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My Guide To Going Out Alone And Getting Laid

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November 19, 2019
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My top ten tips to getting laid while going out alone

From trying out dating sites and day game approach I’ve come to the conclusion that the night club scene is the most consistent way to get laid and add plates for. So I’ve complied a step by step list on how I have through trial and error got a very high success rate going out alone.

Some background on me

I have been applying the things I’ve read in TRP for about 2 years now and I would say I’ve had great success in only the past 6 months. I go out once a week sometimes twice if I can and I always try to go out alone on at least one night. And for the past 2 months or so I’ve been able to fuck a new girl each week sometimes two.

Things to know before going out

If you haven’t been working on your social skills, lifting and your personal purpose this will be much harder because you’ll hit road blocks in my steps. No one gives a shit about you in the end so don’t stress looking like a loner or weirdo. Don’t go out to find someone to fuck, go out to have a good time, listen to music, people watch and make friends. You will subconsciously come off as creepy/needy especially to girls, who are highly perceptive, even if you aren’t trying to. “Your subconscious thoughts always project into the real world”

Step by Step

  1. To start off I’ll say some basic things like : make sure you’re dressed nice (don’t overdue it black is subtle and always a go to) and you have a good cologne on. Moderate jewelry and a nice pair of shoes. Make sure you have condoms and your place is at tidy. If you’re nervous pre-game at your house a little and Uber there if you can it’ll help you lighten up.

  2. Very important to get their late (10:30-11ish depending on the time your clubs open, close, and have peak population) and make sure it’s a place that has a lot of people in it regularly if it’s a club. If it’s a bar only no cares at all if you’re alone.

  3. There will be other guys there who are alone or guys in a group who look like they’re having fun. Start a conversation with one : give a guy a compliment in a not weird way or say whatever, tell a joke, or comment on the girls in the club, just make sure this is one of the first things you do. It’ll help you get in the mood to talk to girls later. (Focus on yourself and having fun) Girls will notice this and want to get in on the fun.

  4. Just some things I do to not look like some guy sitting and glaring at people like some lunatic. I always have a drink in my hand and I’m making sure I talk to people near me. Also make sure if there’s music you’re acknowledging it and if you like to dance go dance and if you don’t a simple nod to the beat works. Girls are very observant and if you’ve caught their eye they WILL be watching you. In fact I don’t even think I pick the girls anymore when I go out I feel like I’m picked and I capitalize if she’s hot. Don’t have a scowl! Look approachable and fun without coming off as you just did a line of coke in the back. (Every guy is a creep until proven otherwise unless you’re a chad)

  5. If you see a girls whose solo and you are genuinely ATTRACTED to her go up and say something you’ve observed. I steer away from “hi my name is...” because it’s unoriginal and most girls will put you in a box of normal boring guy. If she’s in a group or you see a group of girls, feel out their vibe and just go for it and talk to the one who looks the chill even if she isn’t your target. Make them laugh and keep it positive and but make sure you’re assertive and if you get hard resistance pull away quick and move on it’s not worth it. (Game and masculine frame mixed with assertive confidence/humor)

  6. Look for IOIs and approach from there, but don’t go with the intent of seeing any. As I said girls will put themselves in your vicinity, they will bump into you, ask you a stupid question and so on. Learn how to distinguish if a girl is actually into you or likes the attention. One way to do this is through keno, things like grabbing her hips and pulling her closer. Making strong eye contact is always a must. Also when talking keep it SHORT! And speak with a deep and loud voice but no in a ridiculous way. Make sure there’s always some form of subtle or not so subtle physical contact. (IOIs and conversing)

  7. If you’ve made it this far it’s hard to fuck it up but very possible. After you’ve got to know her and she’s actually into you I do one of two things : 1) tell her to come dance and grab her hand and move to the dance floor. 2) Say it’s too loud and ask if she wants to go outside for a bit. Let’s say you chose (option A) dance with her, if you “CaNT dAnCe” then just grab her hips and follow her motions while making short/small motions with your hips. If she seems like she wants to kiss do it but pull away shortly after. (Push and pull) Kissing too much will lose you many girls because it’s needy behavior. Or she “doesn’t want to dance or can’t dance” and you go outside, talk for a couple minutes then go to a different more quiet bar. <—— do this step after dancing. (Isolation)

