I posted this in Asktrp and thought I'd ask for insight here too.
My 1.5 year LTR recently started a new job in marketing and has made friends with a 6’7 guy who used to row for Great Britain (high SMV to compete with lol).
The dynamic in our relationship is generally positive – all affection instigated by her, she’s submissive, happy to follow my lead etc. Essentially no red flags.
I lift, work on myself, have a good job, get attention from other women (and my LTR knows it), but this guy’s SMV is clearly higher than mine.
She’s mentioned him to me a few times, each time commenting on his height and size. To show the ‘difference in height’ compared to her, she showed me a pic of them standing together at a work party.
I recognised this as a shit test, so just nodded at the picture and moved the conversation on (any comments on a better reaction here would be appreciated).
How do I deal with the fact that she hangs out with and could be attracted to her male co-workers, especially this guy she’s befriended?
Obviously confronting and revealing my jealousy / insecurity is a big no, but the internal conflict is real. So how can I make peace?