I've been seeing different women casually but would like to have an exclusive girlfriend soon. Problem is , I've been operating like this ('spinning plates" as the red pill community would say) for as long as I can remember and pretty immersed in the red pill teachings. However a lot of the Red pill concepts like "minimizing non sexual interactions/time spent with women" or "being unavailable/aloof" don't work well with the mindsets needed to have a relationship. When I attempt to say for example show a bit of interest in a girl or hang out with a girl that I'm seeing outside of "just drinks and sex" my red pill conditioning kicks in and I think that I'm doing something wrong and the girl is going to [lose interest, become less submissive, become less attracted to me, etc. ] and my brain looks for examples to confirm this in my past. How can I change my mindset?