You’re in there don’t fuck it up

  1. ⁠This is probably one of the most important steps and the one you can fuck up. She’s going to start gauging your value now if you’re one on one and talking. Hopefully you’ve been on your purpose. You can find out what she likes and sell her a dream or you can be honest and brag about yourself in a humble way that makes your seem like the shit. Don’t give direct answers or spill your guts, mystery is your BEST FRIEND in these situations. Make sure she does 80% of the talking, you don’t have to fill the silences you can look into her eyes silently, this will build sexual tension. (Shit test and display value)

  2. ⁠Now see if you can close at your place but make sure there’s some amount of plausible deniability(“Hey there’s this new horror movie on Netflix let’s go watch it at my place”). Or suggest a spot to eat and try to see if she’d like to come home then. If she has friends she might make some excuse she has to stay with them. Get her number and text her that night saying you had a good time and nothing more. (Plausible deniability and logistics)

  3. ⁠From this point the girl has always texted me either the next day or that week wanting to meet but if she doesn’t invite her out for drinks or something that will end up with you watching Netflix and you fucking her. (Closing)

Some things that will improve your success rate:

This is rarely talked about in trp but girls do have bias so, figure out what kind of girls you truly like and what kind of girls like you. It’ll be more organic and easier. The higher your SMV the less this will matter because you’ll have a bigger pool of girls already initially attracted to you.

Don’t get super wasted, in fact just enough to relax you is enough. Focus on building confidence in your game while being sober.

Don’t ever talk to shit faced girls at all. It’s a MeToo gamble that isn’t worth it.

Don’t compliment her looks, compliment anything else.

You WILL rejected and you will find some bitches but don’t let it phase you. Never get angry and always leave with a “have a nice night”. You won’t be successful every time so just have a good time and make friends and learn from all your mistakes and don’t repeat them.


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Title My Guide To Going Out Alone And Getting Laid
Author Whycantwealltwerk
Upvotes 801
Comments 89
Date 19 November 2019 06:32 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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[–]dasupafagg218 points219 points  (4 children) | Copy

This is advice is gold.

Definitely don't overlook the last bit: "never compliment her looks, always something else."

Yep. Compliment something that validates her taste: her shoes, perfume, her drink, whatever.

[–]PIQAS28 points29 points  (3 children) | Copy

i ALWAYS never cand understand why girls love compliments about the looks and why men keep giving them, it is so saturated, the moment I'd attempt to say a compliment about her look in my mind it would sound so fake because even if it would be true, for me as an analogy would be like saying 'you know, the water is wet' or 'if i breath air in i breath it out after' ... dunno, sounds fake and lame. but I prefer instead to compliment her genuinely in indirect ways, maybe about something that she said or did, in ways that I make her use her own mind to realize I admire something about her without me pointing it out like eli5.

i think that when the boomer generation was young, shit like this worked "oh, you're so beautiful like a field of sunflowers with rose petals around it..." or "oh, your face is like the sun, shiny and beautiful"... and boomer girls bite it. easy stuff. nowadays if I tell someone her face is like the sun, she'd think that her face cannot be stared at or some shit and either way, cheesy mindless shit.

[–]WestCoastSaint32 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy

It feels fake because it's completely unnecessary. If you approach a woman with confidence and intent she already knows you are attracted to her physically so what's the point on saying she looks good? You'll just come off as needy, dumb and as someone who doesn't have a whole lot to say aka wants to fuck but has no value to offer ("I think you're pretty pls let's fuck!!")

[–]adriano5158 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women get compliments about looks all the time, those comments are forgettable. You know what they remember? Compliments they rarely get for example intelligence based compliments. It's like being complimented your whole life about being smart, after a while it's forgettable and non important and it includes a default response "thank you" or "yeah yeah".

[–]opper-hombre12 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

not to mention every loser under the sun will compliment the girl on her looks, so complimenting or even just a playful comment will make you stand out

[–]Rkingpin67 points68 points  (16 children) | Copy

A lot of guys over in asktrp shit on nightgame. But tbh its something about that environment which is so primal and great for hunting.

