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Colleague goes to HR because I asked to get chicken wings together

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November 1, 2019

There is no end to learning in Red Pill, the more you experience, if you swallowed the pill, it just opens your eyes further. Rabbit hole is endless.

I am a guy looking after himself. So the attention comes :) But the better you get, more you will be shit tested!

Girls talk to me, try to learn about me, want my attention... They like getting close by around me.

One of these girls at work, whom I don't work directly nor share any managerial chains, while having chitchat when getting coffee tells me she has no plans for the weekend.
Then I text her about chicken wings. Conversation went on to favourite places and asked her to eat chicken wings at the weekend.

So suddenly she has plans for both days at the weekend and declines. But she even thanks me and suggests me to try her fav place. I leave it there. Still say hi sometimes and have the shallow conversation.

A month later we have an office party outside. I didn't join first, I was on a date with a girl from out of work and when going back home I ask my date to check the office party because I could bring a +1. I hang around at the party for an hour with my date, all girls were checking out me and my date with the side of their eyes.

So not even a week after, HR joins my meeting with my manager and tells me I made someone uncomfortable by asking her out multiple times (which I did only once, and it's chicken wings ffs) etc.

There we go, feminine nature, crying behind our back by victimizing herself when she loses the attention.

I assume best way to move forward is having minimal conversations with females at work.

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Title Colleague goes to HR because I asked to get chicken wings together
Author srgwthrn
Upvotes 150
Comments 113
Date 01 November 2019 11:28 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]PiperBigBell 64 points65 points  (2 children) | Copy

Screenshot. Screenshot. Screenshot. Unless it's a business meeting or she invited you, just don't do it. You can't be that horny to fuck up your money like that in the climate we live in. Jesus.

[–]srgwthrn[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

She was literally laughing and having fun while talking about the sauce of my favourite place's chicken wings. There was nothing bad on chat.

[–]liquorbaron 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"It's NOT what you know, it's what you can prove."

: Denzel Washington - Training Day

[–]Pdubzilla- 171 points172 points  (31 children) | Copy

Don't shit where you eat, bro. This is why.

[–]Hungboy6969420 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]TheDopestPope 29 points30 points  (2 children) | Copy

I see where you're coming from but damn, he can't ask out a woman in his company for chicken wings? And your response to his situation is to give the most bland, repeated "advice"? Give me a fucking break dude. He'll be fine he's just illustrating with an example the middle school drama that plays out in corporate institutions filled with adults. Pretty fuckin gay if you ask me :)

[–]youloveboobs82 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

The advice given to him is honestly the best thing for him and the situation. Most men don't want to be viewed as some thirsty asshole who can't keep his ego or his dick in check. Whether it's true, a lie, a mistake, or even worse: ASSUMED. I would be embarrassed as fuck if this happened to me and pretty fucking irritated. Even if there were zero consequences...

Interpersonal conflict between men and women at work? Especially if someone's image can be damaged and you can guarantee that it will be the hot gossip for weeks to come? Human resources females literally salivate for these opportunities just for something to talk about. And honestly anything can happen. HR CAN RUIN YOUR ENTIRE SITUATION WITH A ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY....OP will more than likely get a chance to explain his side and he will be "counseled" on paper. But the wiser men just know not to even say anything at all... If OP is telling the truth about the situation then we all hope he learned his lesson. If you must chase the ladies do it OUTSIDE OF WORK. And ya buddy... This shit is completely gay. But some of us just don't like that kind of shit. AT ALL. My dudes... You can't leave anything open for interpretation. Do not open that door at all. EVER.

You dont get to talk shit on me where I MAKE MY FUCKING MONEY... At the end of the day its OP's reputation and salary that are at stake. How can you not understand this? You guys take such unnecessary risks for such small gains. For what? Pussy? You read this and don't see a big deal? Just a misunderstanding?

Not worth the risk. Not at all. Never. EVER.

Ive seen coworkers fired on the spot at major companies just for saying something that was misconstrued and misheard by a FEMALE COWORKER.

BAM!!! WHERE DID DANNY GO? Oh he got fired because Karen the supervisor thought he said something sexual ABOUT Linda. It can literally happen to any of you if you are not careful. I. Personally, am not willing to put my money in jeopardy for anything or anyone. It's called being a self reliant grown man. If anyone who reads this begs to differ I will debate this all motherfucking day and night long. That gash is simply NOT worth it.

[–]kaydawg23 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–][deleted] 42 points43 points  (4 children) | Copy

minimal conversation with females at work

Yes. You'll be their best friend or the object of their affection right up until the point where it becomes to their advantage for you not to be, and at that point you'll be the first one under the bus.

[–]smitty113 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

Abso fucking lutely, I lived through this. It LITERALLY can change on a dime.

The worst part is that women will side with women 99% of the time even if they dislike her.

One day I saw my manager lean in, go to put his arm around a coworker just to hear her better but he hover handed and stood straight up. It made me laugh to see it but not long after I learned how quick things can change.

[–]Shnook82 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

The worst part is that women will side with women 99% of the time even if they dislike her.

