Girl doesn't get wet from aggression. I thought all girls enjoyed to be man handled?

So whenever I try to be more aggressive with her, like throw her in bed, be a bit more rough she doesn't get wet.

But if I am more gentle and don't skip kissing and hugging she gets very very wet. She's told me before she likes to feel "safe and protected". Like she cums really hard if we spoon usually.

What gives?