The loud music, sweaty atmosphere, lowered inhibitions etc. If you can tap into that inner masculine beast you can really appreciate it.

[–]smgtn29 points30 points  (11 children) | Copy

A lot of guys over in asktrp shit on nightgame.

They're not wrong though, it's all based on evidence.

Tl;dr: Wanna score pussy in night club? Be a Chad.

I fucking hate everything about night clubs - staying up ridiculously late, noise, drinking, crowdedness, shitty music.

Still, I decided to test TRP strategy and I went this weekend to this club in London called Studio 338 that according to google was supposed to be good (it wasn't).

I found a massive sausage fest there - twice as many dudes as there were chicks. I was easily in the top 10% physique wise, but I have average face, shaved head and I'm in my late 30s. I was relaxed and smiling all the time, making eye contact and cruising around. Some chicks would smile back and walk away, others just ignore, one hot girl fist bumped me and took off, so basically random bullshit. I spoke to several girls and I held my frame, but it was like pulling teeth, those chicks were flaky as hell and the crazy noise didn't help either.

I can only objectively judge my "net worth" in dating market from a number of girls I've dated and the fact that there were plenty of hot ones among them. So the chicks at the night club from my perspective were reasonable game, but a complete bust nonetheless.

So I've asked a very basic and neutral question in London sub if meeting girls in clubs was no longer a thing. I was attacked by a bunch of raging betas painting me as almost some rapist and frothing something about that nightclubs are just for friends to go have fun and nothing more. Obviously they were not exactly right, but not entirely wrong either - not too many people go alone to clubs.

When I was a student in my early 20s, pulling in clubs (not in UK though) was rather common and easy. Maybe in the end it just depends on how old you are and what country you're in.

[–]Rkingpin19 points20 points  (3 children) | Copy

Bro u cant go to one club on a single night and make all these assumptions. Yes I am from london and tend to frequent clubs with a hip hop scene.

If what you're saying is true with having a lifting aesthetic then something else is missing from your game.

It comes down to that unshakable confidence. I dress a little flamboyant sometimes. (Shirts with open buttons, chains, tight t shirts) this suits my hip hop scene.

Fierce eye contact, extend your hand to the bitch and make her dance with you then go from there.

Studio 338 is notorious for attracting essex lads who like house music shit. It was always gonna be a sausage fest. London is a huge place man find the right spots

[–]smgtn5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

So would you agree that there are clubs in London that are more toward hookups just like the other guy said? If so I'd be interested to know which ones.

[–]Rkingpin12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

See that's your thing youre too outcome dependent on securing the pussy.

You got to find a place which suits your scene and style and go to enjoy vibes, the pussy will come if your SMV is what you say it is

[–]yodawg321 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What hip hop clubs do you recommend for this ?

[–]Jejmaze3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

It also depends on what club you go to. Some clubs are known for basically being meat markets because people really just go there to get laid, while others people genuinely go to to have a good time with their friends.

[–]smgtn3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I don't know, I tried to find such clubs by googling extensively, asking on reddit and came up with jack shit. Also if such clubs existed then I suspect male to female ratio would be even worse than what I saw this weekend.

I'd be happy to be wrong about this, but so far I've seen no evidence.

[–]askmrcia2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

A lot of clubs of are meat markets. Its always going to be that way. Usually when you find a better female to male ratio is when a special event is going on, such as a popular DJ being there, good band, holiday, bar crawls, bachelorette party, touristy city clubs (depends on location), or after a pro sports/major college sports win.

If its a regular weekend in your typical downtown club and nothing really special is going on its going to be a sausage fest most of the time.

[–]Protocol_Apollo0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Studio 338 isn’t that good, HMU if you want to know the better London clubs.

[–]smgtn0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

So which ones are better then?

[–]Protocol_Apollo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

As a student, Fabric, ministry and possibly loop are my go to.

Can’t speak from weekend experience though- I only go on weekdays.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Uh idk what to tell you brah. it sounds like a you problem.

