°°What is the problem, and what do you think is the root of the issue?°°
Let me just introduce myself and give a bit of context.
I have been lurking here for a while and actually the discovery of RPW came in my life like a blessing fallen from the sky.
I come from a very liberal household. Not traditional at all. I also come from a very liberal area of a pretty liberal country. The thing that never completly resonated with me was feminism. And the teachings I got from it slowly started to ruin my life.
Part of me was a very feminine woman. I was never career-focused, while I still loved going to school. I consider myself to be smart.
My mother is a feminist and she always made me feel guilty that I was preoccupied by my appearance and was holding on to my dream find a man to love and have a family and make it to focal point of my life. She was always talking trash about men (especially my dad).
I became unable to trust men fully. And I became sour about them.
I was also ridiculed as a young adult whenever I tried to follow a (what I think is my natural) path, guided by more conservative ideas. I was shamed by my siblings, who made fun of me and called me "the suburbian wife".
Wanting to conform and because I love them both dearly, I tried to understand their "woke" opinions. And I believed them. I was all for non-traditional gender roles. Unfortunately, that lead me to make a lot of mistakes, that I still work on forgiving myself for.
A little more than a year ago, I met my captain. And everything was flowing perfectly, until reality hit and the nagging (from me) started. And a few bad fights resulted, hurting our relationship. And that's when I stumbled upon RPW.
Everything became clear. He was the man I loved, with his preferences, his flaws and his needs. And I had to restore respect. And while it is not perfect yet (it is deeply ingrained in me), my change in behavior helped get us back to happiness.
Now, he comes from a pretty traditional background, but moved here in his early teenage years, without his family, to study. His parents marriage ended up pretty badly. I would say the way his family thinks is VERY VERY conservative. That lead him to find traditional gender roles and conservative ideas pretty laughable. I wouldn't describe him as "woke" but he definetly thinks of me as a opiniated feminist. I never wanted to bring up my change if heart regarding this topic.
How have you contributed/attempted to mitigate the problem?
Now problem is, he saw that I have been on RPW on reddit, and saw in my instagram search history RPW hashtags. And now he makes fun of me for it. He's like "so you're now redpilled? Hahaha". So obviously I brushed it off and just went like: "yeah I researched it to laugh at these crazy ppl lol". But he keeps teasing me about it.
I'm kind of teared between being honest to my man which is kind of a priority to me, or accept that he may think badly badly of me and tease me about it forever. And also him thinking I'm not that great at surrendering if you know what I mean. Because compared to my past self I seem amazing, but compared to you all, I'm such an amateur. I also don't want to push my views on him and make him feel pressured to be more "assertive".
What is your current relationship status and length of time?
We have been in a relationship together for 9 months. We are in our mid-twenties.
Tldr; I used to be a feminist and met my captain during that time. Now he has "suspicions" that I'm redpilled and I don't know if I should admit it.
Edit: THANK YOU SO MUCH to the person who gave me gold! I am so grateful and excited!
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