Hi, first time poster here. A friend told me about “red pill” and told me to post here. Here goes nothing.
My wife of 16 years wants a divorce all of the sudden and is refusing counseling. I am looking at the browsing history on my WiFi devices and she is visiting lawyers websites and apartment websites. She’s told me several times she wants to get a divorce and is starving me off all contact. No touching, no kissing, barely any texting. And no sex, of course.
This all sprung up out of nowhere about 1 month ago. Throughout the years we would get into heated arguments on the weekends when we would drink too much, and we are both prescribed adderal. So the arguments would turn into verbal fights. Typically, it would be about sex. She has never wanted to initiate sex, never has. It’s always been me to initiate but she has always seemed to enjoy it, I believe?!
Anyways, she’s telling me there’s been too much damage over the years. I’ve admitted to her that there has certainly been problems and we will stop drinking. I haven’t had a drink in 3 weeks and don’t intend to. She is not budging and still refuses to go to counseling with me.
My heart aches incredibly, I have a child in the house with this woman. I do not want to see our family get split apart in the span of a last-second decision from my wife. It’s been 16 years and she’s had a complete change of heart in a matter of a month and, again, is searching for divorce attorneys and new housing, and will not go to counseling.
I’ve tried everything. Please, what do I do from here?