I spoke to several girls and I held my frame,

why are you trying to talk to girls in a club? you dont really even have to talk to them just start making out with them or dancing with them. also enjoy yourself man dont go out just looking for pussy. that would be a wasted night if you ask me

[–]CHAD_J_THUNDERCOCK9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

I heard such great stuff about daygame. I heard you could chat up girls during the day that you couldn't at night in bars. Theres some truth to that, and it used to be 100% true for me, but as I entered late 20s and got better at dancing, dressed better, and so on, I started to find I would get positive interactions at night with people who would not have been interested in the day.

Also I disagree with OP about going to places at 11pm. Some amazing interactions happen at 9pm-11pm when you are the first guy of the night to make an approach as the other men have not consumed alcohol. My interactions at 9pm usually alter the trajectory of my night too.

[–]rockyp321 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m still a TRP noob in the fact I’ve never really applied it all. But literally I went to to the club for the first time over the summer and I pulled my first night and I’m an awkward fuck I think it’s mostly just random. TRP Still applies but it’s jsut way more chaotic some nights you might get ten girls wanting you then another night no one cares

[–]cupshadow1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

A lot of guys over in asktrp shit on nightgame

With good reason. The competition is insanely high if you don't have much to offer physically, girls have much stronger shields and there is few room for conversation. I still don't get how Mystery used to build that whole circus just to get laid, maybe his party weren't like the ones I usually go to.

At least in the day you can lead her through conversation and deliver value. You have plenty of room to apply all the techniques, even kino depending on the situation.

But I'm not judging anyone's sexual strategy, do what is more optimal to you. For me, it was 90% waste of time and money.

[–]anozix0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

ded to test TRP strateg

i totally disagree. In nightclubs the competion is not high because most guys are high inib....

[–]Nomsonfacekcool90 points91 points  (0 children) | Copy

Surprisingly useful, non-preachy advice. Too many posts on here have too much “theory” fluff when I just want something to glance at before I go out and apply it.

Will be coming back to this post for sure.

[–]zyzzguido5524 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

We need more posts like this here. Good, sound, guide on fundamentals

[–]HorvathRed31 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy

Decent advice in my experience. Night club game is honestly my favourite too despite all the Daygame fads. I'd say the most important points are having genuine fun to the music, vibing well, and paying attention to subtle approach invitations. Only talk to guys who are high value and will lift you up too, develop this perception and only do it briefly.. But I suppose it demands higher SMV, and at some point you'll get approached and indirectly approached by cute girls and everything is much easier.

Another note, if you find a club that you like enough, and you're becoming a regular there. After a couple of times, you'll be semi-noticed, and it's good to start getting to know the bouncers, the bartenders. Starting with the men and giving symbolic tips every once in a while (I'm not American and don't believe in the ludicrous tipping culture), shooting a little bit of shit when they're not really busy. It can pay dividends in a really natural way. It builds confidence to get acquainted with the authorities there, you'll get in the club a lot easier, and I've had cases occasions where 2 cute bartenders offered me a shot as soon as I arrived at the bar, and a male bartender a beer. The cute girl standing next to me waiting for her drink? "Does he get a shot just because he's cute?" Instant strong hook. Couple of girls at the club entrance queue see me arrive and get in almost immediately even though I'm alone or with one other male friend? It's noticed.

[–]1meerita46 points47 points  (16 children) | Copy

What I do:

  1. Switch country in Tinder.
  2. Get 20 matches.
  3. Travel there, arrange dates and fuck a lot.
  4. Leave the country after 3 days.
  5. Unmatch all

[–]Totsean26 points27 points  (9 children) | Copy

I did it better:
1. Moved to Philippines.
Problem solved.

[–]Jejmaze6 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy

So what context am I missing here?

[–]Totsean8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

Well, his plans requires traveling to another country, setup dates, fuck and then go back. This works but you won't get the prime fucks. It's cheaper to stay long term and have as many girls as your heart desires. I mean if you got an average cock which is bigger than natives and you look better than 5ish and have some money, you're basically a Rock Star. Threesomes are like an everyday thing. And the girls like good fuckers, some crave for it and would not mind fulfilling all your fantasies.

Plus, if you got a GF on top, it's best of both worlds.

