Lately ive been noticing that i have a blue pilled dad. My step mom seems to be the one running this house.(I'm 16 but please take me serioysly. I want to help)
It was better before they got married. when they did they combined their loans becouse she seemed to be in trouble. (I didn't know this before this week. I thought my dad would be smart enough not to do that).
He doesn't have any hobbies that i know of. Before he did (cars, MTB, wind surfing etc). He also pretty much never spends anytime with us kids(4 of us). Less than an hour a week mostly. All time goes to work 8hr day and spending time with her. He did spend time with us before they got together and even when he was with my real mom.
She on the other hand is not working right now. She is full time studying towards shit that doesn't pay that well. But she is not up to lower her standard of living. Basically my dad is the only one with money. But she is the one who decides where "their" money it's spent.
He has seemed to be intrested in lifting, but that never got off. (Me at 16 starting to get bigger.) I'm only saying this becouse it's like she doesn't want my dad to lift. Cardio they both do daily. And she talks about being "healthy"(i can talk more about her health shit if u want to)
Today i noticed that she didn't like my dads hair when it's cut. (It's longer than hers ffs) i guess a sutble way of getting him not to look good to anyone else.
Oh and when you ask about anything at the dinner table it is always her opinions that matters. My dad doesn't even say what he thinks most of the time. One on one my dad is fine.
He was in work stress for a long time before he changed it up a little. What ive heard it's been alot better for atleast a year or two now.
So ive been thinking that if i just get him to workout with me he will have support and hopefully no excuses. (And ill get some time with my dad). Also i can then bring this up slowly.
If i just say it in he's face. he will just get angry and close off. Probably just say were all against her. When she's around i obviosly can't talk.
So i just want your guys opinions about what could i do to help him get better or completly out of this. Or just to actually realize this is even what's happening.