Yep, if one of the girls at work doesn't like you, a day later all the women in her social circle won't like you either.

[–]youloveboobs82 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

High school pecking order/ group assimilation horseshit. Have fun drowning your sorrows and anxiety in that never ending box of franzia.

[–]youloveboobs82 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

The wheels on the bus will run your naive ass over. The next thing you know you will be lucky as Fucking hell to be sleeping on your buddy's couch eating bologna sandwiches and ramen noodles because you're broke from losing everything to some woman at work who took advantage of you ENTIRELY?

What happened bro? You lost your job, your house or apartment because you were too Fucking stupid to see what was happening right before your very eyes?

No sympathy....

Stay smart. Its literally a battle everyday. Unless enemy females where you work at are non essential or you have a male sympathetic management core, Human resources is not a viable resource for men. HR is there to protect the female agenda and to keep the men in check.

Plain. Simple.

[–]ruvrvugo 29 points30 points  (10 children) | Copy

In this day and age, men are forced to be robots at work. Keep everything professional and neutral.

[–]Ill_mumble_that[🍰] 21 points22 points  (7 children) | Copy

I just tell women I have to work with that I'm gay. They either want me more or they leave me alone. It's a win win. And if they say anything bad about me now I'm the victim of their homophobic onslaught.

[–]PersonofInterestPOI 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

low key genius

[–]Questionnaire7 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thats actually brilliant. According to the employee hand book at my job white straight men cannot be harassed. Its only a racial, sexual, age based thing. Well political views too, so politically is the only way they will recognize harassment.

[–]DownyGall 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

And get the advantage of affirmative action in the workplace. Brilliant

[–]CAPTAIN_TENDY_PLATE 2 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

Many circles have legitimized "asexual" and "aromantic" as belonging to the LGBTQ+ crowd. Another option, in present day and age, is to identify as one or both of those. You get to claim all of the benefits of the LGBTQ+ protections, without having to prove or change anything about yourself.

If you are "asexual", there's literally no way to prove that -especially in a PC environment. So they just have to take your word for it. If anyone tries to say otherwise, or gives you grief for it, you can file a grievance for harassment.

Basically, it's a way to wield their very weapons against them, without having to even change your lifestyle. Even if you still date people, and get "caught" dating someone... Asexuals still date. They aren't aromantic, they're asexual. It doesn't mean anything.

It's all just bullshit victimization power games. If you're in clown world, you might as well honk.

[–]DownyGall 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Hell yeah. I applied for a company and obviously there’s the usual race and gender identification (which I don’t do), but this time they had LGBT shit there as well. You better believe I put shit down as well as that I was two races lol

[–]youloveboobs82 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Damn. Fucking smart. Copyright this method and make some Fucking money. I actually know an original concept patent company. I will hook you up!

[–]Xevalous 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

You don't have to worry about any of this doing a blue collar job.

[–]youloveboobs82 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Blue collar makes my world go round.

[–]HillaryLostTheEC 61 points62 points  (7 children) | Copy

Women are a joke when it comes to the workplace, don't bother

[–]youloveboobs82 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Finally some common sense and wisdom...

[–]srgwthrn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]agjrpsl -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

There's no joke. You let them come to you. If they want it, which most do. They will let you know.

[–]hrm0894 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Then catch a #metoo when you dump her ass. No thanks!

[–]hugaddiction 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you think women realize they neutered the workplace as a potential for meeting an LTR? Is tinder really a better way to find meet people? Congrats feminist dikes, you win.

[–]hugaddiction 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

thanks for the advice chad

[–]empatheticapathetic 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's a real bummer but it is the way it is.

She was likely jealous.

[–]gitpullhoes 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

“asking her out multiple times(which I did once)” - It scares me how many women do this, lose track of logic and let their emotions make up lies like this.

[–]Red-Lantern 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

What did you learn? This shit is tried and trusted. Fucking coworkers can end badly for your livelihood. Pussy is pussy.

[–]MotiMorphosys 3 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy

Either this seems fishy, or I'm just curious because it's late. What actually happened?

Your story ends with you getting called into a meeting. What did they tell you in that meeting? It seems something pretty simple to defend...

like seriously, if that was me I would pin them to the "multiple times" and then show them the text thread. And I would ask about other times.

and yes, obviously lesson learned is don't shit where you eat but this seems crazy. How am I the only one who's asking what's missing?

[–]boywonder200 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yeh, I am suspicious too.

Too many details left out. Yeh yeh, Awalt and #MeToo, but a girl doesn't run to HR unless she is uncomfortable. Too many dudes on this sub don't understand that they are overbearing. Especially with fucking coworkers. TRP is great but I think a lot of dudes take the message wrong and think any form of denial is "She was just a jealous bitch. I SWEAR I saw signs she was into me" when really they just read the whole situation wrong.

Scares me that every dude in this thread jumped to that conclusion. Its like relationshipadvice but the redpill version. People jumping to conclusions with minuscule information.

[–]jhooperp 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

What’s scary is that you automatically went the way towards assuming the men are either lying or changing the story and that the woman was really the victim. I’m sure if a female told you any story, even if it was outlandish (like “I’ve been sexually harassed or sexually assaulted every day of my life”, an actual woman said🤦🏻‍♂️) you’d just believe it and won’t even dare question it.

