse. Women can find stuff weird or gross until they get really turned on. For example, a wife may never even think about taking swallowing or anal with her fat beta husband but when the gym trainer gets her back to his apartment, she's moaning like a pornstar when he pushes through the back door.

Why? Because she is attracted to him. He is attractive. Therefore, things which are regularly gross to her are now hot because she is wired to find things that high SMV males like and then also like those things (within reason, of course). That's why straight women can enjoy FFM. They aren't necessarily attracted to the other woman but they are attracted to the idea of pleasing the high SMV man right in front of her.

This boils down to two simple rules.

  1. Her actions should carry much more weight than her words. Her actions will speak more to what really moves her; her words just indicate what mood she is in right then.
  2. Women like to please attractive men; be attractive and your chances of them pleasing you go up. Be attractive; don't be unattractive.

[–]0io-Tsundere6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'd get her some stripper heels and a stripper outfit and some crazy sex toys and have her practice her stripper moves at home first. (Bonus points if you install a stripper pole at home without asking.) If she really wants to go to a strip club with you I don't see any problem with it.

Edit: The only red flag I see is it sounds like she's getting a little bit bored with whatever your normal sex life is, and so she's suggesting to spice it up a lot. That's not really a red flag, more like a green light. You want her exploring her bad-girl/kinky side with you, not while you're away from home.

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[–]redwall924 points5 points  (11 children) | Copy

Your wife sounds like she's got fogging down pat.

[–]Hydrakeen4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Strip clubs are shit. Take her and keep telling her these women arent as hot as her then leave after 20 minutes and fuck the shit out of her. Never go again.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

Do you pee on your wife?

[–]Balls_Wellington_Main Event + Coronavirus6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do you not?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

I dont have a wife.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I guarantee this is about body image and not threesomes. Women are obsessed with comparison. There might be a tiny bit of interest from her to try to work out what you are into.

[–]SoyTanto1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

From my experience, even if she wants to go, when she tells you to get a lap dance and even pays for it. , Then tells you to enjoy... It’s a trap.


[–]tom-anonymous2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I think it's a trap.

Going to a strip club is a gateway to other things.

Next thing you know she wants a FFM.

Next thing you know she wants to see what it's like to go to a swingers club. Not to do anything of course, but just because she's "curious".

Next thing you know she wants to swing. Next thing you know she wants an MMF. Next thing you know she wants you to set up a 30 guy bareback gang bang. Next thing you know she wants to have you wear a ball gag and sit in the corner wearing a lock device on your penis and have you clean her pussy with your mouth after each guy ejaculates inside her and on her face.

Next thing you know she wants you to call her 30 bulls daddy instead of you. Next thing you know she wants to involve midgets.

I can go on and on but I think you get my point.

[–]jackandjill220 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy


[–]Rivet220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lots of questions, but maybe she is just wanting some exciting atmosphere to get her in the mood?

Maybe she wants to see women neked?

Maybe she wants you to think she is sexy, maybe she has some internal kinks she’s been reluctant to share “I’m a mother damit”

Maybe she thinks YOU need to see neked dancers to get horny enough to do her?

Maybe she wants a more “vibrant” sex life and wants you in it too?? (Stop being a boring prude?)

Lots of possible scenarios. Maybe chat her up in bed and see what gets her purring??? Do some research on classy places that cater to couples.

[–]JameisBong0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Careful this could evolve into some magic Mike situation.Have boundaries,this is all entertainment and you will never want her to gyrate herself at another man's crotch. Get some dollar bills from the bank,tip the waitresses and have fun.

[–]RP_PO-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I dunno man. She might be a stripper.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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