Ex-plate hits me up now that she's 29

Sorry for hijacking this post. Just wanted to share my story and also get some advice for pushing forward after a breakup. Me (34 M) recently came out of a nasty breakup with my ex (25 F) two months ago. Met online, chatted for a while and finally went on our first date. A few weeks later she came to my apartment. By the 2nd date she was sucking my dick like her life depended on it, deepthroating and all and she even let me cum in her mouth and she swallowed. I was kinda disgusted when she swallowed that quick but who cares I liked it. She made a comment that pissed me off, saying she doesn't like the taste of cum its too salty but mine isn't..I knew I was probably dealing with a slut but anyway. She didn't give it up that day since she had the period but eventually gave it up by the 3rd date. We became official 3 months later, didn't live together or anything. She had too many red flags which made me wonder why I would commit to someone like that. Unstable personality which she tends to blame on her abusive ex.. Of course they never blame themselves. We dated from December 2018 until September 2019. Things started deteriorating since May 2019, and I noticed she was pulling away being slightly cold, takes a lot of time responding to texts 8 hrs when she's at work and blaming in it on being busy..also withholding sexually.. I called her out on it - mistake. Then I told her over the phone that I wanted to end it. She said she doesn't want to and she asked to come here so we can mend things etc of course typical female manipulation she came here and promised she will change etc and me like a good beta gave her a chance.. 3 weeks later didn't notice much improvement. Waited for her to come here gave me a blowjob and fucked her ass till I tore it up and came inside etc I was mad af. After she left I told her it was over.. She said she knew I was gonna do that and asked if she can still come from time to time. I said yes but don't expect anything non-physical. She came on August 8 and before entering the apartment she freaked out and wanted to leave and told me she wasn't sure what my intentions were and she was afraid i was planning something lol straight up psycho and she ran towards the elevator panicking and shaking, she said she just wants to sit down at the lobby. We sat down for almost 3 hours complete waste of my time then she took an uber and went home. She never came again until begining of September. During that time all we were talking about is how she doesn't trust me and some horseshit, she is always projecting her abusive past onto me, which was something I noticed very early as a red flag but ignored. During the 1 month+ period we didn't see each other she sometimes initiated contact during that period but we would go 2 or 3 days without contact. Finally she came begining of September and by that time I guess we were both checked out of the relationship, few days later on September 13 she calls me in the morning while I was at work and started telling me your tone is aggressive and you are rude rn etc then we hung up. THIS is the interesting part. I sent her a text immediately telling her its over and I can't put up with her crap anymore. Then headed to a meeting shortly after. When I got out of the meeting there was still no response, I called her a few times- ask me why!! Then sent her other messages saying if u don't respond by 11am you are blocked and I don't wanna hear your voice again. Next thing I know is her blocking me on whatsapp lol. Then I go ahead and send her text messages saying why would u block me? And told her am coming to your work to grab coffee and talk about things- she freaked out calling me and panicking and telling me she called the police blah blah then she said she will call me after work. So she calls me at 5pm and asks if we can meet. I told her where to come, so we meet at a coffee shop and she says how scared she is etc same old crap. Then she went home and I went home. The next day she calls me asking if she can come to my house. So she comes and tells me the relationship is over, you eneded it yesterday and I agree I don't want a relationship with you after what you did yesterday. I said fine. I was calm af and didn't show any emotion. She then said she wants to be FWB ans asked if I wanted to fuck. I said no thanks maybe another time, it bruised her ego and she asked me are you sure? I said yes. But I'll let you know when I want. She said Ok. Then she left. We talked at night and I had a few drinks then went all beta over the phone telling her I don't want that FWB shit. Then she tried to convince me, eventually told her I will see. Next day I told her I will only be Ok with it if we were exclusive, she said Ok and we left it at that. At the point I was already in the gym for 2 weeks, lost 13lbs and continued focusing on my self, eating healthy, lifting, sleeping well etc then I took a week off work to go to California, before I left I texted her so we can meet up the Saturday after I came back, and asked her to confirm via text. She called me to wish me a good trip and said she will check her schedule at work and confirm. I said Ok. 4 days later, I had drunk called her at 5pm, she didn't answer, called again at 8pm she didn't answer as she was still at work. Alcohol tricked me into texting her saying why are u not answering all that crap and then told her forget about our fwb arrangement. She calls me shortly after and we talked for a bit then hung up. The next morning I send her a series of beta messages. Including screenshots of texts between me and my female cousin, who asked about how my relationship was, I told her we are no longer together etc and that since my dad's diagnosis I haven't been the same person and treated my gf bad and I rarely cry but I am crying because I could lose my dad at any time etc some bullshif beta stuff that I still don't understand why I sent. Anyway, she says are u sending me this to try and get back with me using your dad as an excuse. The drunk me said yes, from there we started an argument and she insults me and I insulted her back it was ugly, she then said I believe the screenshots were made up, u have free time in your hands and sitting there obsessing about me lol.. Anyway we end it there. Next day i call her and the same thing we get into an argument and she has a mental breakdown and gets her dad on the phone to ask me not to contact again. She blocked my number the same day. I then relapsed into my old drinking habits and start calling/texting from different numbers. I called and texted over a period of weeks every time while under the influence. She eventually changed her number. A week later I call her office and she didn't wanna talk -obviously. Now she's on that pedestal. I then threaten to call her family and tell them we had a sexual relationship. She comes from a religious family. So I call and spoke with her parents and told them. That same day they called my family and asked them to make me stop or they will go to the police. I stayed quite until two weeks later when I sent her an e-mail to her work e-mail. I fucking hate alcohol man. Makes me do some dumb shit. Anyway while I was randomly looking to see if they filed anything against me, I went online and looked up my name and saw that they tried to file for a peace order against me the same day they called my family but it was denied due to lack of sufficient evidence. Since then I cut the alcohol and just focusing on my self. It was quite an experience. This is not something that I would normally do, but this bitch has a way of making people act this way, what's funny is that her ex did the exact same thing but he took it a step further and went to her houss until her father and brother got involved. I should have heeded the message from the very begining when she was paranoid at the begining of the relationship and telling me about all the stories about her ex. What do you suggest now, going monk mode for a while and focus on myself, my job, and kicking addiction, staying in the gym etc and leave gaming women until I have stabilized a little bit and forgot this relationship. It seems I secretly developed onitis in the process without even noticing. Onitis is a bitch man. I have been very distracted at work and life in general, it seems that this hoe was taking a lot of my time and I somehow became a codependent bitch! Whats your advice in getting over this quickly and move on?