I’m the type who will normally do the dishes when they’re there or do the laundry if I have the chance because I enjoy living in a clean and tidy home. My wife however won’t seem to care most days and if I ask her to throw loads of laundry in, it’s usually met with a grumble and an exasperated sigh - even if it’s the only thing I’ve asked her to do all week. She might say something about being busy with work that day or something (she works from home here and there) which I know to be complete BS as most days she ends up watching Netflix with her laptop open.

Do I continue to own my shit around the house without her owning hers? Leaving it feels passive aggressive to me. Appreciate any insight from the more seasoned members who might be in a similar situation - both of us working full time, etc.