[–]MotiMorphosys 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

In my case I'm asking for more information because the story stops halfway through.

[–]jhooperp 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He told you the main points of the story: he showed interest in a coworker and she didn’t seem interested so he moved on. At a party he came with a girl and the coworker seemed surprised that he “moved on” and reported to HR that he harassed her due to jealousy.

This story has happened before to many people. Jealousy is real. People do crazy things because of it.

[–]srgwthrn[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I think I got put under radar. They were telling me it is an informal meeting but they took notes of what I said. Though I specifically asked if I am accused of something and they said no.

I defended that I asked her out once and never again but a discussion about a venue, a pub or a party could also seen as discomfort it seems.

[–]MotiMorphosys 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why am I here if I'm not being accused of something?

[–]youloveboobs82 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like OP is good looking enough-or interesting enough? (Other woman at outing) with the current situation that maybe... Just floating this here, he thought he was hot shit enough to cause disruption to spoken female for her to act in such a manner to flat out lie or embellish some previous goings on to HR- mgmt. In which case seems kind of deer in the headlights Fucking brain fart or maybe just innocent or naive to realize the situation that unfolded. Ive been really harsh on this thread tonight but I just want you guys to understand that the wrong woman in the perfect situation will absolutely and undeniably ruin your Fucking life. And then theres the famage control. Financial ruin. Stress. Depression. Flat out inconsolable loss and robbery of even the basic things that we take for granted every day. THESE SITUATIONS ARE PREVENTABLE.

[–]Manny1400 9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

I am an asshole to pretty much everyone at work, especially women. Never date, or even express interest in any woman at work, Don't even have a one-on-one conversation

[–]vxd386 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]mickenrorty 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER try to fuck your colleagues...

. . . NEVER.

[–]ducaati 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Jeez. Yea, just keep it completely professional, remember to be a gray rock, no emotion at all. That part can take work if you're naturally expressive, but it's important. I think it can be like letting a muscle atrophy, which isn't a good thing. We just have to get better at keeping emotions, or at least the expression of emotions, completely in check. Apologize profusely, then freeze up. No emotion. Zero. Make them think your new operating system is a cutting edge form of AI.

[–]Buzz-Kill-Joy 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

What was the outcome of your meeting with HR?

[–]JameisBong 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Isn't this a core principle of trp? Don't dip your wick in company ink.

[–]gijoemaximus 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Had a colleague who got fired after HE was invited to a movie by my female colleague. She was always very flirty with him and when he tried to make moves on the date, he was reported for sexual assault. Dude was gone within a week.

[–]1MrTheFalcon 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

> I assume best way to move forward is having minimal conversations with females at work.

Take your own advice.

More specifically, don't get in relationships at work. It doubles your liability.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorFieldLine 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I assume best way to move forward is having minimal conversations with females at work.

The best way to move forward is not trying to sleep with your coworkers. Swinging to the other extreme and observing them from a distance like some creepy weirdo is nearly as bad as overtly hitting on them.

[–]Morpheus_TNTB 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP like dumping burning coals onto his lap to see what will happen. WTF could possibly go wrong? /s

[–]mustache_ride_ 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

tl;dr: Season of the witch, careful out there boys.

[–]Kabuki431 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

1st week of work i make it clear. I m here to make money, not friends not dates not mingle.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

You just killed your career

[–]Kabuki431 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao Well working out good for me for a decade.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Asking someone out is not a crime...

[–]Beerhog281 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hmm, there is a saying “Don’t try to get laid where you are getting paid”. Why do you even bother with broads at your workplace? All it will get you is sexual harassment lawsuit when thing go sour. I say steer clear of women at your work... Hell don’t even engage in dumb chit chat

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't you understand that we live in feminist world and all that #MeToo shit.

Stop living under the rock dude.

[–]redvelvet_oreo 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bro just go to a local bar and meet someone not from work.

[–]Kn31 -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Looks wise what are you?

[–]JameisBong 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not important, Johnny Depp got metoo-ed and he is objectively a decent looking guy.

[–]vxd386 -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Never ever ask a girl or woman out. You will only get in trouble sooner or later.

[–]Bloodrain_souleater -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Never ask girls out if you aren't good looking enough like a Brad Pitt or Tom cruise chances are you will be slapped with a charge of sexual harrasment or even rape.

I thought that's common knowledge in the west. Anyways now say goodbye to your job and if you have the money be ready to file a lawsuit.

Never approach girls you work with.

[–]bestCallEver 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Uhm. I agree with not shitting where you eat, but re read your first sentence. That's the most pathetic incel garbage I think I've ever read.

[–]Bloodrain_souleater 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's not incel level garbage. These are facts. An unattractive guy is creepy but a good looking guy is a Chad. That's pretty much common sense.

And please I know what happens if a complaint goes to hr and if you are a man. It's bye bye to the job player.

[–]Foolishoe -3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey look at that, you are breaking redpill rules.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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