What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?

Kara__El · 2019-12-10T22:55:59+00:00

Your time and resources on the dating market are finite. Get over your insistence that he must be over 6' tall, when you're 5'5". Go out with the guy with the receding hairline or no master's degree or the facial hair you don't love, because you're dating actual humans, not cardboard cutouts. You will run out of desirable options if you don't give real people a chance.

throwawayx134 · 2019-12-10T22:20:42+00:00

Embracing femininity! I'm more in tune with my feelings and am overall happier with my self image.

sometimesibritney · 2019-12-10T22:23:57+00:00

Stop the hamstering (overthinking). I overthink so often and I create my own disasters. RPW has definitely made me realize that I do this and to just stop it. I have the control over my thoughts and emotions.

PreciousMuffn · 2019-12-11T00:03:36+00:00

That there really are differences between men and women and that it’s ok (and natural) to let the man lead.

I used to semi-jokingly tell people my ex husband and I fought for the alpha dog title. I also couldn’t imagine having to defer to him or feel like “because he’s a man he’s automatically in the right,” etc. My ex tended to treat me like a “bro” and I didn’t know how to alter my demeanor to be more feminine. We split after 10 years of marriage because of some issues on his end, but I do believe a part of our demise was rooted in this problem. He desired more femininity, and I desired him to be more of a leader I could respect, but neither of us knew how to do that with each other after so much time.

I found myself pleasantly surprised upon finding two men that actually embody more traditional mindsets and I feel like a completely different person. I no longer feel those power struggles and respect my fiancé immensely.

ragnarockette · 2019-12-10T23:32:34+00:00

STFU when he’s driving.

tequilathehun · 2019-12-10T22:16:04+00:00

A reminder that men willing to put in effort will chase, and not to chase after men who won’t put in any effort.

Also, just the general focus on self-improvement in both who you are and your role as a woman in the world :) I feel like rpw has taught me how to be softer, more accommodating, and more self-respecting.

misscleanex · 2019-12-11T12:08:32+00:00

Maybe this hasn't changed my life because I still fully struggle with this, but it will change my life significantly for the best once I finally get over it: submitting isn't your idea of what you think submitting is and then expecting your partner to take the lead the way you want. Submitting is actually submitting to him and allowing him to take the lead the way he wants to.

Understanding that I do this and not doing it are two separate things. Sometimes I find areas of my relationship where I do this horribly and I don't even realize it until the hamster has gotten me riled up and angry.

fosho_away · 2019-12-10T23:26:40+00:00

Seems counterintuitive but being more discriminating about vetting. I used to indiscriminately submit, which led me to getting frustrated with men who don’t lead, or ones who aren’t fit to lead. I like that RPW encourages us to have high standards for ourselves but also seek the same in our captains so we don’t stew in the unhealthy drive to change them.

2019-12-10T22:18:03+00:00

A lot is STFU and be grateful for the luxuries I enjoy in my life that I used to take for granted. I’m so much better at counting my blessings and verbally expressing them to my husband.

katwithclass · 2019-12-12T06:36:55+00:00

Two gold nuggets:

•A relationship // a man is a bonus to my life, not a necessity.

•Effort is the best indicator of interest.

Thanks to all of you contributors who have positively impacted my life with your wisdom!!

PwincessStepford · 2019-12-11T01:30:30+00:00

Stop being a slut because riding the CC isn’t fulfilling

pearlsandstilettos · 2019-12-11T01:28:42+00:00

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lilasbaby2 · 2019-12-13T16:02:05+00:00

I would love to read more about this concept. Could you provide a link to the resources?

Title	What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?
Author	Maybelowsmv
Upvotes	46
Comments	30
Date	December 10, 2019 9:54 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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