[–]deeznutsbeswingin0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What’s it costing you to live there? I can work from anywhere so been thinking about it

[–]Totsean3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you can afford 2k usd per month you will live comfortably. Avoid Manila, come to Angeles city pampanga.

[–]ElZalupo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"Become a degenerate sex tourist who deserves to get beaten up by a bunch of Flip bikers"

[–]1meerita8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Aye, you can have the happiest life there. Have a gf, and her friends on your bed any day :)

[–]Totsean7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well, not her friends/family but everyone else is fair game :D, I had an encounter with her bestie way back, it didn't end well. But I learned from it and decided it's better not to fuck around. And find fish in different ever expanding pounds. 3 years in and I still go around shopping ;). No need to spin plates though, it's just easier to fuck and get a new one.

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[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (3 children) | Copy

If you can afford it that is

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[–]nandemonaidattebayo0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Can you point me to a post about getting your finances in order as a fresh graduate? From a red lense obviously.

[–]juice_bomb23 points24 points  (2 children) | Copy

Great advice, but my honest question becomes. Do you want nightclub women as your plates? Sure easy and consistent. The question then becomes are they high quality enough to demand your time and energy from the many other pursuits you have in life?

-edited to say 4 is golden.

[–]Whycantwealltwerk[S] 18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

I was going to write about this but honestly the plates I’ve gotten from night game all rarely go out I just caught them on their friends birthday/holiday etc. For plates you want a more serious relationship with I wouldn’t advise night game but just FWB it’s fine. Not every girl at a club is a club girl.

[–]TheInsulator6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

A little harder to do when you’re 40 plus.

[–]askmrcia2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Go to breweries or wine tastings lol.

[–]louielouie2224 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

This used to be my play book....but now I'm not really finding girls out anymore. I feel like if you're an attractive girl, there's no reason to go out to look for guys, even if you're in a group....Anyone noticing this?

[–]Whycantwealltwerk[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

This may be true social media kind of finds high value guys for most girls.

But at the end of the day there will always be girls and guys going out and by meeting those people you can potentially social network and meet hotter girls.

I went out the other night just to grab a beer, met a guy and he invited me to his place where there was 12 beautiful women his two roommates brought over. Don’t underestimate social networking and the fact hot girls WILL go out eventually and the numbers game always win.

[–]louielouie2222 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

what is your age and country?

[–]stripedtanker0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Im seeing the same thing. Lots of hot tinder girls in my area. Not seeing any of em in real life. Either I'm going to wrong clubs or they just don't go out.

[–]1atticusfinch19738 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

For the older crowd, if you aren't into nightclub game and look decent, look into good live music venues in your city.

There are always groups of women there, easy to open and talk about similar tastes in music. Dancing is optional but a great way to guage interest.

Demographic skews older for sure but if you're 30 plus or especially over 40 (like me) it's very similar to what OP describes.

[–]askmrcia6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

look into good live music venues in your city

These are becoming more popular then clubs in my city. Don't know what it is , but it seems like its trendy to go to live music venues.

[–]stripedtanker0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You got any other activities or venues you'd recommend as an older guy to go by yourself and meet women? I like clubs but getting a bit tired of it as well and don't plan on going to places like a grocery store for the sole purpose of meeting women.

[–]19abto2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

It’s posts like yours that make me glad I joined this subreddit. Thanks for sharing this advice.

[–]Whycantwealltwerk[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks I have so many topics I would like to give my perspective on and the positive feedback reinforces me to want to post them.

[–]19abto0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’m sure it does. Would be looking forward to that!

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[–]Whycantwealltwerk[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Being attractive does get your foot in the door but I’ve seen lots of attractive guys strike out from very poor execution. And I’d say for the past three months I haven’t really had to approach a girl so you’re right about them coming up to you, if they since you aren’t thirsty and you walk and move like someone with authority and confidence.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe my experience is out of the norm but what's with this meme of approaching only when you get ioi's? My experience both in night and daygame, the most attractive girls don't always give ioi's and the hottest girls I've hooked up with I approached without any hint of an ioi, they don't even fucking notice me. Also I've approached average girls giving me huge ioi's and they've blown me off completely.

It's good to look out for ioi's but relying on them is going to be very limiting and because you're not getting an ioi doesn't mean the girl wont be interested in you.

