It's no secret that the reason most men discover or are interested in the RP philosophy is that they want to up their game with women and/or engage in a journey of self-improvement, which are more or less the same thing.
So it's important to understand how female psychology works in regards to what makes the Red Pill so successful.
Women want to be with a guy who they perceive as being more valuable than they are. This is basic human psychology. This is hypergamy in a nutshell. This is why the more money women make, the more money they need the guy to make to find him a suitable mate. This is why the more options a woman has, the more selective she becomes. This is why during sex women like to be degraded and humiliated by the guy, or spanked and choked. In the most primal and ultimate expression of our animal instincts, the man is asserting his dominance over her, his power over her, and increasing the void of value between the two of you to the most extreme level possible. You are her god and she is your slave. Why do you think women are so into bondage and rape fantasies? It's all power dynamics.
So if you want to have a powerful game, what you're really focusing on is creating a void of value. There are many ways of doing this but I'll focus on the most obvious 3:
- Increasing your actual/objective value through physical means like lifting, losing weight, or making money.
- Increasing your perceived self-value through meeting goals, meditation, and psychological training.
- Decreasing her perceived value through approaching, unyielding confidence and negging.
It's important to note the blatant distinction between points 1 and 2.
In method 1 you're increasing your external sense of value (determined by society) through physical means like looking better or being financially better off. In method 2 you're increasing your internal sense of value by doing things which make you proud of yourself. Do you see the difference? One is external and material, the other is internal and psychological. They are both important.
This is why you so often hear the repeating motto in this sub of "Lift. Lift. Lift. Just shut up and lift." It's because lifting inadvertently creates so much value for the adherent, even if they don't understand why.
- It makes them look better by being more muscular and losing fat, therefore making them more socially valuable.
- It increases their internal sense of self-value by meeting goals and having discipline.
- The physical appearance and confidence of a ripped guy is often intimidating to women, lowering their own sense of value.
It's not that lifting is some ancient magical ceremony that guarantees success. In fact there are many different ways one could achieve a similar effect. Lifting is simply an easy and effective solution that any man can do to maximize his results, even if he doesn't fully understand why.
In fact, the more you think about it, ALL of the most common and mainstream Red Pill mottos and philosophies boil down to creating a void of value between a man and the woman he's trying to fuck. "Abundance mentality" lowers her value because she's replaceable. "Neg her" lowers her sense of self-value by making her feel as though there's something wrong with her. "AWALT" makes her like every other girl, therefore not valuable. The entire meditation on shit testing is a way in which a man asserts his value over a woman by not allowing himself to be emotionally provoked by her, but instead treating her irrational outbursts as if she were a mere spoiled child. What could create more of a value disparity than that?
There are a million ways to create a value disparity between yourself and a woman, I encourage you to take some of the most common advice but also be creative. Always keep it in the back of your mind that this is your goal from the moment you meet her. Even long into the relationship, if it begins to fail, it will be because she started to lose respect for you and therefore the value disparity began to shrink. For men, respect is vastly more important than "love".
Another example of RP words of wisdom are "Don't worship the pussy." Why do you think that is? Because it's low-value and makes you look desperate. If a man seems desperate to a woman, he's automatically considered low-value. This is why approaching is so non-intuitive to guys. When they first begin approaching, most guys will seem nervous and desperate to her. But if you are desperate to get laid, why would you approach? Because you must build desensitization to this activity until it becomes completely normal and natural, like talking to your friends or family. You must change your own frame through action, not just thinking. Once you can be perfectly comfortable around beautiful women, and accepting of rejection, you will love and respect yourself more, which directly translates to more success. The reality is that the reason any man does not approach is fear. It is a fear that controls him but is also in some ways perfectly rational. He knows he will be rejected because he does not have self-respect and confidence around women. Again, this comes with practice and lots of failure. This is why, against all intuition, you must keep doing it. As long as you are ruled by fear, you will never truly have your own respect.