This evening my wife gave me a letter telling me she has spent $9k for an online class to help her communicate with me. I’m considering divorce. I was not considering divorce before I got the letter. We are far from poor but she has just completed a masters program that I paid for and only works part time. I work a lot. She’s not a good communicator. She did this behind my back. And took out a credit card just to do it. We have two small children. I’m very frugal and this is against what I stand for from the stand point of doing it behind my back and the cost. Thoughts?
Update: Thanks for all your responses. I’m obviously ashamed she wasn’t able to speak with me about this before doing it and there is work to be done there. It’s also by most definitions a scam as it’s an 8 course with some follow up. She’s done a couple weeks and I do have to say I’m impressed by her expression of commitment to me, it’s something that I’ve always seen in her though. I’m not sure if we should call AMEX and dispute the transaction, any thoughts there would be appreciated. One thing that’s always bothered me in her and I relationship is that she feels she has to be the ‘safety net’ when I try take the family in certain direction. Little things like pushing nap time to big things like buying a farm and building a tiny house. She’s got a great family but mom is more the earner and she’s been with some leech guys. She really expressed how I’ve only shown her that I can be trusted and she does, but it’s a change of mindset for her. She offered unprompted to follow me on several things that I had been letting lie. Thanks again for everyone response and word of caution to other posters lots of comments are attacking and extrapolate far beyond reasonable, sometimes they hit truth sometimes they don’t read and make your own decisions just like everything in life.