I have several boys, a couple in college and a couple in high school. To this point, while I’ve provided a comfortable life for them, I’ve failed to teach them how to be men because of my own beta ways. In fact, the college boys were home for the holidays and I observed one is a definite beta-orbiter to a female.
I’ve read through previous posts and the prevailing advice is to STFU and just lead by example. I plan to lead by example going forward, although it’s easier with the high school kids since they’re living at home. It’s the college boys I’m worried about. Is it appropriate to “suggest” some reading to them in this case? I’ll be honest, part of me wants to give them that “nudge” to get started but I truly take STFU seriously. I’m conflicted and appreciate some feedback.