How do you figure out who YOU really are?

dannyluxNstuff · 2019-09-20T02:45:37+00:00

It doesn't come overnight. I was an opiate addict from 18-28 (36 now). That first year sober was rough, so many emotions and insecurities I hadn't felt in a long time. After being on drugs for such a long time you will want everything fixed right away but sorry to tell you it will take years and it's an ongoing process. Just stay clean and focus on fixing the tangibles and discovering yourself with come with time.

expansion420 · 2019-09-20T05:23:23+00:00

I think the Answer is complicated and ongoing. Shortly the answer lies in the divine nature of whatever it is that created this never ending acid trip of a life. Although it starts with research, open-mindedness, asking question, acceptance, strength, and mostly a serious attempt to seek the truth above all else. Slowly shedding the mass amounts of built up lies that make up your belief system. It takes a strong person to realize and accept the Insane amount of deception. It’s not easy to accept the fact that you and most humans on earth have been misled,manipulated,misled,inslaved, used, attacked, corrupted,poisoned, stolen from, and systematically the truth has been hidden from the masses. Most don’t have the mental strength to seek real truth. It’s safer to cling onto a lie and stay in a bubble. My bubble popped years ago and I have been falling down the rabbit while ever since. Who we are, the truth of who we really are is on my mind constantly. Who knows? If I had a guess I’d say we were created by God the creator who loves us and some way some how a divine fuck up created the obviously present force of evil. I feel these 2 forces are responsible for all we experience. Deeply I believe we humans are unclean sinful corrupted beings that need salvation. So my full faith is in Jesus Christ and I pray he spares my soul. Life’s a trip!

SuperMuffin · 2019-09-20T10:45:15+00:00

First step is observation and acceptance.

Due to completely different circumstances, I was in the exact same boat until the beginning of this year. When I learned, at age 28, that I was autistic. And then everything made sense. Things that are self evident to people are definitely not self evident to me; things that make people happy, don't make me happy, and vice versa; and most importantly, people that are not like me have no idea what they're doing and you should thus take their advice with a grain of salt. And somehow, I think that's applicable to a lot of social outsiders. It doesn't matter the difference, there IS a difference if you don't feel like you belong or have identity issues.

So the first step is finding the difference or better said, getting to know who you are, not who you should be.

Observe the feelings in your life. What kind of feelings arise in what situations? What's your programming as a human, so to speak? It doesn't matter what you like or don't like about yourself in that process, you'll decide that later. Meditate. Stop the "I should" mentality completely. Stop judging yourself completely. No emotional processing of your inner workings, just rational observation of what is. In order to "fix" yourself to be content, you first gotta see what you're working with and judging yourself is a bigger obstacle to that than people realise.

Once you find yourself, you'll be best equipped to know how to go from there. That, or a therapist, it doesn't matter really. But I find that most identity issues are caused by people following rules that are not their own and striving for goals that are not their own and getting frustrated in the process, because it's not what brings them satisfaction.

boardgaming234 · 2019-09-20T15:24:05+00:00

Most NT heterosexual dudes live life like this:

Work the 9-5 jive
Go home after work and watch the same movies, play video games
Hang out with the same old friends during the weekends

They don't actually live life consciously. There's nothing inherently wrong with this sort of lifestyle, but what makes you different? Who are you? Why do you like the music that you like? Why do you like or dislike science? Do you enjoy art? These are all question that you should be asking yourself. Live with an opinion.

All our lives, we put on a performance for others. There's this feminist idea that "we perform our gender". In a way, this is true for life in general. We try to hold the same opinions as other people. We think having in opinion is as easy as stuff like:

"Dude, did you watch the Superbowl last night. It was rad".

"Superman is awesome".

"I hate sushi".

Without actually well, thinking about why we have those kinds of opinions. Without understanding WHO WE ARE. Thinking such just so we can have an opinion, and fit in with people who have the same opinions. To be pleasant to people. To not be rejected. To protect out ego. To never be hated.

To know oneself, you have to get rid of this mindset that you are going to be liked by everyone. You are trying to be WHO YOU REALLY ARE. Not trying to be "pleasant", you are not performing anymore. Be introspective, how are you feeling and why do you feel like that? Your emotions will reveal so much more about yourself than any external forces.

When you can confidently say that "you are different" with just the way you dress, move and speak, you know that you have reconnected with yourself. And this is all it really means to understand who you are. When you are truthful to yourself and others about who you are, you will naturally be comfortable with any sort of rejection from the external world. Here's an example of how to be fully oneself without coming off as creepy, rude, needy, etc.

I'm a hard determinist. This is my central dogma. I believe that if you want optimal people, you need optimal environments to create these optimal people. I can easily forgive other people, because I understand that human agency is an illusion. I support most social programs.

Naturally, I do not click well with many types of people. Religious folk hate me because they think god is what gives us free well, right wing libertarians hate me because free will is central to their belief system, and some inter-sectional feminists hate my true self because my belief system invalidates gender fluidity somewhat. I have also been called a bio reductionist as well.

I just don't care. These people are nothing to me. When they insult me or put me down, I don't care. Why would I care? They are never going to make me afraid of having my opinion. And that's the end of it.

CYBERPOLICEBACKTRACE · 2019-09-23T18:36:00+00:00

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Title	How do you figure out who YOU really are?
Author	TrenGod37
Upvotes	13
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Date	September 20, 2019 2:05 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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