My top ten tips to getting laid while going out alone
From trying out dating sites and day game approach I’ve come to the conclusion that the night club scene is the most consistent way to get laid and add plates for. So I’ve complied a step by step list on how I have through trial and error got a very high success rate going out alone.
Some background on me
I have been applying the things I’ve read in TRP for about 2 years now and I would say I’ve had great success in only the past 6 months. I go out once a week sometimes twice if I can and I always try to go out alone on at least one night. And for the past 2 months or so I’ve been able to fuck a new girl each week sometimes two.
Things to know before going out
If you haven’t been working on your social skills, lifting and your personal purpose this will be much harder because you’ll hit road blocks in my steps. No one gives a shit about you in the end so don’t stress looking like a loner or weirdo. Don’t go out to find someone to fuck, go out to have a good time, listen to music, people watch and make friends. You will subconsciously come off as creepy/needy especially to girls, who are highly perceptive, even if you aren’t trying to. “Your subconscious thoughts always project into the real world”
Step by Step
To start off I’ll say some basic things like : make sure you’re dressed nice (don’t overdue it black is subtle and always a go to) and you have a good cologne on. Moderate jewelry and a nice pair of shoes. Make sure you have condoms and your place is at tidy. If you’re nervous pre-game at your house a little and Uber there if you can it’ll help you lighten up.
Very important to get their late (10:30-11ish depending on the time your clubs open, close, and have peak population) and make sure it’s a place that has a lot of people in it regularly if it’s a club. If it’s a bar only no cares at all if you’re alone.
There will be other guys there who are alone or guys in a group who look like they’re having fun. Start a conversation with one : give a guy a compliment in a not weird way or say whatever, tell a joke, or comment on the girls in the club, just make sure this is one of the first things you do. It’ll help you get in the mood to talk to girls later. (Focus on yourself and having fun) Girls will notice this and want to get in on the fun.
Just some things I do to not look like some guy sitting and glaring at people like some lunatic. I always have a drink in my hand and I’m making sure I talk to people near me. Also make sure if there’s music you’re acknowledging it and if you like to dance go dance and if you don’t a simple nod to the beat works. Girls are very observant and if you’ve caught their eye they WILL be watching you. In fact I don’t even think I pick the girls anymore when I go out I feel like I’m picked and I capitalize if she’s hot. Don’t have a scowl! Look approachable and fun without coming off as you just did a line of coke in the back. (Every guy is a creep until proven otherwise unless you’re a chad)
If you see a girls whose solo and you are genuinely ATTRACTED to her go up and say something you’ve observed. I steer away from “hi my name is...” because it’s unoriginal and most girls will put you in a box of normal boring guy. If she’s in a group or you see a group of girls, feel out their vibe and just go for it and talk to the one who looks the chill even if she isn’t your target. Make them laugh and keep it positive and but make sure you’re assertive and if you get hard resistance pull away quick and move on it’s not worth it. (Game and masculine frame mixed with assertive confidence/humor)
Look for IOIs and approach from there, but don’t go with the intent of seeing any. As I said girls will put themselves in your vicinity, they will bump into you, ask you a stupid question and so on. Learn how to distinguish if a girl is actually into you or likes the attention. One way to do this is through keno, things like grabbing her hips and pulling her closer. Making strong eye contact is always a must. Also when talking keep it SHORT! And speak with a deep and loud voice but no in a ridiculous way. Make sure there’s always some form of subtle or not so subtle physical contact. (IOIs and conversing)
If you’ve made it this far it’s hard to fuck it up but very possible. After you’ve got to know her and she’s actually into you I do one of two things : 1) tell her to come dance and grab her hand and move to the dance floor. 2) Say it’s too loud and ask if she wants to go outside for a bit. Let’s say you chose (option A) dance with her, if you “CaNT dAnCe” then just grab her hips and follow her motions while making short/small motions with your hips. If she seems like she wants to kiss do it but pull away shortly after. (Push and pull) Kissing too much will lose you many girls because it’s needy behavior. Or she “doesn’t want to dance or can’t dance” and you go outside, talk for a couple minutes then go to a different more quiet bar. <—— do this step after dancing. (Isolation)
You’re in there don’t fuck it up
This is probably one of the most important steps and the one you can fuck up. She’s going to start gauging your value now if you’re one on one and talking. Hopefully you’ve been on your purpose. You can find out what she likes and sell her a dream or you can be honest and brag about yourself in a humble way that makes your seem like the shit. Don’t give direct answers or spill your guts, mystery is your BEST FRIEND in these situations. Make sure she does 80% of the talking, you don’t have to fill the silences you can look into her eyes silently, this will build sexual tension. (Shit test and display value)
Now see if you can close at your place but make sure there’s some amount of plausible deniability(“Hey there’s this new horror movie on Netflix let’s go watch it at my place”). Or suggest a spot to eat and try to see if she’d like to come home then. If she has friends she might make some excuse she has to stay with them. Get her number and text her that night saying you had a good time and nothing more. (Plausible deniability and logistics)
From this point the girl has always texted me either the next day or that week wanting to meet but if she doesn’t invite her out for drinks or something that will end up with you watching Netflix and you fucking her. (Closing)
Some things that will improve your success rate:
This is rarely talked about in trp but girls do have bias so, figure out what kind of girls you truly like and what kind of girls like you. It’ll be more organic and easier. The higher your SMV the less this will matter because you’ll have a bigger pool of girls already initially attracted to you.
Don’t get super wasted, in fact just enough to relax you is enough. Focus on building confidence in your game while being sober.
Don’t ever talk to shit faced girls at all. It’s a MeToo gamble that isn’t worth it.
Don’t compliment her looks, compliment anything else.
You WILL rejected and you will find some bitches but don’t let it phase you. Never get angry and always leave with a “have a nice night”. You won’t be successful every time so just have a good time and make friends and learn from all your mistakes and don’t repeat them.