Other than that everything is solid, good post.

[–]Whycantwealltwerk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m not so into IOIs as I mention in the post but this guide is tailored for new guys and it’s the best indication to help them. Also it helps them waste less time.

My only rule is if I’m really into her look I’ll talk to her whether she’s given any or not. And also I’ve gotten a fair good idea what kind of girls are into me but I don’t take that into account much at all anymore.

[–]yomo862 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Awsome post. Let me at this: when, after a certain point, like 1am you don't have fun or a lay is not close. Call it a night. You body and mind will thank you. Sometimes you win, sometimes you just lose.

[–]GodOfDinosaurs4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Upvoted and saved. This post should probably be pinned for a while IMO.

[–]PatrickIIDX6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

I should add, going out alone has much more benefits than bringing a friend, in my case, a stupid friend who gets super drunk. I shit you not, he gave me $60 telling me to "go buy these girls drinks". I kept the $60, and didn't buy a single one. Although I earned some money, I could of socially done better without him. My advice, go out alone and just talk to a few strangers here and there. Stupid friends can make you look bad.

[–]Brutal1310 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

Why do you call friends stupid?

[–]ArtDeve9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Because his friend only relied on the wanker technique of buying random girls their drinks. Poor wingmen scare girls off.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Its not a fucking wanker technique and I can tell none of you guys get laid. I was in a club once and everyone was either sipping beers like pussys or they were drinking mixed drinks while i was drinking straight shots. i literally went around the whole bar trying to find someone to cheers with who had a shot but nobody did. was about to buy a girl a shot so we could cheers but fuck it i ended up finding a girl who had one.

You guys sound like fucking losers. Tripping over 60$ to buy some girls a drink? Its just some money, have a good fucking time. Youre at a fucking club dont look like a damn scrub because "o-o-only betas buy girls drinks"

I dont even see it as "buying a girl a drink" i see it as "trying to have more fun with everyone around me"

As for PatrickIIDX, if I was his friend and I found that shit out, I would whoop his ass and never talk to him again. What kind of shitty fucking friend do you have to be to steal your boys 60$?

[–]notaname08750 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You sound stupid, thats why your friends are stupid

[–]Rockomoc1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nice piece of advice, short and to the point

[–]jpg_71 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

How attractive were the women you were spinning.

[–]Whycantwealltwerk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Above average for sure other women would stop them and compliment them on there looks/body.

[–]BumblingBeta1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

One question - I don't know what clubs you're going to, but clubs I've been to have deafening music which makes it impossible to talk. You can't have a conversation, so it just turns into a situation where you start dancing with a random girl and go in for a kiss, or you say the absolute minimum to a girl on the side (eg. "you're really hot, your outfit looks sexy"), then move in for a kiss if you're getting the right body language from her.

At a bar it's obviously different. Quieter music, not as crowded, you can actually talk properly.

[–]Whycantwealltwerk[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

I don’t kiss girls anymore unless they initiate or keep getting close to my face. And when i do it’s very short. But everything you said is right but remember communication is body language (55 percent) and tone of voice (38 percent).

So like I mentioned after dancing for awhile to build relative sexual tension ask to go outside of switch locations go somewhere quieter. She may resist because of her friends which I simply say “we won’t be there for long. “

I pick up a lot of girls from a local bar where it’s so loud it almost affects your sight it seems.

Hope that helps.

[–]BumblingBeta0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks! Did you see my private messages?

[–]LucyDD693 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

Thanks boss. Good shit. I have a question, maybe this belongs on asktrp though.

I asked a cute classmate upfront after getting off a bus and chatting while waiting for another bus.

“So xx, what are you doing Wednesday night?”.

“What do you mean what am I doing Wednesday night?” - Replies with a smile, kind of confused look.

“I mean, Wednesday night, what are you doing?” (Said in a not dicky manner, am smiling and flirtatious).

“I have classes and...”.

“Xx, after classes silly.”.

Now she’s just thinking and whatnot - forgot what she said. But she seemed thoughtful, and was trying to figure out what she had. (Both in Uni). We grab another bus since we are going the same way, and she shows me this food place she likes to go to, Nd pretty much gives me an enthusiastic mtv cribs guide of the place.

