I'll preface this in saying, I think I may be RP'd but I still have shit in my life to sort out. While trying to figuring out who the hell I am, I am seeing a difference between women and men.
I'm a fairly fit guy now and only got this way after working through some serious baggage I picked up being in the scene and from childhood. I also had pre-hypertension about a decade ago and it was my wake-up call.
I make it a mission to set a challenge for myself everyday and to go balls-to-the wall and make that goal happen. Doesn't always work and some days I feel like I wrestle mental demons, but a nice workout helps me chill out and face another day.
Female family members and former female friends comment and coo over how great I look and I must have all the guys/girls after me. At first, when I was shallow as fuck, it was nice now it comes off as banal chit chat, especially when they ask me to write up a plan and methodology for them. They balk at the hard work it involves or bit!h about doing a diet or restricted eating.
It just made me see that when it comes to hard work, like Patrice O'Neal said (paraphrasing) Women do not want to work hard. Women want to wait at the finish line and then ride on top of the guy into the sunset