“HERE ARE THE APPLES!” (She motions with her arm, then shows me other stuff). Right after we get food she has to go, or she’d be late for class. As she begins to leave she says.

“Hey, see you Wednesday!” (We have class together.)

Lots of IOIs, broke the physical kino barrier. I’m trying to figure out how to get her over to my place for a movies, smores, and vodka. (Most likely with my room mates)..

Since she didn’t tell me when she was free, (provide an alternative meet), do I just try again wednesday and see what her plans for the weekend are? Or would that be showing that i’m too invested in meeting up with her after class?

Long post, and no not ONEITIS. Just trying to analyze. Let me know bros. EDIT: First time we briefly “hung out” after class. I didn’t ask for numbers because we see eachother in class anyways.

[–]Whycantwealltwerk[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Like all stories i can’t see the important things like your tonality and if you come off as desperate in your delivery. But you asked I would recommend to tell her something you’re doing and invite her. Asking is a buffer and shows a lack of confidence.

[–]omega052 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

The only thing i would critique is you asking her what she was doing wednesday instead of telling her or inviting her out. Heck playfully tell her to invite you to that place she was talking about and gauge her response

[–]julius_pepperwood13 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t shit where you eat, you will 100% regret it.

[–]Destrabia2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go to a prostitute, its easier and cheaper

[–]JurJur1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Going to keep this in mind when I rave next weekend. I was planning to approach but imma let them approach me. Just gotta have F U N

[–]Red_Pill_Brotherhood0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Glad you posted this over here.

This is great advice. Probably the most important part here is going out to *enjoy yourself/company and the music and to have a good time*, not for the purpose of picking up chicks. This subtle difference in your vibe really counts.

[–]Dane500 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Great post. I’ve had reliable success going out alone over my life. Usually it’s while traveling at the hotel lobby bar or hotel pool.

I applaud your ability to solo in clubs. This would definitely be harder than the travel/hotel scene.

[–]stripedtanker0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Great advice. I go out by myself and took a break since it's winter and last time I went out to my usual place it was all guys. Hate putting all the work getting dressed, cleaning my place, only to not find anyone I want to talk to. Any advice for for other good places to go out by yourself?

[–]Whycantwealltwerk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The mall but the thing to do would join a club or some sort of activity. Rock climbing and any form of MMA would be great for young fit girls. And get guy friends who hang around girls if you really want to maximize your returns. Make sure it’s guy YOU want to hang with and activities you like.

[–]Virtusvitium-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

TL;DR - jack off in corners by yourself.

[–]RacistMuffin-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the almost exact blueprint of AMS guide to club game

[–]PhaedrusHunt-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your advice on how to dance is hilarious.

I play drums and can dance so it's not a thing to me but it's really funny.

Hey man if it works it works all you guys give it a shot

[–]guywhoisambitious-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great read. I'm in college so this was helpful. But couple questions:

  1. You said to always have a drink in your hand. I've been to clubs and honestly nobody hold their drink in their hand unless they are near the sitting area or near the bar area. On the dance floor or around, you'll rarely ever see that. Seems awkward. So what should be done instead?
  2. The clubs I've been to, almost impossible to make any conversation. Super loud. So how should I communicate with girls instead, especially if they are in a group? This is a big one, because it seems to be the very basis of your game, such as talking with guys at first, and then talking with girls.

Edit: Lol why am I getting downvoted? Just asking a couple questions lmao.

[–]bjcm5891-3 points-2 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is all good advice but I'm confused. I thought these 'How To' posts weren't allowed on here?

[–]hearse2233 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can get away with certain things if fundamentals are demonstrated, another TRP lesson

[–]Jake_Chavira-3 points-2 points  (1 child) | Copy

LPT: Also if you find yourself too anxious and lacking confidence right before a date, masturbate. This is not a troll, seriously, it helps. Give yourself enough time to clean yourself and freshen up. You may/will find yourself being able to think up witty lines and actively be IN the converation, not thinking too much about sex. You'll be relaxed enough to go with the flow of things that, ironically, may just lead to a nice night..



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